MissMorrigan
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Disregarding a person's limits is different than pushing them, and should not be compared to principles. When Reality first came to me he had a list of limits. I was honest with him upfront and told him that in time, once I had gained his trust, we would eventually work through those in order that those limits became curiosities and when we were faced with those hard limits, we'd work with the fears that put them there in the first place. That doesn't meantosay I disregarded his limits, on the contrary, I respected him MORE than to allow him to have a private box of fears within our relationship. There is no area of his life I don't have access to and thankfully he was able to see that I had his best interests at heart to proceed, and as a result, we have a fulfilling relationship (that is not to say that I am of the opinion that others, that have limits, are in unfulfilling ones). What led us to this point in time - communication, understanding and patience, in bucketloads. Edited to add: While I know this is in the Ask a Submissive/Slave section, I thought my perspective may be helpful.
< Message edited by MissMorrigan -- 1/6/2008 3:47:20 AM >
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