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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 4:46:06 PM

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I don't attempt to decipher other people's relationships; it's just not my business. Nor is it my business to stick my nose into something that does not concern me.

If two adults have a relationship that is different than what I myself would flourish in; that's their life, not mine.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 5:24:36 PM

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Tyhe question was: Would that type of dynamic work for you. No one was asked to judge another person's relationship

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 5:28:21 PM

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If she was not living with me in a 24/7 relationship, there would be no way in hell I would be supporting her ass to this level for any length of time.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 5:35:13 PM

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Well, in my opinion, if the Dom(me) was foolish enough to get into the relationship with the person you are describing (the moochers; not the ones who stay home and work there); they are probably too foolish to realize they are being taken advantage of....so, the question is invalid.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 5:35:38 PM

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    Question to the OP, how did the submissive support herself or himself prior to the Dominant coming into the realtionship?   Obviously there had to be some sort of income or did the lack of income develop after the relationship began?
   Bottom line is, if the Dominant agreed to support this submissive, in this manner then he agreed to it.   I don't think it would be fair for him to agree to it then rethink it later on and feel that she was only in the relationship for the income.   Now if the Dominant said that he would assist her financially for a determined period of time with an agreement attached such as she get a job or another source of income during that period of time or move in with him to lessen expenses and she did not follow through with the terms, then I think he might have a reason to think otherwise of the situation.
    I won't reflect my own personal thoughts because there simply are not enough details for me to make a constructive observation.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 5:37:07 PM

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There are always many good reasons why a person doesn't work,

So, um, you are the decider of "good reasons" why a person doesn't work?

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 5:47:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Tyhe question was: Would that type of dynamic work for you. No one was asked to judge another person's relationship

This question is so much easier than the orgianal post. As a submissive, this type of dynamic would not work for me. I like being able to support myself and have my own income. I would hate to ask for things. I think it would be difficult to find myself in a position where I had absolutely no income. I think I would almost rather suck the government tit than depend on my Domiant to support my seperate household. If we were already in a live-in relationship and I was without an income, I could handle that for a short period of time, I could even endure it if the roles were reversed and he was out an income for a period of time. I could accept him occasionally assisting me if my income were lowered for some reason, bringing over a bag of groceries or paying a pressing bill and I could do that for him if we maintained seperate households but not fully supporting another person to maintain a seperate household.
If he were truly rich and could provide me with a hundred grand a year maintence fee, ohhh yes I could exchange my submission to just about anyone for that.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 7:13:14 PM

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"She is very lucky to have all of you to help her. Thanks for sharing that with us."

im beginning to wonder what your issue is with subs working in the home, seriously.
your sarcasm just drips from that last line

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 7:32:35 PM

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I know my former Dom has done this for a former sub who became unemployed and was left with no income for a period of time, this was something they negotiated and he cared enough for her to do this and he in a position that he could.

but if a Dom and sub negotiate a life like this it is there business, I have been approached by a married Dom who wanted me to move closer to be his kept sub... I refused because it was not something I want, but I am sure he will eventually find one to accept but that would be their business and not mine to judge

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 7:43:26 PM

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So who was paying her rent before? Who's paying it now? I certainly am not. where she living? in a box? with some rocks?
I will not pay her rent, BK I am.I don't care if she sleeps in a can.
Maybe if she's goot, She might sleep at my foot.
But I will not pay her rent, I don't care what she ment!
IF she sleeps as my slave, what do I do about her for the day?
I will not pay her rent, BK I am. There's just to much principle to the plan.
Is there trust, for it is a must!
can you leave her in your castle, or might it be a hassle!
will you come barguling home, to find nothing but space to roam?
I will not pay her rent, BK I am. I don't care if she has a tan.
Tie her bind her,gag her causes complications I abore!
Accidents, lies , police leave my life all tore!
I will not pay her rent, BK I am. I cannot, shouldnot not pay her rent, BK I am

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 7:46:47 PM

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I agree. I think if you are lucky enough to have someone who cares about you, and wants to take care of you, and if the 'working life' isn't for you, then the two of you should enjoy what you have.
I know it's pc to say things like "I love working" "I always want to be responsible for me" and stuff like that, and it's great if it works well for you.
I feel extremely lucky to not have to work right now. (and yes, I'm living with Him, so, it's different, but, even if we weren't living together, He would probably contribute quite a bit to my household, because He loves me, and wants me to be comfortable.)
Hopefully, I can someday contribute to our household by being a freelance writer. In the meantime...I'm studying for tests, and writing essays. (oh, and we came up with the funnnest way to study for tests tonight!!!)

