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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/4/2008 5:55:49 PM

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As others have said, if it's what is working for you, then go for it.

For me, I'm the type who would want to eliminate the guilt completely. I would want to break down the process that allows the guilt to occur. The method you have simply redirects things and works around them. I'm much more a kill the source and you won't have to keep thinking of workarounds whenever possible type.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/4/2008 8:49:11 PM

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greetings milivoje,

he considers my orgasms pleasurable to him, so he never denies me them, except on very rare occasions, and when he just likes to be a tease (although he usually allows them in the end). for us, they are not an obstruction to his pleasure but rather a complement, and he loves that i am very sexual and multiorgasmic, so it's important to him that we both experience that.

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annabelle.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/4/2008 10:28:00 PM

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greetings milivoje,

he considers my orgasms pleasurable to him, so he never denies me them, except on very rare occasions, and when he just likes to be a tease (although he usually allows them in the end). for us, they are not an obstruction to his pleasure but rather a complement, and he loves that i am very sexual and multiorgasmic, so it's important to him that we both experience that.

respectfully,
annabelle.

I'm never denied orgasms either - He just delights in delaying them for a while when we are playing

When I was married to the asshat ex, I switched off sexually. Didn't want it, didn't miss it. I've since found out that lack of sexual desire can be a symptom of depression (and yes I was depressed during that time I've now realised).

Even though now I'm in a very happy relationship, I still can turn that sexuality off if we're not able to play for a while due to His health issues. However we still have intimacy - touches, caresses, kisses, cuddles. That doesn't stop, ever. And when He's feeling better, I can switch my sexuality back on again for Him

LOL I sound like a light switch So maybe I have trained myself in the way the OP described

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 6:48:41 AM

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Wouldn't it be nice if we had the power to keep ourselves/others on the brink of orgasm for days and weeks at a time? The world might fall apart, but it is nice to think about. Some people enjoy the state of pre-orgasm more than the actual orgasm itself.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 8:22:05 AM

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Any bets on how long gone she'll be by then? Or how many stray cats she's adopted?

Men on long term abstinence get more submissive. Women traditionally don't. And you may control her orgasms, but if her body shuts down her libido you won't find it easy to jumpstart it.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 9:05:18 AM

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Would not work for me. It gives my Master pleasure to make me orgasm, so why would he stop doing something that givs him pleasure? He might delay them for a bit to tease me and make them stronger but i always get them. If he denied me i think i would seriously go crazy. If you are happy though go for it.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 9:33:39 AM

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Any bets on how long gone she'll be by then? Or how many stray cats she's adopted?

Men on long term abstinence get more submissive. Women traditionally don't. And you may control her orgasms, but if her body shuts down her libido you won't find it easy to jumpstart it.

lol ... am still mopping the coffee off my keyboard

imho ... it wont last

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 9:45:25 AM

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Any bets on how long gone she'll be by then? Or how many stray cats she's adopted?

Men on long term abstinence get more submissive. Women traditionally don't. And you may control her orgasms, but if her body shuts down her libido you won't find it easy to jumpstart it.

Well I'll take that bet any time

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 10:25:32 AM

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I see it differently. Form the perspective that men can orgasm at the drop of a hat. shoe. skirt. well turned phrase? Many if not most women , not so easily. I find power,and control in causing an orgasm. But then again I am.." not right". I see no up side in total orgasm denial for an extended length of time

Jeff

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 10:26:51 AM

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Kinda hard to type with one hand Jeff??

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 10:29:22 AM

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Pfffffffffffff. you want orgasms AND good typing. greedy bitch!......

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 12:05:33 PM

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ROFLMBO..................................

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 12:15:00 PM

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I have been reading this thread, and I just don't buy it.....but thats just my opinion.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 1:36:20 PM

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Well I'll take that bet any time

She'll be g-o-n-e ---->

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 1:40:57 PM

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Maybe her glands will shrink, her sizzle will fizzle and she'll go frigid?

Use it or lose it!

