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BotanicalMiss -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/3/2008 11:02:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: solvr70

so....what type of person do S/switches tend to be attracted to...?



My partner is dominant and while we don't have a formal D/s relationship, I am somewhat submissive to him and have no desire to find another Dom to be with. I have never been able to switch within a relationship, so finding another switch wouldn't work for me.  When it comes to men, I am attracted to subs who have the ability to be a decent service top should my mood swing that way while we're together; with women, I am attracted to those who have no interest in topping me. It's just the way I'm wired.... maybe I need an electrician......



purepleasure -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/4/2008 4:35:05 AM)

This is going to sound sooooo wrong, but fuggit.  I am most attracted to vanilla with strong personalities that exhibit an interest in BDSM.  I enjoy bringing them into the darkside, helping them experience thier deepest fantasies, and embracing the kinkster that they really are.



arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/4/2008 8:51:54 AM)


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ORIGINAL: solvr70.

so....what type of person do S/switches tend to be attracted to, and with that occasional interest in Toping, is bottom still the best description of myself?



Here is where IMO labels are not helpful. In the end you need to clearly state what you've stated here cause that's what a potential partner needs to understand. For me, I'm not typically anything ;).



xxblushesxx -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/4/2008 11:32:11 AM)

Sunshine! I hadn't noticed you here before. Welcome to the C-site; although it looks as if I'm a bit late.
You may (or may not since I haven't posted much over there lately) recognize me as coquette886 from the 'b-site'.
I hope you and your master are doing well.

~Christina



SweetiePie26 -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/4/2008 3:04:31 PM)

I generally don't switch within relationships so for me personally no.



ImpGrrl -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/4/2008 3:25:41 PM)

FR

First, as others have said - there is no such thing as "typical".

For me, I'm attracted to the person (not the orientation), and my relationship dynamics work out best if we let them settle themselves.  This means that I'm not "looking for" anyone in particular - and when the right person comes along, instead of defining a dynamic, it must work itself out organically.

I don't switch within a relationship, though, so a partner ends up being either dominant, submissive, or neutral to me as far as authority goes.  No back-and forth.

This doesn't mean that I'm not compatible with other switches - it just means that if I *am* with a switch, *our* dynamic must be consistent.

I'm very happily a slave in my primary relationship right now, and have other play relationships only at this time (not including my leather family, who are more like...well, *family*...than intimate relationships). 

Which, actually, brings up another thing.  For me, there are two basic types of "switching".  In no particular order, there are those who switch on a d/s axis (dominant and submissive, master and slave, etc.) and those who switch on an s/m axis (sadism and masochism, top and bottom).  Some combine the two, and switch on both axes.  But not everyone does.

So, someone can be a d/s switch and *only* a sadist or *only* a masochist, as well.  This means that they need to find partners who not only jive with a good place on their d/s axis, but who fulfill the fixed needs on the s/m axis. 



beltainefaerie -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/5/2008 1:26:22 AM)

I currently have an incredible Master and my companion is also a switch.  I am more submissive in general, and I think could be fulfilled just expressing that side, but it is awfully fun to smack my girl around occasionally and I am glad I get to do both.



Firewoman5 -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/25/2008 5:45:21 PM)

Well said, thank you!  Needs to be said out loud more often.



hardbodysub -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/25/2008 8:29:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SweetiePie26

I generally don't switch within relationships so for me personally no.


You know, two switches don't have to switch within their relationship. Their roles could be fixed between each other, while the switching happens with someone else.



warden1978 -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/31/2008 12:52:49 PM)

it depends on their compatibility with me



crouchingtigress -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (5/31/2008 4:25:13 PM)

yep.



wyldfae -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (6/9/2008 7:23:42 PM)

for me it kind of flows both ways though i'm more submissive but there are those times where someone will suggest some dominant activity and i'll just turn around,grin a mile wide then say"no,how bout you" that's how i feel,listen to the flow and go toward that direction



Deliena -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (6/10/2008 1:37:29 PM)

I've found in the past that I tend not to switch within relationships, I tend to be dominant with women and submissive with men.  However, in my current relationship my Master does enjoy me sometimes topping him so my switch tendancies are both satisfied and satisfying for both of us.



barrieboytoy -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (6/28/2008 11:50:35 AM)

I can play with a Domme as a sub, or a sub as a Dom... but one or the other only reflects half of my sexuality.

I could only consider a switch for a serious LTR. If that makes sense?





JadeGeisha -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (6/28/2008 1:41:00 PM)

I'm attracted to whomever might inspire me, no matter their role, label, preference, etc.



shadowcd -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (6/28/2008 10:58:21 PM)

I am a semi switch but mostly submissive,  in the past I have had the best experiances with switches that play a dom role, as they seem to be much more understanding and I guess patient due to my lack of experiance and or training.  
naturally I am much more attracted to Doms though as I am primarly a submissive, and am in search for a Dom that will one day be my life mate and convert me completly to sub.



Dana1979 -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (6/29/2008 12:29:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: solvr70

I know this is a bit of a generalization, and i not big on those, but...

It seems pretty intuitive that Dom/me's tend to be attracted to subs, and the reverse would be true.

Top's i would think would be attacted to subs and bottoms.

But, i've never quite been sure about S/switches.

i do tend to fall outside of "bottom" mode and if the one i'm with enjoys taking the bottom role, i do enjoy Toping. but not enough to consider myself a S/switch.

so....what type of person do S/switches tend to be attracted to, and with that occasional interest in Toping, is bottom still the best description of myself?



sweetness i'd call you a bottom switch  from what you said cause it sounds like me i have a few pets online but my passion is for serving my girlfriend  who is a switch aswell though thing have progressed to the point of us become fixxed in our roles



fanTABOOlousGuy -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (7/10/2008 12:56:56 PM)

I do think bi switches interact differently than a straight switch.

Bi switches generally are just more openminded and their actions as a switch are more a result of them enjoying all aspects of sex, including an array of kinks, which creates an indifference to role or gender. Bi switches tend to seek other bi switches because it keeps all the options open to trying everything with their partners. They will also seek doms and subs, but moreso those that are into poly, groups, swinging, or open relationships. This way they can still find pleasure in whatver they like, just with multiple partners.

A straight switch seems to be more rooted in true BDSM, in that they have mixed tendancies and don't like to only  sub or only dom for too long a period of time. A straight switch will undoubtedly lean one way or the other and naturally find more compatibility with an opposite leaning switch or their opposite dom/sub.

So I guess the answer is in general switches prefer other switches but won't rule out a dom or sub altogether.




HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (7/10/2008 9:43:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName
I think what folks are saying is, there is no such animal as a typical switch, therefore, there is no one typical switch behavior or preference. You just take it one switch at a time.

MNN


I don't know about that.  There's something to be said about being switched by a switch with a bundle of switches.



soshiazukai -> RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? (7/11/2008 11:55:25 AM)

well i guess im the werid one out. i'm smack dab in the middle. 



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