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BlackPhx -> RE: Question please? (2/16/2008 10:54:59 AM)
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Most male dominantes will not admit they compete because we all feel we are in a class of own and are a unique and interesting fellow that women find irresistable. The idea other dominants pale in comparison and confidence this is true is part of the allure of our nature, and our sucesses in attracting female submissives or slaves enforce that belief in our selves. But, there is an abundance of dominants all wanting similar traits in thier submissive partners and only a limited number of female submissives available.
With the ability to choose among hundreds of applicants the submissive or slave has a lot more leverage in choosing who they will get involved with. So yes while we do not allow ourselves to get in direct confrontations and fights we do compete in the arena of attracting interest by developing interesting style and characteristics to seperate us from the crowd. Some do it by an imposing image, the sound of thier voice, a silver tounged devil at prose, highly developed intelligence, wisdom, or wit, craftmanship at toys, or expertise in sadistic pleasures. But we do compete on some level, lucky for most of us the act of competing just requires us to be ourselves so most dominants that are successful never even realize they beat out dozen or hundreds of competitors. Others, not quite so confident, not quite so sure have to work very hard at thier craft and are well aware of the competition.
I have been lucky to have had multiple experiences, and even to my regret had to let a couple of prize catches go because I could not give them the life they yearned for for finacial reasons. And now that I have a masochist all to my own that I cherish, I no longer have to compete. I can now take a good reflective look at the road I had to traverse to get to this point.
But, I am getting sidetracked with my own thoughts.
What it boils down to is every word, every action, every interaction with a submissive or slave is a bid for that submissives attention and time. This is in competition with all the other dominants that also want that submissives attention and time. Even this forum post is an attempt to dominate your attention and time by impressing upon you how well we answer your question by displaying our intelligence, depth and wisdom of our words.
Does this mean we are controlled by you or have to captiulate to your every demand to even get a chance of having a submissive. The answer is no, we can still be true to ourselves, still compete, and still be dominant without being manipulated. That being said, what creates success in this field is often based on the expectations and desires of the submissives and most if not all of the dominantes adopt and incorperate those elements in thier styles just enough to increase the odds but not enough to make them just another face in the crowd.
Wierd and humble Master of poenkitten
BlackPhx
"I am not kissing you ass. I am dominating it with powerful blows from my lips."
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