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Sorry - 1/4/2008 11:33:37 AM   
Hislonewatchspet


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Status: offline 		Can someone please tell me... how to say you are sorry to your Master when they wont listen.  It is very hard for me and I need some advice....
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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 11:43:51 AM   
MistressNoName


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Status: offline 		Just like that..."I'm sorry." Sure you can embellish and elaborate, "I'm so very sorry," "I'm sincerely sorry," and so forth. You can get on your knees and beg forgiveness. You can write a heart-felt letter, etc. But ultimately, it is up to the hearer of the apology to judge the sincerity of the apologizer and/or decide whether to accept the apology, continue the relationship or to move on. You can't make your Master forgive you. Doesn't matter how many ways you apologize or in how many languages. You'll just have to wait for his response.


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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 11:48:14 AM   
PlomariSeraphim


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Status: offline 		I agree with MistressNoName but I'd also like to point out it depends on the situation. There are some things that no apology can ever fix, no matter how sincere it is. Not suggesting you've done something that can't be fixed, just pointing it out. Only thing you can do is say it, mean it, and hope he'll listen. Hope things work out for you.

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 11:49:36 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I think you should write a long apology.  Post it in this thread.  Send him the link.

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 11:55:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Hislonewatchspet

Can someone please tell me... how to say you are sorry to your Master when they wont listen.  It is very hard for me and I need some advice....


i certainly understand the anguish of displeasing one's Master. However, like anything He will do what He will do. If He won't listen, what can anyone else do? i think you need to accept that perhaps He just needs time to process things.

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 11:57:15 AM   
Cherish1102


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Status: offline 		Also keep in mind... I, as a Mistress, sometimes punish my subs by ignoring them (if what they have done is serious enough). Perhaps your Master feels that you need the punishement of being denied his attentions until you are fully aware of what you have done and why/how it upset him. I would suggest writing him a letter. Much more personal than sending him a link. (In my opinion, anyway.)
good luck.

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 11:59:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Hislonewatchspet

Can someone please tell me... how to say you are sorry to your Master when they wont listen...


wait until Master will listen, if ever, and say it then.

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:04:28 PM   
Hislonewatchspet


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your words of advice....

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:05:23 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Some people prefer actions to words, try putting forward the actions that show that you are sorry and forget saying it unless at some point he desires to hear it.

Ask him how you can show your contrition.

My Daddy wants me to show how sorry  I am, words mean nothing without the action.... just my experience

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:05:50 PM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I think you should write a long apology.  Post it in this thread.  Send him the link.

We can all learn from it then......good idea

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:07:24 PM   
verysweet


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ORIGINAL: Hislonewatchspet

Can someone please tell me... how to say you are sorry to your Master when they wont listen.  It is very hard for me and I need some advice....


Is it that you can't get him to take your call, answer the door bell, read your email?  Or is it that he's listened to your apology but doesn't accept it?

I agree with slavemaia -- maybe he's still working through the issue. I've learned that not everyone, my Master included, can work through issues at the speed I am able to.  Patience is a hard thing to master.

Another thing I've learned:  a sincere apology is not given with the expectation the wronged party will accept it.



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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:08:54 PM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		It depends upon the situation and what happened.   Some things are minor, but if it is something big that you did wrong, you may have to wait for a while until he is willing to listen.
During this time period, it is a good way to evaulate the relationship and yourself.  There may be a need to change some things.
Good luck.
 
Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:12:44 PM   
slavemaia


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ORIGINAL: Cherish1102

I, as a Mistress, sometimes punish my subs by ignoring them (if what they have done is serious enough).


 Ouch, the worst, i mean worst punishment for this slave.

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:14:56 PM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: Hislonewatchspet

Can someone please tell me... how to say you are sorry to your Master when they wont listen.  It is very hard for me and I need some advice....

I feel that if he is your Master and indeed mastering you then he knows already that you feel sorry and he knows already that you are struggling how to say so. Ignoring you is much more of a fix. I feel that if he were to listen then you would feel that had fixed the issue.  I feel saying sorry never really fixes the issue it just makes the s type feel better. Which is not really fixing the issue.
I also feel that what you are going through now is actually fixing the issue better than just saying sorry.
(I got dismissed some weeks later, by which time I had forgotten why. When I sincerely asked why had I been dismissed He said because two weeks ago you lipped back and you simply don't know how to be nice.........I also was kept waiting for five hours, much like a scene fron the Secretary and that was because He knew how much I wanted to be with Him......but of course it is not just about what I want).
Is this just about your need to say sorry?????

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:17:33 PM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I think you should write a long apology.  Post it in this thread.  Send him the link.


Include specific details. Maybe some pictures.

Masters love to be called out on the fora.

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:18:53 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I think you should write a long apology.  Post it in this thread.  Send him the link.


Include specific details. Maybe some pictures.

Masters love to be called out on the fora.

Taggard



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< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 1/4/2008 12:19:09 PM >

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:20:18 PM   
KatyLied


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Include specific details. Maybe some pictures.

Masters love to be called out on the fora.


Well, okay, maybe Masters don't love it.  But we do!


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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:26:13 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		To the OP perhaps give your "D" type some time...BUT if your "D" type is withdrawing and ignoring you as a "punishment" I personally would RUN not walk away from that type of person .Someone in another thread said about such behavior ... "thats not how a Dom/Domme acts...thats how a weak, spiteful person acts."

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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:28:53 PM   
justheather


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To the OP perhaps give your "D" type some time...BUT if your "D" type is withdrawing and ignoring you as a "punishment" I personally would RUN not walk away from that type of person .Someone in another thread said about such behavior ... "thats not how a Dom/Domme acts...thats how a weak, spiteful person acts."


Maybe that's how the D type person in a relationship with an s type who gets off on any other kind of "punishment" (rendering it not punishment at all) acts when he really intends to punish.
We really don't know, now, do we?




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RE: Sorry - 1/4/2008 12:31:53 PM   
breatheasone


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ORIGINAL: justheather


quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

To the OP perhaps give your "D" type some time...BUT if your "D" type is withdrawing and ignoring you as a "punishment" I personally would RUN not walk away from that type of person .Someone in another thread said about such behavior ... "thats not how a Dom/Domme acts...thats how a weak, spiteful person acts."


Maybe that's how the D type person in a relationship with an s type who gets off on any other kind of "punishment" (rendering it not punishment at all) acts when he really intends to punish.
We really don't know, now, do we?




No...sorry i stand by what i said....


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