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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 8:35:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07
So Jeff, what You are saying is that anyone can come on here and for no reason insult you, call you names, attact you and try to demean you and make you feel bad when you have done nothing to them and it's ok, because it's their view point?

i'm not trying to start a pissing match here (although there are sure the makings for one) However, no one not even Him can make me feel anything...i choose who i give power to and what feelings i allow myself to feel....Damn, OP, You sure give a lot of strangers power...

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 8:49:17 PM

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So Jeff, what You are saying is that anyone can come on here and for no reason insult you, call you names, attact you and try to demean you and make you feel bad when you have done nothing to them and it's ok, because it's their view point?

For example"

Some one writes a post: i live in dallas and my Master just left. i'm feeling sad. Does anyone have any words of encouragement for me to help me out?

Response:

Get over it! You're a loser. You sound so pathectic. get a life and stop whinning.

That response is ok because it's the poster's point of view and the poster's right to attack another human being who is asking sincerely for help and reaching out?

Good example OP. I've seen similar posts and they honesly made me think twice about sharing my thoughts and opinions.

girly

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 8:53:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07
So Jeff, what You are saying is that anyone can come on here and for no reason insult you, call you names, attact you and try to demean you and make you feel bad when you have done nothing to them and it's ok, because it's their view point?

i'm not trying to start a pissing match here (although there are sure the makings for one) However, no one not even Him can make me feel anything...i choose who i give power to and what feelings i allow myself to feel....Damn, OP, You sure give a lot of strangers power...

Kalista, I realize that no one "makes us feel" anything... We allow them to impact us both in a positive and negitive way.... unfortunately I haven't won that battle yet, but I'm workin on it.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:01:12 PM

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You might want to search the op's posts and go read them while you are biting your tongue. A little insight into how this self-serving thread came about would be beneficial to forming an opinion.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:02:07 PM

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girly, please it's not worth it. i didn't even read it. Any reply to it would just fuel her fire and bring others like her to this thread. i don't want that. It would take away from all the womnderful responses that most of you gave,

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:02:22 PM

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You might want to search the op's posts and go read them while you are biting your tongue. A little insight into how this self-serving thread came about would be beneficial to forming an opinion.

thank you laurell will do.

girly

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:04:01 PM

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You might want to search the op's posts and go read them while you are biting your tongue. A little insight into how this self-serving thread came about would be beneficial to forming an opinion.

thank you laurell will do.

girly

yes, listen to laurell, she is very smart.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:04:44 PM

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isn't it sad, and have you also noticed that a lot of those good people no longer post here? if all the good people leave. What will happen to these boards.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:05:59 PM

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isn't it sad, and have you also noticed that a lot of those good people no longer post here? if all the good people leave. What will happen to these boards.

ROFL yeah you're right none of the people here are "good" because they have minds......grow up and pull your head out of fantasy land. You are no better than anyone else here, in fact worse because you are a hypocrit.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:12:42 PM

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isn't it sad, and have you also noticed that a lot of those good people no longer post here? if all the good people leave. What will happen to these boards.

ROFL yeah you're right none of the people here are "good" because they have minds......grow up and pull your head out of fantasy land. You are no better than anyone else here, in fact worse because you are a hypocrit.

laurell, isn't it truly amazing just how blind people can be about themselves? she just cannot see herself; it is laughable. Yeah, the only "good" people in her world would be those who agree with her narrow little mind and who post with sweetness and light and never give anyone honest information or replies with any sense.

and god help anyone who tries to display any humor, or dare I say it, sarcasm, which can only be construed as being nasty and bitter.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:13:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

You might want to search the op's posts and go read them while you are biting your tongue. A little insight into how this self-serving thread came about would be beneficial to forming an opinion.

thank you laurell will do.

girly

yes, listen to laurell, she is very smart.

sexyred and laurell..... ok I'll keep my mouth shut and stop typing without reading

i read both your posts here and there and you both have lots of good insight... but I really don't wanna read all those from the OP (I have a terrible attention span)

but i still think my actions are a reflection of my Sir so there

LOL (just being silly)

girly

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:16:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: girlygurl