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 1:43:31 PM

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~fast reply~ Could i give up orgasms? i used to be married, so i know for a fact that NO, i could not, i'll just wait till the asshat falls asleep and take care of that myself! he'll never know

That aside, i have experienced short term orgasm denial, nothing more than a few days, but by the end of that time, i was climbing the walls. Would i do it if it was asked of me? Short answer.. yes. Why would He though? It is a type of power and control... enjoyable for both, and i would hope that He enjoyed my orgasms as much if not more than i do.

Though if it works for the both of you and makes you both happy and complete, that is great!

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 4:09:29 PM

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This is an interesting thread. I wonder, OP, what thought process brought you to the idea of this particular long term orgasm denial? Do you have the intention of giving her one orgasm in June and then another long period of denial?

In my own situation, I do not believe that SJ would deny me orgasms for any period of time. Our relationship thus far has focused much more on the achievement of them then of their denial.

I have mentioned previously that SJ's first post-hypnotic suggestion, or the prime directive as I call it, was to "Suffer for me" and this I do willingly and gratefully. Were he to impose this kind of chastity on me, I would obey. I would also be able to communicate with him exactly what I was going through, when the urge was greatest, when it waned, anything I experienced as a result of the command. There are far greater 'good' things going on in our relationship and so I would not sacrifice the entirety of it simply to achieve an orgasm.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 4:47:38 PM

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Greetings all,

Having read the posts on this thread, I thought it was time to introduce myself and write/explain/clarify a few things.

I’m icy_flame, Master Milivoje’s slave.
Prior to meeting Master I knew very little about the lifestyle. Now, looking back at the past and all the amazing things that have happened since, I consider myself extremely fortunate to have been given a chance to be his slave. I have changed in so many ways over time; I have discovered my true self and have grown as a person all thanks to him, his guidance and support. I love every second of our relationship.

And now a little info on whom I used to be: Before I met Master I was a person who had trouble reaching an orgasm. It happened even with him at the beginning. Not only did he change that but he turned me into a highly orgasmic person. Hell I can even cum on command (something I never believed I could do) without any stimuli! I grew to love the orgasms as they intensified in strength and length

. I became insatiable. The more I came, the more I wanted him and the orgasms. And don’t get me wrong, Master reveled in them too.

But as strange as this may sound to some, I also felt selfish cumming so much and so often during an intercourse, while he only came once in the end. I felt like he was pleasing me and not the other way around. So, when he mentioned that he wanted me not to have orgasms during intercourse for a week, I was a bit scared at first, thinking I couldn’t do it. He gave me a trial period and told me I could ask him for an orgasm if I really felt I was on the verge and couldn’t take it any more. He is not so adamant as may struck some people.

The amazing thing is I not only felt no need to have an orgasm, but I finally felt free to completely focus on his pleasure. And he also felt the change. My skin was different… softer, smoother as he later told me. The movements of my body were different. Even the smallest traces of selfishness have disappeared. Seeing me so eager to please him, so completely immersed in his pleasure only turned him on even more and made him enjoy sex on a level entirely different from anything he has ever experienced before. Watching the expression on his face and the thrusts of his body as he was cumming gave me more pleasure than any orgasm ever did. I was ecstatic and fulfilled at the same time. I can just say that it was the most powerful experience for both of us.

As for the date he set for my next orgasm, I have no worries about it. I know my Master and I know that he loves me and the last thing he would want is to see me unhappy. The whole experience of me not cumming is so fantastic for him for the simple fact that I am enjoying it so much.

icy_flame

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 5:10:44 PM

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I am glad it is working for you however be careful because what they say about woman who dont use it lose it is true. In biology last year we looked at the human reproductive system and all the things that go along with it. When a woman isnt getting that release the hormones stop being made which then makes the libido dissapear. Without a libido pleasing your Master with sex is a lot harder, trust me i have been there done that.

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RE: Slavegirl’s orgasmic abstinence by free will. - 2/5/2008 5:12:05 PM

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Too bad you didn't concentrate on making HIM multi-orgasmic, instead of restricting your own.

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