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illawarraMaster -> young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/25/2007 8:45:46 PM)

I am very interested in knowing how many young Master/Dom(s) here have sub/slave(s), as i am a Master/Dom who has been classified as "young" and would like to know how many of us have someone to Dominate no matter if they are younger or older than them



HardnRuff -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/25/2007 8:50:08 PM)

I Myself find a young Man yet to have Mastered Himself let alone another , just My opinon



TheScrivener -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/25/2007 10:34:37 PM)

Being an aspiring Dominant isn't particularly easy.  Sometimes it is quite difficult to find someone interested in someone in their early 20's - especially when that someone looks like they can barely get into an R movie.  I'm not speaking in hypotheticals here...I still get carded.  [:@]

I don't know that much about you (Your profile tells very, very little about you as a person - if you'd like to meet more people, that would be a wonderful place to start renovating), so I can't hope to fully understand your situation.  I'll give it a shot.

HardnRuff makes a valid point.  You must have control and understanding over yourself before you can ever hope to have control of another human being.  At the very least, you need to be on the right track - putting your life together in the right way.  Keep in mind that the profile you put forth here (Along with the way you choose to present yourself via forum posting) is all a part of one large marketing tool.  If you would like people to disregard your age in considering you as a potential match, then you should take the proper steps to make that number a non-factor.

Are you in college?  Do you have a degree?  Can you support a second person financially, if necessary?  There's no wrong answer to these kinds of questions, but there should be an answer.  You can send out letter after letter about how you'd like to cage a girl at the foot of your bed and use X toy and Y collar and yadda, yadda, yadda, but at the end of the day, people want to know the person that they are considering serving.

You have to remember that you're asking a lot out of a human being.  From the sounds of it, you are looking for a total exchange of power and choice.  There's nothing wrong with that, but it's not all whips and chains.  It's not a game.  If you present yourself as a young man who has his shit together, and can think about more than sex and kink, that's going to outweigh being a bit young to at least some of the people you cross paths with.

Also, spend a lot of time browsing profiles.  If you'd like to find a submissive that doesn't mind a 24 year old dominant - set up the filters for what you're interested in, and start reading.  Find someone who has your age within their range, (Or at the very least, doesn't specifically say they are looking for someone ten years older at minimum), and say hello.

I may be rambling, but the point is very similar to the simple one-liner that inspired my reply.

Master yourself, take charge of your life, and present yourself in the right manner.  If you do that, odds are you'll have pleasing results.



Darthtellectual -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/25/2007 10:46:03 PM)

Nicely put. Understanding yourself is only the first step. But until you know who you are, you cannot hope to work within the mind of another without causing real damage. If you're lucky they'll just think you're a jerk. If you are truely undisciplined, The rest of us get a bad name.
Safe, sane, consentual; that is how we do it here. There is no room for big egos and no experience



slyboots -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/25/2007 10:53:08 PM)

I had my share of sub/slaves. Right now I'm in the process of training my vanilla fuck buddy into being a nice fuck slave. It's a hard thing being a dom that is young since you don't usually get the respect you ask for. Many will tell you hwo can you dom when you can't even drink?! While a you'll get a lot of that, you'll find that many understand whats it like. I've found many a slave and doms who have messaged me not to give up and keep on working. Because in the end, every dom/master on this site was 20 years old too.



CalifChick -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/25/2007 11:27:18 PM)

Very nice, Scriv, very nice indeed.  [sm=applause.gif]

Cali



CuriousLord -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/25/2007 11:32:51 PM)

I'm afraid exact numbers on just about anything in this lifestyle are difficult to come by.  Still, if you're curious if younger Dominants exist with complimentary submissives?  Yes, certainly; nor do I believe such are a rare breed.



Exquemelin -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 12:17:06 AM)

Well if 24 counts(and since the OP is 24 I guess it does) then I qualify. I own a beautiful young sub, whom I care deeply for. We're still relatively early in our relationship but so far it's going well.  *blows her a kiss*  Ex



ReynardM -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 12:20:50 AM)

I am 23 and have no actual experience in the lifestyle. I'm curious about this age issue as well, since when looking around online to find info about local groups, it seemed that all the members were substantially older.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 12:28:15 AM)

there's groups specifically for younger generation from 19 to 30's. Generation X is one I believe and there's some out there try finding out if there's any youth / younger generation orientend groups in your area.
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ORIGINAL: ReynardM

I am 23 and have no actual experience in the lifestyle. I'm curious about this age issue as well, since when looking around online to find info about local groups, it seemed that all the members were substantially older.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 12:33:09 AM)

btw respect is typically earned, it isn't demanded.
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ORIGINAL: slyboots

It's a hard thing being a dom that is young since you don't usually get the respect you ask for.




ownedkitten -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 12:37:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss
there's groups specifically for younger generation from 19 to 30's. Generation X is one I believe and there's some out there try finding out if there's any youth / younger generation orientend groups in your area.


The OP might try checking for a "The Next Generation" (TNG) group in his area.



alayzo -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 1:06:57 AM)

Im also 25 years old young dom and looking for any group or parties in Dubai even people i met here in my same place scared , you can imagine how hard to feel free for this life style in middle east area

wish you all happy new year

Regards
Alayzo



Guilty1974 -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 2:01:17 AM)

Well, I was 25 when I started I guess. Never ran into much trouble. There's a lot of submissive girls here who don't mind a young master who goes slowly and carefully  and isn't an instant expert at everything straight away. I know quite a few Doms under 25 who know what they are doing too.

