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Not sure - 1/12/2008 7:37:49 AM   
YoungGodess20


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First i want to say "hi" to everybody at collarme !
I am new here, and very interested in developing my own beeing.
From early childhood on, i had a very dominant personality. My mother could not handle me, so she sent me to a all girls school outside my country. There i had my first experiences with other woman (my classmate). I bossed her around and was clearly in charge. I hated my teacher (a 40 something old lady) and in my fantasy often dreamed about humiliating her, and making her my slut/slave. Now - out of school, i became a semi-pro soccer player and had my first slave girl last year. she was the team physican, and she was on my beck and call near 24/7. She left the team in November and so ME ... This was just the intro .... for a better understanding - maybe.
Now about my question:
Everything in my life seems to be very straight - me very dominant. And i got a lot of pleasure out of this! But .... sometimes i have a huge desire to be a slave by my own. Sometimes, when i dominat a girl, i wished she would take over .... that makes me very .... disconcert. Does anybody has experienced the same "problem" ? How did you solve that ?

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Petra
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RE: Not sure - 1/12/2008 9:07:00 AM   
Suleiman


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That's normal, sweetie. A lot of folks who are highly dominant in every other aspect of their lives want to set aside their burdens and let their lover take charge for a while. With a little care and attention, such individuals often make truly spectacular submissives, because the same traits which make them dominant give them the strength and will to commit completely once they allow themselves to commit.

So welcome to CM. There's a lot of good folks here. There's also a lot of jackasses, and some times they even wear the same profile name. That's how it goes in any group. Ask a question, just about any question, and you'll get a lot of feedback. Some of it might even be helpful. Don't worry about labelling yourself. Plenty of folks will volunteer to do it for you. Just relax, get to know the scene, and take the time to get to know yourself. If it turns out that what you really want is to let go and submit to the will of someone, great. If you only want to do it part-time, great. If you want a long term relationship with someone who'll swap roles with you periodically, this is the forum for that. It can get a little tricky, but still doable. If you decide to give submission a try and it turns out not to be your thing, then heck, maybe it was just curiosity, or exhaustion. Mostly, just relax.

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RE: Not sure - 1/12/2008 11:33:08 AM   
oliderid


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YoungGodess20 It happens to me everytime I play. You have the opportunity to explore both side of the game, enjoy! When I started I was more submissive..Then curiosity led me to the other side and now that's 50/50 and I really enjoy it.

I promess you, you won't lose self respect being a sub or "losing" during a play. This is just another fantasy.
The trick is to find the right partner. There are a lot of switches. They are usually less "serious"...Err humble, I don't know the right word, They don't try to make a religion out of it, anyway.

If she is fun, open minded and curious I bet she the right girl for you.



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