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RE: Your Status - 2/16/2008 3:52:01 PM

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Fake-hit on me somewhere else, GT.

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RE: Your Status - 2/16/2008 3:57:05 PM

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Lighten up Francis.

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L'il Ol' Time Waster Me - 2/16/2008 4:39:48 PM

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Wow! The angry, arrogant, self-righteous, condescending and judgemental tone of this post is so hard to get by that I don't know if I can come up with a response!
But I will say that I take a more casual approach to representing myself here than the OP would like me to. Quite frankly, I find his expectations unreasonable, no matter how simple he might think it is to change for his benefit. This site is terrific, but its check boxes and drop downs don't accurately reflect every circumstance and so I kind of think of them as general filters. When I do a search, I expect to get a lot of returns that aren't really what I'm looking for, so it kind of bewilders me that someone would feel their time is being wasted personally by me if I don't try my best to make sure they don't see me in their search unless I'm a good fit for them.
In any case, after looking at the OPs profile and its list of qualifications for Ms Right, I would say that 99.9% of us who put up a profile are wasting his time. Shame on us.

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RE: L'il Ol' Time Waster Me - 2/16/2008 4:52:20 PM

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well said, HBO!! *applauds*

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RE: L'il Ol' Time Waster Me - 2/16/2008 4:58:08 PM

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Quick reply:

Did 2/3 of this thread disappear? Was it because of moderation?

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RE: L'il Ol' Time Waster Me - 2/16/2008 6:15:03 PM

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Yep, it sure did lose a big chunk of the more vehement parts

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RE: L'il Ol' Time Waster Me - 2/16/2008 6:15:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OrrisKitten

Quick reply:

Did 2/3 of this thread disappear? Was it because of moderation?

Thats one way to put it...

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RE: L'il Ol' Time Waster Me - 2/16/2008 6:18:32 PM

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or the lack thereof

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RE: Your Status - 2/16/2008 9:12:09 PM

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1. If you were conducting a search on this site for a single dom who is interested in finding a sub, would it annoy or offend you to see a great many ads start off by saying that the person is married or otherwise not available? Remember, they have deliberately adjusted their profile checklist so that they will show up whenever someone searches for a "Dom seeing a sub"?

Would that offend you and make you resent this person for wasting your time?

No, I think everyone should seek what it is they like, as long as they are upfront about it and honest.

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2. If you are just here to make friends and use the forum, not to find a partner, do your profile settings reflect this?

My profile reflects my status

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3. Have you inserted something into your profile like "I am taken", "I am not looking" or "I am under consideration"? If yes, have you ALSO gone back into the profile settings to change your status?

Yes

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RE: Your Status - 2/16/2008 9:25:00 PM

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Does the OP really think that preaching to the choir is effective?

My status has always been accurate. Up until last week my opening line was "I'm not looking for anyone" and my "actively seeking" was set on friends only. Didn't make much difference in the emails I received.

Now it says I am owned, but the seeking part has expanded because we play with others. If someone is filtering on women seeking Dominant men looking for an exclusive relationship, you are still going to get me in your result, because "exclusive" is not a filtering option. Well, okay, I'll be in your list but I won't pop to your screen because I don't have a picture up.

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RE: Your Status - 2/16/2008 9:30:52 PM

Maya2001

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This is addressed to female submissives:
female sub here

1. If you were conducting a search on this site for a single dom who is interested in finding a sub, would it annoy or offend you to see a great many ads start off by saying that the person is married or otherwise not available? Remember, they have deliberately adjusted their profile checklist so that they will show up whenever someone searches for a "Dom seeing a sub"? that is norm here and on pay to use sites

Would that offend you and make you resent this person for wasting your time? no as I said before the norm on dating sites not just here or BDSM related

2. If you are just here to make friends and use the forum, not to find a partner, do your profile settings reflect this? Right at the moment just friends is checked, instead of just having males doms contact me that did not read my profile, I am no being contact additionally , by male/female subs, switches, Dommes(am am listed as straight) and couples asking if I will cyber or meet to play

Remember? There is a query drop-down checklist that asks what you are looking for. One of the choices is "Friends Only".....after creating your profile, this option is accessible via "Edit Profile" on the Home page.

