variation30
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ORIGINAL: AlterEgo69
As a straight dom, when I make first contact with a sub in the personals I always write a personal e-mail, generally behaving like a gentleman, and composing my message in a tone identical to what I would use to introduce myself to someone in the vanilla world. I make the assumption that we all know what we are here for, and that subs presumably want to be treated like full fledged human beings, at least until they choose to offer me their submission. I assume they already know I am capable of taking a much more commanding tone with them, else I wouldn't be here, and I assume they would only want to be exposed to my dominant energy after they have gotten to know me.
When I began hearing from many different subs that they frequently receive e-mails along the lines of "Hey you stupid worthless slut whore, get down on your slut knees before you read the rest of this message, you cheap slut bitch...", my first reaction was "Oh, those are just loser Dom-wannabes who don't understand what BDSM is really about". But I was recently told that many subs PREFER to be degraded this way in a FIRST e-mail communication, and that there is actually a subculture of subs who make a policy of not responding to e-mail UNLESS the Dom asserts himself in a very aggressive, degrading way in that first communication.
I am absolutely not judging anyone here! But I am completely fascinated and confused by this. It seems to me that subs' biggest complaint is usually that they meet pseudo-doms who aren't really into BDSM, and are just looking for easy sex. I would think that regardless of whether you are turned on by this kind of talk, responding to FIRST e-mails in which you are treated that way would just be asking for trouble.
Am I missing something? Is this really the preference of a significant population (subs wanting this sort of initial contact), or was my first instinct (that these are just ignorant loser dom-wannabes) correct?
Curiously yours,
A.E.
to be honest, if I found out a sub was impressed by that kind of hollow writing, I'd lose interest in her.
unless, of course, she was extraordinarily attractive.
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all the good ones are collared or lesbians.
or old.
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RE: Does "On your knees, Bitch!" EVER work in... - 
.. but that doesnt stop you treating us like one in the future if needs be... just not on the first message >:3 
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