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

You might want to search the op's posts and go read them while you are biting your tongue. A little insight into how this self-serving thread came about would be beneficial to forming an opinion.

thank you laurell will do.

girly

yes, listen to laurell, she is very smart.

sexyred and laurell..... ok I'll keep my mouth shut and stop typing without reading i read both your posts here and there and you both have lots of good insight... but I really don't wanna read all those from the OP (I have a terrible attention span)

but i still think my actions are a reflection of my Sir so there LOL (just being silly)

girly

thanks girly, all anyone can ask for is someone who actually takes the time to look at a situation and see all sides. some people can only view things from their own narrow perspective.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:17:27 PM

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Well she has the right to her opinion that she believes others are rude and she's not alone in it. However, her comments about their lack of a partner, their unsubmissiveness, their upbringing and all the other backhanded allegedly "nice" slams to anyone that doesn't post the way she deems appropriate are worse than the people she is complaining about.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:19:59 PM

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I agree with you. I have already said that the worst crime to me is being hypocritical and she demonstrates that time and time again in the way she posts.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:29:02 PM

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dew tee dew.... i'm already bored..... but hey, i learned a valuable lesson tonight. If I'm going to bother to post... I'm gonna post with an informed thought. weeeeeeeee I'm thinkin a hot bath and a naughty book is in order.

girly

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:31:20 PM

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i want to thank everyone who took the time to write sincere, friendly and insightful posts on here and to all the people who sent me private messages. Beautiful kind letters. Some of you sent me PM because you didn't want to be attacted. i'm so sorry it has to be that way. i have been busy answering you all. This will be my last post on this thread unless it's another thank you to someone. For the thread has been swarmed by termmites and you know the damage they can do. Thatwas not a slam. It's just a sad reality.

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:33:29 PM

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i must of hit the wrong reply button. iwasn't replying to one particular poster, but to everyone. Sorry

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:48:23 PM

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Dear takenbyjohn07, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I would prefer viewing someone's behavior--regardless of role; e.g. Dominant or submissive and or Switch-- is a reflection of their individual selves before they are a reflection on or of another person. People must understand all behavior choices begin within.

That said -- I would hope that I would never have in my company and or in my personal collar, a person who has a 'potty' mouth. If they do, they do have an option to have a behavior modification and an attitude adjustment--otherwise, they are welcome to leave without my collar and find someone who will tolerate their 'potty' mouth. I realize there will be slips however, I do not like a flow in conversation to which spews foul language.

As for the remaining questions -- there could/can/would/might/will be many reasons and or excuses as to why individuals behave as they will. They are adults and must be responsibile for their own attitudes and behavior which reflects upon them. I am only responsible for my own conduct, behavior and attitude and hope to inspire others into change. Only those who 'want' to change will do so. Restrictions 'in house' and or in 'the Master's presence' is only a means to replace one habit with another, in regard to behavior, attitude and choice of speaking.

Furthermore, I do feel that slaves, servants and or submissives 'do' have the right to speak their minds however; in all situations there are ways to communicate such in a tactful manner and without the need of vulgar language or uncloaked insults. But, I also will say--that before a Dominant takes a 'better then thou' stance and judge submissives for behavior, attitude and choice of words--they best be the epitome of good standards in behavior, attitude and or the choices of words used. I really get bent when Dominants hold a lower standard then they do of their slave's/submissive's/servant's. I am old fashioned I suppose; as Dominants should always be the solid lead in good manners and behave accordingly, as to inspire others to do the same. This does not hinge on the Dominant having a slave/submissive/servant or not. In my early exposure within the lifestyle this was the normal--today, it seems extremely hard to find.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 9:52:12 PM

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I KNOW my actions reflect on Sir.. He told me.. lol.. but even if He didn't I wear a symbol around my neck that says that I represent Him... I am proud to be His and I would HATE to have anyone say "oh, she is YOUR girl" He would let me know that He was NOT happy...lol... In fact when I post on here I know that there is a chance that He will read it. But, even if He was not on the site. I would still be prepared for my words to be read by Him. I love to make Him proud of me!

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RE: Behavior - 12/16/2007 10:01:32 PM

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WOW! Two beautiful and thoughtful posts. Thank (Y)you both so very much

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