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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:00:08 PM

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wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:00:14 PM

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But of course, I am an equal opportunity mythology fanatic. And I love a man with a huge hammer....

http://quizfarm.com/test.php?q_id=75898

I'm Sif.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:01:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart

wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

Sure. Meet me in a group where I have a reasonable expectation of everyone who hears what I say respecting the information and not having to worry about someone peeking and wanking.

We have no control whatsoever about who reads these forums. You don't even have to be a member of the site.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:07:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart

wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

OMG dude..what is your issue? Can you not process that this is A INTERNET MESSAGE BOARD ON A KINK SITE AND NOT THE DR. PHIL SHOW?

I work hard all day and come here for entertainment. When someone has a LEGITIMATE problem, you know like maybe...something really serious and they ask us for advice, we answer nicely, like WE DID FOR YOU.

But, when that PERSON, does not like the advice he is given and starts to give passive/aggressive/condescending/insulting replies about our intelligence level (discern? please, discern this) to everyone and make assumptions that we are bashing you because we go off on humorous tangents which have NOTHING to do with YOU...well then I think it's time that someone, Joshie, go take a timeout.

I despair over what types of "patients" you deal with. The safest ones would be animals. I hope you are a vet.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:08:59 PM

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from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.

People post on message boards, people read things into it. If you are having difficulty with your communication style don't blame the audience.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:10:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart

wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

Why should I unload my worries upon someone else? The sympathy and empathy is nice; but why should strangers have to listen to my lamentation about how I was gullible enough to be fooled by someone on here? People have their own problems; they don't need to add mine to the mix...that is why I don't share anythign uncomfortable here. If I wanted to relive my uncomfortable moments, I'd get a therapist.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:12:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum

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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart

wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

Why should I unload my worries upon someone else? The sympathy and empathy is nice; but why should strangers have to listen to my lamentation about how I was gullible enough to be fooled by someone on here? People have their own problems; they don't need to add mine to the mix...that is why I don't share anythign uncomfortable here. If I wanted to relive my uncomfortable moments, I'd get a therapist.

Maybe if you hit him with your adorable umbrella, he will get it.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:16:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum

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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart

wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

Why should I unload my worries upon someone else? The sympathy and empathy is nice; but why should strangers have to listen to my lamentation about how I was gullible enough to be fooled by someone on here? People have their own problems; they don't need to add mine to the mix...that is why I don't share anythign uncomfortable here. If I wanted to relive my uncomfortable moments, I'd get a therapist.

Maybe if you hit him with your adorable umbrella, he will get it.

I'd probably hit too hard, and cause a concussion....you see...I have alot of repressed anger...I guess I'm just not honest enough to let it all go. I should start posting more on these threads about my anger. What do you think about that?

Oh, and thanks for calling my umbrella adorable...

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 6:19:37 PM

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Hey, I'm sorry you've had a rather mixed experience. I hope you'll not give up on posting. I have been vulnerable and hurt due to my own less than stellar decisions. I appreciate you're wanting to commiserate and share. That does happen here, so I hope you don't give up on CM.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 7:56:57 PM

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I've posted things on these boards that people really really disagreed with. Hopefully, I've also posted things people found helpful. Not once, even when people disagreed with me, has anyone insulted me on these boards. (And no, that is not an invitation to start now....)

However.

I just emailed someone who started a thread and was getting grief about it. This fine person sent me back the most unpleasant thing anyone has ever said to me on CollarMe. I don't have a female profile, so I don't get the nasty mail half of you do, but OMG.

If bad shit keeps happening to you, it's not all due to bad luck.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 9:34:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Maybe if you hit him with your adorable umbrella, he will get it.

I'd probably hit too hard, and cause a concussion....you see...I have alot of repressed anger...I guess I'm just not honest enough to let it all go. I should start posting more on these threads about my anger. What do you think about that?

Oh, and thanks for calling my umbrella adorable...

Sorry, I forgot to say you were adorable too.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 9:58:32 PM

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Ya'll are a bunch of high falutant huzzies!!!!

