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KingBlood666 -> money (2/1/2008 5:27:06 PM)
ok this is what i dont get.......why the hell would a Domme want her slaves/subs to pay for service.....especial when the Domme is making enufe money as it is.....pisses me off when i find a decent Domme that can train me but find out all she wants is my money.......WHAT THE FUCK!?!?

CalifChick -> RE: money (2/1/2008 5:36:20 PM)
Here's a 13 page thread on the subject... you might want to start there. Cali

Leatherist -> RE: money (2/1/2008 5:38:31 PM)
It's a test. (that's usually the justification for being greedy) Personally I just go dutch. I have no intention of supporting a woman or living in a household with her. I guess I'm just not a proper male..[;)]

daddyncherry -> RE: money (2/1/2008 5:40:22 PM)
Not for nothing, and i am not speaking across the boards here but.. #1. She does it cause she can #2. Who are you or anyone else to say that she makes enough money as it is? Esp. if this is how she makes her living, something that i personally find completely reasonable. #3, She may not only want you money, and then again, she may..there are people who love the lifestyle and choose to make their living that way and there are others who are just after a dollar. #4. you are young, so it isn't like you couldve been fishing in the Domme sea for so long and had no luck, give it time, and someone who doesn't want you money may just come strutting right along. Good luck to you.

xxblushesxx -> RE: money (2/1/2008 5:41:28 PM)
Perhaps when you have more to offer a Domme, she will consider you on your own merit. Or...perhaps you are looking for the 'perfect' Domme, and they do not come cheaply. Since you classify yourself as a switch, why not find another switch, and experiment a bit? ~Christina

KingBlood666 -> RE: money (2/1/2008 5:44:34 PM)
you people dont get it......i know im young and still learning.....but still.....why pay......yes ill by my Domme a gift now and then but not going to pay for her rent or anything like that......

Leatherist -> RE: money (2/1/2008 5:47:53 PM)
The short answer is-they do it because fools enable it. Don't feel too bad at being left behind in the stampede dude.

RedMagic1 -> RE: money (2/1/2008 5:50:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KingBlood666 you people dont get it If that's your response to what three helpful women and a guy with a lot of experience had to say, then before I tell you anything, you'll have to pay me $300 an hour. Oh, all right, I'll say one thing as a teaser. I've dated Dommes, and I didn't pay... but I do my best not to come off as a know-it-all jackass. Ya might want to work on that.

LadyHathor -> RE: money (2/1/2008 6:02:48 PM)
*as long as people have a dollar and seek a service---"trade" will continue to flourish.* *Not for you? Fine, shuffle on.*

KingBlood666 -> RE: money (2/1/2008 6:06:06 PM)
ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money....

Leatherist -> RE: money (2/1/2008 6:08:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KingBlood666 ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money.... Dude,just get out in real life and meet kinky people-all you will really find online is scammers and pros.

LadyHathor -> RE: money (2/1/2008 6:10:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KingBlood666 ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money.... *I get your frustration, but they do it because one persons hard limit is another's preference--some people like sushi, some don't--just be wary next time--good luck.*

RedMagic1 -> RE: money (2/1/2008 6:20:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist Dude,just get out in real life and meet kinky people-all you will really find online is scammers and pros. That hasn't been my own online experience, but yeah, real life does have the advantage of reality. The scammer profiles were the ones that wrote me back the fastest, and wrote letters about how they were in love with me already, or some Dommely version of that. Real, actual women write letters that are hopefully cautious -- as though they've been burned by fake online men, but are trying again anyway. Because, you know what? That's exactly what's happening. Also, if you're only writing to women whose pics were borrowed from the Ujena Swimsuit Catalogue, you might consider changing your filter. That's a common scammer tactic. I've dated women online-to-real who were superhot. They either didn't post their pic in their profile, or didn't include their face, because they were interested in a mental connection, not a trollfest. Edited to add: Changing this because it sounds as though I'm saying no one who posts their face is pretty. That's not the point at all. If it looks like an amateur snapshot, it's likely a real person. And if it looks like a fashion shoot, odds are it was clipped out of some site. A handful of people really are fetish models, and say so on their profiles. That's different.

