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New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 6:31:06 PM   
dogobedience


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Status: offline 		I enjoy CM growing. New tools and functions, they make this site better.  

As the internet explodes it brings more people to the BDSM world. Some are passing through, some have found a home and others are fll in the blank.

Public circle of friends. I see these circles everywhere. For me the primary application is to create a circle of likeminded people who share this lifestyle in some form. Since I and kali are looking to extend our family it also serves as a place for others to gain a different perspective on who we are. You, the new person can simply speak to someone who knows the person in question (hopefully the existing friend  knows you face to face).   

People who think alike are often friends.There is also an intangable that happens to bring others together. Whatever the reason you become  friends.

I do see good and bad in providing public lists aswell.

What do you see as a benefit and as a possible pit fall in these circles? I will state more of my reasons as replies happen.    

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 6:35:05 PM   
justheather


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Status: offline 		Someone Ive never met/emailed/talked to/heard of just tried today to add me to his "circle of friends". I had never known about this function until then. I doubt I will be using it and I most certainly won't be adding perfect strangers to it.
The people here who are my friends come to my home and break bread with me. We have one another's phone numbers and know each others' UMs names. I dont need a list to keep track of them.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 6:37:53 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		They may have hit that button by accident depending on their screen size. 

to the OP.  I am not sure how the friends list will be used so I'm not sure who (if anyone) I want on it

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 6:40:46 PM   
justheather


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quote:

ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

They may have hit that button by accident depending on their screen size. 




That is possible.
It is also possible that people are using the function much in the same way that people use the "friends list" on yahoo messenger... sending a request as a matter of course when then find someone they think they might like to know as opposed to getting to know the person first and then asking if they may add them to their list.
Maybe it's a generational thing, but I find it distasteful.


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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 6:46:05 PM   
BruisedHick


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Status: offline 		As an avid facebook user, I can say that the younger crowd will love the popularity contest side of it.  Who can get the most friends?

However, on a dating site, if I have someone I am interested in, and yet another Lady wants to add me, and then I want to add a third person as a friend and friend only.....  Seems like it'll cause some issues, no?

I, for one, will neither use it, nor allow others to add me as a friend.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 6:49:15 PM   
ta2dqt


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Status: offline 		I was wondering about this "circle of friends" also...........  I just got an invite, and I have never heard of it either.

How does one invite another? And where is it located? Is it like a "chat" group or something?

Would love more info also.


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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 6:55:18 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Same as any friend.  I simply caution people to wait- see who's still around, who is seriously there for you when things get rough and how they handle it.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:21:13 PM   
Arrrchibald


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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:22:47 PM   
sodsta


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Status: offline 		Hmmm, see... I'm actually rather amused by the new "circle of friends" function. It reminds me of LiveJournal and Facebook. I have to admit to being a bit of a compulsive F-list checker on LJ, but that's a completely different kettle of fish. I go there to be a kid; to talk about Harry Potter and how I totally pwned my friends on Wii sports - I come here to discuss adult topics in a mature environment. The idea of having a F-list on CM is actually quite hilarious, lol.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:26:40 PM   
Lordandmaster


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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:29:04 PM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		Really I do not see it as a big deal ...you can choose whether you want to accept the invites or not or delete ones you added, nothing is forcing you to accept invitations ... some may choose to invite you because they feel you have similiar views from reading the message boards,  or enjoy the advice you give, or they may have an attraction to you, maybe they enjoy chatting with you on chats, some people will enjoy as a new feature, others will  see it as a nuisance some will resist simply because they do not like change, some will take as an insult if people are not adding them as friends,   some will view it as a competition to collect the  most, others will see a /domsub with 20 or 30 fe/males and think she/he is easy target or make moral judgements or they may feel insecure because they figure they may not be worthy enough to contact that person or they may see a person in the friends lists that sparks a connections.  there can be as many pros to it as there are cons.   The biggest con that I see is when somebody is involved with someone and new friends get added, as it may cause jealousies to occur but that is for the individuals to work out between themselves

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:29:37 PM   
verysweet


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Status: offline 		B.com has a friends list as well.  I'm not certain what purpose it serves except to say, 'Hey!  Look who I hang out with'    It's visible when you view someone's profile. 

They only requests I've had so far on this site are from people I already know.  But yeah, I can see how the "facebook" and "myspace" crowd would enjoy it.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:29:55 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		I will add the ones that I truly talk to, the nameless ones that add themselves to admirers lists will not be accepted into the friends list...that's just me, but then again, although I have met subs and slaves here and had one living in My household, I am not looking and I am poly.  Therefore I have no worries about any hard feelings on others parts, unless of those that blindly hit add friend and I decline, but ah well. Everyone else's mileage may vary.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:33:41 PM   
dogobedience


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Status: offline 		I just noticed it today 01/07/2007. As some have stated, see who sticks around, them maybe add. 


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I hope I am an intellectual instigator, making people think and or laugh and nothing more.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:34:21 PM   
Daddysredhead


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm withholding judgment until I can determine whether it nets me more or less pussy than before.


You are so profound and systematic.  Kind of like the scientific method of kink.

~ giggles ~

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:34:44 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm withholding judgment until I can determine whether it nets me more or less pussy than before.


Hmm...picturing an elephant fucking a cat..... :)

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:38:12 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		  Oh no, that elephants on my friends page, rflmao...LAM, I'll help FIND you some pussy, but dont get any ideas from Greetop concerning my profile, lol!!!!!!

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:46:58 PM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm withholding judgment until I can determine whether it nets me more or less pussy than before.


That all depends on how many pity invites you send.

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 7:55:17 PM   
GreedyTop


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ORIGINAL: kc692

  Oh no, that elephants on my friends page, rflmao...LAM, I'll help FIND you some pussy, but dont get any ideas from Greetop concerning my profile, lol!!!!!!


*puts on my innocent face*

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RE: New public circle of friends, pros and cons - 1/7/2008 8:34:26 PM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop



quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692

  Oh no, that elephants on my friends page, rflmao...LAM, I'll help FIND you some pussy, but dont get any ideas from Greetop concerning my profile, lol!!!!!!


*puts on my innocent face*



I'm sorry I don't type worth a shit, I didn't mean to slaughter your nick!!!!!!

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