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mistoferin -> RE: The other side of the Rape Fantasy (1/9/2008 6:29:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: slavegirljoy
From the DC Rape Crisis Center(http://www.dcrcc.org/myths.htm)
Myths about Rape
Myth: “Rape is not a big deal; it is only sex.”
Fact: Rape is a big deal. It is a crime of dominance and control using sex to express power and anger. Sex is between two consenting partners, while rape is an aggressive act using sex as a weapon. To be raped is to be violated and stripped of control and self-determination.
Myth: “Men rape because they need sex.”
Fact: Men do not rape because they need a sexual partner. Men rape in order to humiliate and dominate a woman. In fact, 75% of men who rape are either married or have regular sexual partners.
Myth: “Men who rape other men are gay.”
Fact: Rape is an act of control and domination, whether the chosen victim is male or female. Rape is not a sexual act and it does not relate to sexual orientation.
slave joy
Owned property of Master David
It has been in my experience that these statistics given here hit fairly close to the mark. I do believe that there is a sexual component to rape but it is not the driving force. In all of my years of working closely with the subject matter I can't say that I have ever seen the statistics lean heavy on the side of sexual desire. The motivating factor is not libido. The reference to 75% percent of rapists being either partnered or having a sexual partner available is pretty accurate. If it were a simple libido issue, those partners would surely suffice. But the rapist isn't being motivated by a sexual need, he is being motivated by a need to dominate, humiliate and have power over another. Certainly sex is an underlying component. It is the tool he uses to accomplish his goal.
After my rape it became my life's calling to do what I could to figure out the reasons, to do whatever I could to bring it to a halt. I worked with hundreds of survivors. I worked with hundreds of perpetrators. I talked to them, I studied them and I questioned those who were willing to speak. I accompanied survivors to meet with groups of perpetrators in an attempt to find closure for them. All survivors have the same question they want answered. Why? And why me? Not once, not one single time did I hear any of them answer that it was because they were horny and couldn't get laid. Not once. The most common answer was because they "needed to control, to humiliate, to terrify and to hurt their victim". Their partners couldn't fill that need, so they went in search of someone vulnerable. They watched, they stalked, they CHOSE their victim based upon their vulnerability or unawareness of their surroundings.
Many rape victims suffer the worst of their physical injuries AFTER the sexual act is completed, not before. I know that was true in my own case, it was not until after they were through that the worst of the beating came.
I don't deny that sex is a motivating factor, but generally it's not about a hot body or a nice rack that leaves them with a burning desire. It's the vulnerability of the victim and the opportunity to take control, weild their power, see the fear and inflict emotional and physical pain that makes their dick stiff.
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