Zaraseeks -> RE: money (2/1/2008 6:32:24 PM)
Well are you tired of pros? Or are you talking to non pros who want a sub to support them? I do not understand getting tired of pros, pros are trained, and do what a lot of Dommes will notm, handle people other Dommes will not, and are good at what they do (for the most part) So if it bothers you stop emailing them! If this is finding Dommes who are Dommes so that they wont have to work or be responsible, well, look at why you are attracting that and what about that attracts you, just like some "subs" come to the lifestyle to escape real life and be taken care of, the same is true for some "dommes" but in truth, there are more real ones that I know than fakes, MUCH more, So I think its important to look at what it is about yourself that is attracting this...and aspire to attract greatness, through living in greatness!

angelic -> RE: money (2/1/2008 6:42:30 PM)
Is this a Domme that you had been corresponding with and somewhere in the 2 or 3 email she tells you she wants $? Or, is this a Pro Domme that clearly states such on her profile and you thought for some reason you would get 'it' for free?

tigerstyle -> RE: money (2/1/2008 7:10:47 PM)
The New Age spiritual leader G.I. Gurdjieff insisted that his students pay through the nose for the pleasure of his company and discourse because he though that people don't value something they haven't paid for. In other words, it was for their own good.

PanthersMom -> RE: money (2/1/2008 7:16:02 PM)
who are "all" these Dommes that demand money and am i breaking union rules by not demanding it? damn i knew i should have gone to more meetings! PM

KingBlood666 -> RE: money (2/1/2008 7:22:08 PM)
ok.....for those who keep asking im talking about the ones who only ask for money for their serveces....for example.....i saw a woman who says she princess (not saying who) who only asked for money only.....she did have a pic of her holding a nice wad of cash.....thats the type of domme im talking about

BlackPhx -> RE: money (2/1/2008 7:27:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KingBlood666 ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money.... Thre are pro dominants and non-pro. Domina who earn a living via their skills in BDSM have many costs that the average Non-pro doesn't. She needs to have a lawyer on retainer, or should, needs to have the equipment to cover a great many fantasies that her clients may have and the equipment to properly sterilize everything so it doesn't get carried from one client to another (autoclaves are not cheap, and neither are chemical products for sterilizing leathers etc.). Disposables cost money and so do her outfits. rare is the Pro-Domina that is going to have only 1 or 2 outfits, it's more like a closet full so that she can dress to suit so to speak. She may take control of what you are doing and work out the progression of it, but ultimately it is your fantasy she is serving, not her own and that often includes clothing and equipment a lot of which must be custom built. Also please add in having a place to "entertain" in that is not going to give her a problem about the number of visitors, odd hours they keep and of course the noise. Someone who is forming a relationship with another person, tends to be able to purchase what they need for their healthy active sex life over time, adding to equipment as budgeting and needs allow. It will still cost you, but you are both benefitting from it. Master had many things he had built up over the years, most of which we don't use. We have items that have been specifically purchased or bought for or by me, for health reasons. Anything that breaks skin should not be shared with anyone else. We have things he has made and some I have made. All of them cost and it gets put in our budget if that cost is large. Ultimately KB, you did not choose a cheap sexual thrill to billow your sails. Movie, dinner and a quick slap and tickle in the balconey aint gonna do it I suspect. Alll else tends to cost somewhere down the line. Pro-Domina just want the money/tribute up front. poenkitten

CalifChick -> RE: money (2/1/2008 8:16:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KingBlood666 ok.....for those who keep asking im talking about the ones who only ask for money for their serveces That's a "Pro Domme" - a PROFESSIONAL. It's what she does for a living. She charges everyone. If you don't want a professional, then don't contact one. Cali

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