3. Have you inserted something into your profile like "I am taken", "I am not looking" or "I am under consideration"? If yes, have you ALSO gone back into the profile settings to change your status?
yes to both

If not, why not? Are you aware that your profile is needlessly showing up when a dom searches for available subs, and that you could easily change this?

It might be saving you time but is becoming a total pain in the ass for me and I am recieving more mail now than when I had searching for Dom checked.

If the number of emails do not slow down .. so I am not continually getting emails from male subs looking to serve me, female subs looking for extra play partners to share or for their Dom/mes(I am straight) , and switches and couples asking if I will play with them, and all combos asking to cyber with me , I will be removing the friends only and going back to checking the searching for male Dominants box again leaving the part in my profile stating I am not searching right now, because all friends only has done was opened to viewing by a greater number of people who don't bother to read profiles and thinks that friends only means play once in a while or open to cyber.

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RE: Your Status - 2/17/2008 12:30:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: andrewmac

So....if they're going to take the time to write that, why not just go into "Edit Profile" and change the preference box as to what they're searching for, to "Just Friends"?

This spares them the pushy guys who will ignore a written "just looking" statement, and no longer will they be wasting time and annoying those who are conducting a search for available women.....they will no longer show up in that results list.

Dang, I forgot I was supposed to rearrange my profile for the guys who ignore what I say... Thanks for the reminder.

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RE: Your Status - 3/2/2008 6:53:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: andrewmac

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

My profile says that I'm attached and not looking, but I still get tons of mail asking for relationships. I just delete. I don't have the friends only box checked because I'm actually not here looking for lifestyle friends either...pointless to me in cyber land. I'm only here for the message boards which is clearly stated in my profile also.

Sorry that you feel that other's profiles don't conform to your requirements of how they should be in order to save you some time. Such is life.

Yes, good manners are such hard work. It's SO much to ask. Can you ever forgive me for suggesting something constuctive that would save aggravation and time? After all....life is all about wasting time and energy, isn't it? Why have any consideration for others? Why suggest that things could be better? Why try to be the best person you can? Much more fun to look down on those who dare not to live in lazy resignation to obnoxious flaws. Why improve anything? That's just the way life is....why try to make it any better?

OK - clearly you're in need of a time out. 1 minute for every year old you are. SO to the corner with you, and once you've learned to be polite you can rejoin us.

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

And finally, it's time to turn the computer off and go out and discover the real world. Cyberspace is clearly not to your liking, let's go meet some real people and relax a bit.

Blessings and Peace

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RE: Your Status - 3/2/2008 8:12:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: andrewmac

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

You do make a good point that the profile boxes should match what you are actually looking for. However, I think that it would be helpful if there were more so that search options could be narrowed.

Actually, my point is that the options that already DO exist are not being used.
I'm finding that many, if not most of the profiles that show up when I seach for available women have a disclaimer inserted....."I'm not looking right now".

So....if they're going to take the time to write that, why not just go into "Edit Profile" and change the preference box as to what they're searching for, to "Just Friends"?

This spares them the pushy guys who will ignore a written "just looking" statement, and no longer will they be wasting time and annoying those who are conducting a search for available women.....they will no longer show up in that results list.

Ah yes, never mind those people that think if they contact you ANYWAY, you will suddenly have the life shattering realization that YES regardless of what your profile says THEY are what you need and your profile is all wrong.

Even when we make profiles as clear-cut as possible there will still be those HNGs and apparently illiterate asses that contact you anyway. They must be masochist to love all the rejection they receive.....

The point is, suck it up, it comes with the territory, welcome to the World Wide Web, we welcome all types..........

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