fluffyswitch -> RE: Switches need not apply (1/23/2008 7:33:47 PM)
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ORIGINAL: lapresence Being one of those people, I shall explain. At least for me. I've been with several switches. The problem is that they eventually want you to dominate them. They all seem to be more sub than Dom, but figure if they say they switch, that gives them the power to tell you that they want you to dominate them. I've tried, it's not a happy thing. Heck, I can't even feel submissive to all Doms. And I'm into 24/7 (not live-in yet), in private and in public he is Dominant to me. Always. I would think that would not be very fair to either partner. We just aren't going to be suited. I don't mind having a sister sub that is a switch (dominant to me and sub to Him). That works. Sorry, just had to weigh in, since all anyone seems to want to do is bash people. Oh, and btw, when I block male subs from contacting (and I have), it also blocks switches. So maybe something you want discuss with the administration, cause they classify switches as subs. i didn't read any of this thread as bashing anyone, as opposed to a question posed to a group of individuals who have had a similar experience with being 'ignored'. no one has been rude, no one has flamed. that being said, while i'm not discounting your personal experiences i've found the opposite among other switches where they are only willing to submit to a very few select individuals. and i'm not sure that i'm comfortable saying that it's a matter of being able to say that i want someone to dominate me just because i'm switch--if i'm submissive to someone, then i'm just submissive to them, and if the dynamic changes mid relationship then there was something in that relationship that sparked that change in me. but to each his own and we all have definitely encounter different things on our paths.
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