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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/27/2008 4:01:19 PM

ThundersCry

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Humilation can be a great tool at times...

Theres a difference between degrading someone and humiliating them...

And some LIKE both....

SO WHAT! =L=

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/27/2008 5:19:59 PM

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Having to get my Mistress a Latte from Starbucks with my collar on. Being forced to have them write Mistress
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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/27/2008 6:12:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: mindwarp

yes it is a bad thing your a human being and if you cant see that each to there own, i wouldnt allow it by anyone in bdsm or in vanilla life its not right

Just because you don't like it, that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. That's like saying since I don't like a certain TV show or movie, then the show/movie must be bad. I'm sure lots of people would disagree and say it's a good show. Does that make them wrong? Of course not - it's their PERSONAL opinion. So either keep that to yourself, or just don't make comments that make you look stupid.

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/27/2008 8:09:43 PM

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I love humiliation play, but it is something I use carefully. The right amount can make a submissive feel that much more vulnerable, but too much can make him or her shut down or do damage. I consider it mental edge play for trust issues.

Not all of the humiliation play I do uses crossdressing as an element. I've had a submissive written on with magic markers while stripped and tied down, I've made one submissive use the bathroom in front of a group of Dommes who verbally mocked him while doing so, I've taken submissives out with a bit of pink ribbon tied around their genitals and trailing out of the waistband of their pants so I could tug on it during dinner -- this list goes on. But anything I've done I've known the person's "hot buttons" really well, and been sure that while it might humiliate them it wouldn't harm them permanently.

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/28/2008 5:17:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

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ORIGINAL: mindwarp

, if someone trys humiliation tactics then sorry i dont play, and never will,

Humiliation is a feeling and only you can choose how you will - or will not - feel.

No-one can control another person's emotional response without his or her consent.

No Domme on the planet can humiliate a man if he refuses to feel humiliated. Any attempt will fail.

A man might be unable to control his body (eg it feels pain), but he is always in full control of his mind (although I recognise that some people - like our mothers - have the knack of making us all lose control eventually - but thats non-consensual abuse not consensual BDSM!!)

Healthy men who crave humiliation play have a strong sense of self and good self esteem. They find humiliation great fun, because they know its just make-believe and they want the emotional thrill. It is erotic teasing to them. They feel better - not worse - about themselves afterwards

However, there's very good reasons why men who are less than supremely confident in themselves and/or not thrill seekers should not play around with humiliation. It is - after all - edge play.

Very well said , Humiliation in it's many forms could be "pushing "one's limits/boundries . From getting that coffee wearing a collar to dressing like a maid ,or being treated like a dog . We all have a different level of what would humiliate us . To some having there face smaked and called a dirty little slut may be pushing things , while others may see this as just a normal day .To each there own and as long as everyone involved is getting what they want and no one is being harmed ( in a bad way ) then more power to you all .

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/28/2008 10:01:48 AM

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hello i wish to apologise to everyone i may have offended, but i have a lack of wording thankyou lilrey for point out and advice i wasnt trying to push my opinion onto anyone but just some thing i really detest in bdsm, reasons being for personal issues why i hate it so much will answer further, i also apologise to subjordantaylor i have no wish to to cause any offence to you it was not intended has such just my wording so please acceptmy apologies for this and finally the answer in regards to lamistressa post, humiliation to me when pushed into it even when i dont know about whats going to happen pushes me over the edge, and causes real bad problems, one of the reasons why i work from scripts then there is no misinterperatations regards a play scene, if humiliation comes in to play i shut down, my sub status goes, from that point, as it once happened to me and spent the rest of the night in a fetish club in the toilets and immediate thought after going home, i couldnt sleep for months after that night, and needed tablets to calm me down this was last march i dont usually open myself like this but feel i should apologise to everyone that does like, only i look at people as human beings whether your sub or switch and i just cannot understand it at all, so if anyone can help please define humiliation, because i do strapon cd scene but see that as humiliation i just see it has a scene if anyone could explain to me more please many thanks
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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/28/2008 1:29:10 PM

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Some Interesting points thanks for taking the time to respond its appreciated. i agree there can be a million forms of humiliation,,my version if it is around the cross dressing bit..lol thats simply my flavour of kink. When i said in my original post its a double edged sword i meant just that, as some days to be the centre of attention to have the adrenelin flowing is a magical experience but other times you really do have to gup and bight your lip. Sure at the moment its happnening genuine fear is part of the buzz..but as someone has already pointed out its the looking back at having completed the challange successfully is the motivation that brings you back to doing it all over again save this time you want to go a little further.

Like any bdsm activity one natually assumes its fully consentual between adults so the pain, fear, etc you feel at the time is all in context so any suggestion is is abuse is laughable. its certainly no worse than taking the skin of someones ass with a whip..takes a little more imagination id suggest as any fool can beat flesh but it takes someone with a genuine understanding of kink to use their partners lust effectivly to their own ends

Some one asked how i got to be involved in the cuckold situation..was really a fantasy that evolved over the years to the point where it has become a reality. Again this is something my Mistress and i share as part of our lifestyle and with others. I certainly dont feel it a betrayal as these things are openly discussed and there are no secrects and like all healthy bdsm relationships theres a little in it for each of us.

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/28/2008 7:20:34 PM

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A couple of humiliation ways, I've experienced...

Wearing low rider jeans and panties.. My mistress would take us to a lingerie shop (her friends) and get me to buy some for myself. Her friend (worked at the store) was in on it also. The look on some of the customers faces, were interesting..

My Mistress was kind enough to ask me what size of strap-on she should use on me.. If I picked the smallest one... I would also have to be humiliated in other ways... So far I picked it a few times.. :)

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/28/2008 10:08:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: mindwarp

i personally dont agree that humilation should be involved in the bdsm lifestyle, as subs we are human beings, you wouldnt treat a dog that way sorry its just my personal opinion, those that do like i feel for them, i know i will never do it as long as i live i find it a disgraceful trait but thats me
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Of course you are entitled to your opinion, but my boys certainly get treated much better than any animal, and some of them love/crave humiliation, some dont, it's all relative, whatever your personal kink might be someone might look at you with the same disdain and pity that you feel towards those that enjoy humiliation.

DJ

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/28/2008 10:21:17 PM

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mindwarp:
i read your profile and likes and dilikes. Humiliation is so different to different people. you like leashes and cages, to me that would be humiliating and i wouldn't want to do it. But i cream my panties when my trainer calls me His little slut and slaps my pussy and some would consider that humiliation. It is all personal perspective.

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/28/2008 10:43:44 PM

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Wonderful MsC it's like our minds were melded but you were able to put them down here. I agree on exactly what you said. All in all it is one's choice if they are happy then why be upset?

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RE: Experiences with Humiliation? - 1/29/2008 3:52:44 AM

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In reply to zoescherry.
I think your situation is perfect for people who are both very submissive and open to almost "anything" in the search for total submission. Not only does your wife sissyfy you to humiliate you and confirm her dominance over you, but she also cuckolds you too ! Taking away ALL your manhood and male ego, gfiving herslef to other men ( or man ) and you simply have to accept the situation !
she needs to get you and herself a cuckold ankle chain and t shirts etc..

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