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 10:27:31 PM

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Life is so funny, if I take the Original post and purpsose and add SimplySubmissives' POV, you would almost have the story of our beginnings. We met technically on a 3 way phone called that was facilitated by someone I had only known online, they had an online relationship, he claims only their vampire characters had the relationship but I know she felt different. He sent her a fake picture, which she sent me just to show me what her man looked like... they went their seperate ways, our friendship grew with in the year, we were to meet, 2x he put me off finally he asked me the night before he was to come down again, "what if I didn't look like you thought."
I told him, "so long everything else is everything it was represented to be, than I don't care what you look like."
Well that was 4 years ago, and I have never been sorry we took the chance

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ORIGINAL: SimplySubmissive
It is terrible when that happens. And it does happen often. I'm not sure why. Sometimes I think these feelings happen so fast after meeting online, is because
it's all direct communication. No hanging out in a bar, drinking, dancing, etc.
Who really knows why. Someone gets scared, someone can't meet because they lied about looks or whatever. Someone created a fantasy person online, and then actually met someone they liked..but would be found out if they were face to face.
It's just a risk that people online have to understand.
Sorry you had to go through it though!
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Good for you OP for taking the leap, maybe one day you'll find yourself landing in paradise.

Edited to add... oh nm... things never change around here do they.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/23/2008 11:25:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart

wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

"Here to bash" like making up insulting familiar nicknames for people you don't know or making sexist statements such as "I'd like to think you have more "lady" in you...than this scattered remark" or paranoid ones that seem to think they know things of people they do not such as " I hope you can drop the armouring one day...and not be scared.
PleaseRemove me From Your List...i'm clear on you now" or domahpet...you sarcastic, bitchy, and bratty?? Never. smile. Someone...PLEASE spank her...until tears." ?

Is that what you're referring to? I agree. Those comments were abrasive and unnecesary, overly familiar for someone that doesn't know the person and just incredibly poorly written snark. We should really "discern the seed of a concept" about this person and their ability to relate to people.

There really aren't people here "just to bash", ModXI is pretty good at finding the door for people like that. I'd stop taking advice from those that make their internet experiences about seeking affirmation of themselves which is a doomed venture and become hostile when they don't get it. This is the internet, not therapy. You want a compelling thought? I think you should drop the self-important belittling approach and talk to people like people and you might just learn something. Or how about this one? On this very thread you see people relating to each other and sharing albeit in a humorous fashion at times. Not all these people got along well at first and found a way to come together and share. Some of these people rarely posted much and opened up their lives and shared over time. Compelling huh? Open your eyes and look around you and you will see the very thing you ask in your OP is here in abundance.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/24/2008 5:18:20 AM

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LMAO they are bashing the bitching about bashing. I love ya'all

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/24/2008 7:01:06 AM

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Laurell, you are effing brilliant. You should start a thread, "Read this BEFORE you decide to post" for newbies so maybe they'll grow some layers of skin before we flay it off of them.

You rock, is what I'm saying.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/24/2008 8:02:47 AM

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No bashing. Simply trying to explain to the clueless about healthy boundaries. People with them don't go shoving their shit in other people's faces. Or demanding that other people offload theirs onto them.

I will say I was surprised at the disconnect between your profile and your age. You come off as much younger, much less maturity than I would expect in someone nearly 30 years old.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/24/2008 8:15:06 AM

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Laurell, you are effing brilliant. You should start a thread, "Read this BEFORE you decide to post" for newbies so maybe they'll grow some layers of skin before we flay it off of them.

You rock, is what I'm saying.

Heh thanks!

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When you fail to consider that I am the best judge for what is right for me, all of your opinions become suspect to me.

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/24/2008 8:23:43 AM

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Were you replying to me? If so, I'm 43 so you must be really disappointed at my lack of maturity!

Tee

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RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. - 1/24/2008 8:41:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart

wow. what started as a simple shot at an interesting post about sharing the uncomfortable with others...
showed that those who are here to bash others found something in that honest new post...to bash.
nor can most of you discern the seed of a concept from whatever you'd like to READ INTO IT.
hey...someone else put their ass on the line by being honest, and propose something compelling?
no real expectations there.

Just an aside here...........I thought chicks dug the big font?.......no?

Jeff

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