sweetwenchie
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Joined: 4/19/2006 From: Sacramento, California Status: offline
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i have felt the "just a toy" feeling both with intimate partners, and while playing with those who are just friends at play parties. There is nothing wrong with feeling like a toy to be played with. For me personally, if there is a level of intimacy and connection with the person i am with, the play time is far more intense. When i submit partially at a party and have fun playing, i never reach the same deep level of excitement and space as i do when it is someone i am in a relationship with. Could just be my own quirk, i do have my share of those So, for me being intimate does not diminish the power exchange, it actually heightens it a great deal. ummmmmmm what was the question again? i lost my train of thought somewhere in all my rambings...
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"To make oneself an object, to make oneself passive, is a very different thing from being a passive object." - De Beauvoir "You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist." - Nietzsche
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