I've run into the occasional Older Dom who seemed a bit jealous, but hey, just don't let yourself be intimidated by that (or seek out a TNG group). Often these were Dominants whose main quality was being older, not even much more experienced. I've seen a lot of 40yo's scared of attending their first meeting just the sam,

It's rather the really experienced Doms that I've always found to respect younger people on their path and to be willing to help them in any way possible.



BlackWolfSwitch -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 9:21:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: illawarraMaster

I am very interested in knowing how many young Master/Dom(s) here have sub/slave(s), as i am a Master/Dom who has been classified as "young" and would like to know how many of us have someone to Dominate no matter if they are younger or older than them


Have someone to dominate? Not completely, no.
Have -had- someone to dominate? I've been through two R/T submissives.
 
I will also add that the post made by 'TheScrivener' is very accurate in my opinion... both in principle, and in the fact that I can relate quite well to his explaination. It's a bitch even for those younger ones that know what they're doing, though no contest to the newbies on difficulty of things.
 
"Live and learn, and die still searching for knowledge."
Another two cents,
The Wolf



AquaticSub -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 11:26:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: illawarraMaster

I am very interested in knowing how many young Master/Dom(s) here have sub/slave(s), as i am a Master/Dom who has been classified as "young" and would like to know how many of us have someone to Dominate no matter if they are younger or older than them


I am quite happily owned by a young dominant.



SlaveOwnerDave -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 12:24:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Guilty1974
I've run into the occasional Older Dom who seemed a bit jealous, but hey, just don't let yourself be intimidated by that (or seek out a TNG group). Often these were Dominants whose main quality was being older, not even much more experienced. I've seen a lot of 40yo's scared of attending their first meeting just the same.

I am an "Older Dom"
Let's see... How could I feel jealous of someone with thirty more years ahead of Him than I, someone who is better looking, someone who is stronger, and someone who doesn't snap, crackle, and pop when He moves? I just can't see why...?

Frankly, if I were to become upset about this, then I am not a good Master. A good Master--or, what is a good Master by My values--deals with what exists. I am sure many men see My photo and wonder why someone My age has long hair, and someone their age has only a little hair left to him.

My hair being long did not make yours fall out, and your youth (etc.) did not come at My expense. A Master should have the brainpower to understand this, and not be weird about something He has absolutely zero chance of changing!

What is good about an older Master--or Owner, as I am--is His life experience. "Life experience" means one has been through horrible situations and come out the stronger for it. I once told a friend, "Life experience is great, I guess, but I would rather have less experience and more life!"

My suspicion is these "Older Dom"s went through their lives without picking up any experience. Or maybe they just need to develop more.

I have been studying Myself since 1972, so I understand Myself very well, now. Saint Nietzsche, That which does not kill you makes you stronger, being My Patron Saint.

Dealing with a slave's problems is relatively easy for Me, My having been there. Also, I have the emotional stability necessary to keeping Us both under Control while the situation is being resolved.

As for feeling jealous, how about this: Long hair, big beard, nice build, ninety-nine decimal ninety-two percentile intelligence, one hundred percent Dominant, alpha male, taught Myself electronics engineering, excellent hearing... Must I go on?

Almost everyone has some desirable qualities someone else is lacking. That is just the way it is. Getting jealous over something which cannot be changed is nutso. IMO

Just keep improving Yourself, and take to heart something I learned thirty years ago: What I do can be OK, even though everyone else thinks/does otherwise!

Being Dominant is a good thing. I was Dominant--and therefore uncontrollable--when I was six years old! Maybe earlier.

But Dominance is good only if Ethics are directing the expression of that Dominance! Ethics--learned from My mother--is what made Me into a fine Man!

I apologize for the rant, but I hope it helps someone!
Master Dave



Guilty1974 -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 12:41:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SlaveOwnerDave

My suspicion is these "Older Dom"s went through their lives without picking up any experience. Or maybe they just need to develop more.


Quite right I think. And in my experience, it's mainly these "Older Dom's" that are rude towards younger people, treat younger Doms with disdain and treat younger subs like prey. As I said, the really experienced Older Doms in my experience tend to treat the young with respect and instead of being rude are willing to share their wisdom.



chellekitty -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 1:32:07 PM)

i would love to have a Master my own age...however, it is very rare to find a single Master my own age that is compatable with me in all areas (why aren't there more Sadistic Daddy Masters - not just Doms - who want children and are animal lovers...) that i would not have to "train" myself...i am a slave...i don't identify with any part of the "top half" of the spectrum, i don't get into training with my partners, i'll do it as a service outside of a sexual relationship or at the comand of my [theoretical] Master, but not as part of the relationship dynamic...i have 6 years of real life experience, i'm way past the "learn together from scratch" point...i would not mind if this theoretical Master were to learn from others, but the ego of most men in their early 20's tells them that they can do it all by themselves, and they certainly are not going to ask another man for help...so with these results...i often don't get beyond the first hour of conversation with Doms in their 20's...

not sure if this has helped...perhaps a "what not to do" guide, if anything...

good luck
chelle



digitalsky -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/26/2007 1:56:48 PM)

I identify myself as a dominant, but I will be the first to say that there is a LOT to learn. But I tend to agree with the the Scriv, that you have to work that much harder at building your image, because, well, this is the internet, and any personal charisma that you might have in real life doesnt translate very well. But inexperience certainly does. So the question is, how to gain experience if no one is willing to play because of your lack of experience?



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