~Christina

p.s. if the Dom in question does not mind it, why should we?

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 8:10:36 PM

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I am amazed at the audacity of the constant threads of judgements couched as seemingly benign questions. People think their sarcasm and judgement is not coming through in the multiple threads that they start....they must think we are all blind, deaf and dumb.

I never question why anyone behaves in a relationship; why would I????? Why so many questions about how others live their lives? Questions like these do nothing but put people on the defensive, needlessly.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 8:21:17 PM

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It's more of that one twue way ism.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 8:23:55 PM

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~Fast Reply~

Better question: Is everyone involved happy?

If they are, full steam ahead. If not, talk and find a way to rearrange things so that everyone is happy.

Some people will leech off others. It's not a BDSM thing.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 8:55:53 PM

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i am not amazed that you misread and misunderstood the thread. Almost everyone on here understood it. It isn't about anyone it's a situation that was made up and people were asked if it woild work for them. Just something to think about.

You are so intent on trying to insult that you answered a question that wasn't even asked.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 9:03:54 PM

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Sexy? The Queens of the Land of Passiva Aggressiva cannot see the forest for the trees. They cannot see the judgment couched in the question (doesn't work but is not disabled, he cannot really afford her upkeep).

It is not the Queen's fault... they truly cannot see it.

Cali

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 9:04:35 PM

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She answered your question perfectly. You asked what pros and cons someone would see in such a situation and she said that she wouldn't judge their relationship.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 9:10:15 PM

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Yes, it'e true. You are all so much smarter than me, but wait. i don't believe that i was in the group that got punked on another thread and were so into themselves that they didn't even know it.

12 posters on this board who are so tired of the little group got together and made a thread and then took bets on how long it would take for that small group to make fools of themselves.

It wasn't long. so congratulations! You 5win the prize! Thanks for making us all laugh that night. It really was entertaining.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 9:14:56 PM

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This is exactly what I've been trying to get you to see.

You are rude, insulting, a flammer and a troll and you can't fathom that someone might disagree with you in a manner in which you dislike. I have no interest in insulting you but you've got to quit insulting others.

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RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? - 1/15/2008 9:15:41 PM

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takenbyjohnr07,
This will be the very last time i ever reply to You.....It has become apparent to me and countless others on this board that You are simply a drama queen and an attention whore...i really don't know what Your deal is...Are You not in a "real" relationship? Are You mental? Are You insane? Are You simply fucked up? What is the deal???? But, as of now...Right here...right now..i no longer give a flying fuck...You act like an insulting, insensitive, immature child...And seriously...Enough is enough.... i know many MANY MANY other posters on this site simply laugh at You when they see You've posted something again...i however, think that is much too unkind and would prefer to give You the opportunity to grow the fuck up!!!!!!! Seriously!!! Get over Your damned self!!!! Because reality is: those who think they are better than others are usually the ones crying the hardest and loudest when they are looking up at the bottom after their fall.....
enjoy the trip...i hope the alienation and degredation that You've caused to others has been both enjoyable and worthwhile.

In regard to You and Your "12 friends who sat around and laughed at other on here" how sad....sad.....sad....sad....what a sad, little pathetic life You must have to have nothing else to do but sit around and deliberately cause chaos, destruction, and mayhem...Yeah...If i was a 47 year old stay at home, don't have a job, mom, with a man whom i claim on my profile is going to take my virginity, i guess that's probably all i'd have time for as well...Fortunately for us all...i am real..and what the hell???!!! OMG!!! i have a life!!!!!!!

Kali

< Message edited by Kalista07 -- 1/15/2008 9:34:25 PM >

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