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Midear Berlin-
I use a 'contract' (I actually like the word 'covent' better) in a relationship that I feel needs some formal recognition- Usually about the time I make a girls 'official' collar.
I use the following as the basic framework, adding particuallars to suit the SIQ, and some of the SIQ's have added some (when it gets over five or so pages I think it's getting a bit long...)I don't know how long a post can go, so I am going to try to cut and past the whole damn thing here:
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My Covenant
Please?
Please be my slave? Be my toy, my lover, and my treasure? Be mine, as I will be yours? Allow me to master you, to learn the all the secrets of you. Accept my dominance, give me your submission, and accept this covenant to give us a language to write our story with. Accept my dominance, not as chattel, but as my partner. Submit to me, not of out weakness, but from strength. I will take responsibility for your well being and happiness, and work to help us both be the best we can.
It is not, and never will be my goal to make less of you, or to break you, or tame you, or to ever make you into anything other than what you are and wish to be. I do not seek to humble you, or to put you down, but rather, I want to see you proud, and happy and utterly sure that I am every bit yours as you are mine.
Please be my slave?
As my slave, there are areas in which I need you to hold all responsibility for decision-making. These include but are not limited to, your family, your career, and your finances. Of course, I will fully support you in any course you chose in these areas, but they are yours to deal with. We are partners, and in working together, we will make more of our lives and ourselves than we could alone. I will always work to be the best master I can for you, and I need your help in doing that. Always let me know what you need, and I will do the same.
Outside of the above, I expect you to submit to my desires with good faith, with good will, and good humor. In the event that you feel I am asking too much, or being unreasonable, I expect it to be brought to my attention in plain language, and I promise to consider any issue you may raise.
I give the following as standing orders-
Protect the Property.
You are mine- my property, my plaything, my slave. Take care of yourself when I am not there to take care of you. That includes, but is not limited to, eating right, sleeping enough, and being careful when driving. This includes protecting yourself from me, if you feel it is needed. It also means not sharing our lifestyle with people who will not understand it for the equal, caring relationship it is. You are the final judge of what is best for you. That is your job. Mine is to take care of my health, you, and myself.
Trust.
Trust me never to do anything that will damage you, in body, mind, or spirit. Trust me always to want to do the best thing for you, and to be the best I can for you. Trust in me to trust in you. Trust me to speak from my heart and try to think before I speak. Trust me to remember that I care for you, even if I am upset. Trust me when I say that I would rather be hurt by the truth than made foolish with a lie. Trust me with your honesty, and trust mine with you.
Obey.
Obey me even when you don’t understand what I am getting at. I will always explain why later, if you still do not understand. I will always treat you with respect and courtesy, and I want you to remember that in leading I am serving us as much as you do in following. We are a partnership of equals, and letting me lead does not make you less of a partner.
I expect the above to be acceptable, and I do believe that you know that you are safe in trusting me with it. I would like us to be able to enjoy this aspect of our romance all the time and everywhere we go, so in addition to the above, I offer a protocol that that we may work with.
Titles.
You are mine- my slave, my girl, my toy- anything that I want you to be. Never ever, think that anything is said to hurt or belittle you. You may call me Master or Sir, or Lawrence, or big jerk, when it is called for. You may refer to me in lifestyle situations as 'my master' not as Master. My name is not Master, it is my relationship to you, and not only that of master and slave, but as the one who has mastered you, and continues to do so.
My Collar.
Your life is mine. To put my hand to your throat, to hold your life in my grip, is my privilege, and the strongest symbol of our bond that I know. If I could keep my hand at your throat every second of every day, I would. As, sadly, this would be impractical; in the place of my hand I will give you collars to wear at your throat, to remind you of my hand. You will wear these at all times practical, and I expect you to wear it proudly and eagerly. When you wear one, it should be the only thing that you wear at your throat. If there is something you would like me to wear for you, I will.
Sex.
Your body is mine. I will use it as I please. I will take you anytime I please, anywhere I please, in any fashion I please. When you masturbate you will tell me that you have done so. I expect you to tell me how best to pleasure you.
Bedtime.
I reserve the right to take you while you are sleeping. You may sleep through it if you like. Each night, before we sleep, I will ask to be sure that you feel safe, happy, and loved, so I will know that my work for the day is done, and I may sleep. Which ever of us wakes first will bring the other coffee if possible.
Deportment.
You will, whenever possible, walk at my left side or a step in front of me, so I can watch out for you, which is my job, and watch you walk, which is my pleasure. You will wait for me to open a door for you, and allow me to pass through it before you. At parties, and in general social situations, you will stay within arm's length of me, and to ask permission otherwise. I will, whenever possible keep a hand on you, and expect to feel you touch me as frequently as possible. When we disagree about something, we will do it privately. I will be attentive to you, and your needs, and we will be the couple that everyone else wants to be.
Dining out.
I will sit where I can see both you and the door, you will sit by my side, to my left, or where I indicate, whenever possible. I will order for you (your input will be appreciated). I will always wait for you to begin eating before I do, but you will wait for my nod before beginning. If I offer you food from my hand or fork, you will take it without lifting your hands.
Communication.
You will call me for any reason, at any time you wish. My phone is at your disposal. You are not to decide that something is not worth bothering about, or that it is too late. If you need to call me, for any reason, at any time, do so. I expect you to make an effort to be as available for my calls as I am for yours.
Limits.
You will apprise me of your limits, and I will respect them. I reserve the right to push them when I see fit.
SAFEWORDS- If you say "enough", you are vetoing my dominance over you, until such time as you say "Please". I will stop what I am doing and take whatever actions are indicated, i.e., untying you, holding you close, comforting you or what ever you seem to need. If you feel I am overstepping the bounds of your submission to me in a day-to-day situation, "enough" will signal a time out. "Are you my girl?" answered in the affirmative, will signal 'time in'. You are required to time out by saying 'enough' anytime that the D/s aspect jeopardizes yourself or our relationship. I may from time to time, also time out to discuss or do something I consider to be outside of the realm of the dynamic.
As much as it is my job to care for you, I expect you to make it your job to please me, and to work at it proactively. I offer this to you, not to impose my demands on you, but to give us both ways to be better together. Anytime that I do or say something that doesn't make you feel as special and cherished as you are, you are required to bring it to my immediate attention. Please?
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-there is no remission without blood-
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), I feel they are in place for my protection, as well as Taggards'. We're meeting in a highly unconventional manner and each have high regard for the written word. These documents took a bit of time and a lot of communication. I think that communication is the key when negotiating any sort of contract, whether it be day, month, year, lifetime. There are so many things to consider in regards to each person, situation and relationship. The boundaries have to be clear. Although the Weekend Contract may be a bit generic (as someone posted above, I think) it sets the tone for the Time Contract. I think that when you're dealing with extremes, it's best to be an extremist. I guess my point (and I hope I have one) is that IMNSHO- Contracts are a good thing. They tell people what the boundaries are and have those boundaries defined clearly. It sets the tone for the meeting, no matter what the sort, and ensures that everyone knows what is expected. They make me feel safe, and as a "submissive female" that is, or at least should be, the number one priority. They are black and white insurance based on trust and respect. 
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