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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 10:09:27 AM   
silvermuse


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Status: offline 		I say the truth. That he and I met online in a html rpg/chat room, and his character tried to force collar mine, as I came damn close to killing his...That was 11 years ago this year.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 10:18:32 AM   
Sub03


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Status: offline 		I met my Master on here, so I just tell people we met online. So far nobody has asked what site.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 10:22:37 AM   
vampchick88


Posts: 346
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Status: offline 		When people ask where I met my "b/f" and a few know that he is my pet I tell them I met him online. He contacted me and a bit after we began talking on the phone and it was the best decision to give him a chance even though the distance seems a bit intimidating at first. The few people that know he's my pet don't exactly understand it but they respect it. They know that we're both happy and pet's treating me so much better than people from the past and they're glad I've finially found my one.
The last week of March we're finially meeting face to face after eight months.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 12:55:31 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I just say online and that we started talking because he's a contractor and I needed advice. The truth is that the online was b.com and the contractor info came a couple of weeks later but so what.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 4:14:11 PM   
Vigilantejustice


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Joined: 11/15/2004
Status: offline 		My husband and I met in a very vanilla way, at an all night coffee shop. I talked to him because he had cool hair. So that part is pretty open.

My darling boy pet, however, is another story. Fortunately, most of the people I'm friends with know that I am kinky and poly, in fact many attended my collaring! But for my family, or co-workers, or people of that sort, I met him through mutual friends (somewhat accurate, it was a play party and he knew a friend of mine from TNG).

Fortunately for me, I am involved in a lot of different hobbies, so when I am going out to my Thursday morning coffee munch, or to parties, or to any of the other kinky fun things that happen, I can say that I'm going out with friends from yoga, knitting, musicians, etc. Half of them are those things too, why not?!

whips and kisses,
C

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 5:02:04 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

How did you meet? But there's a twist. If you met like we did, it doesn't work to tell vanilla people the truth (usually!) so where do you actually tell people you met if you can't say "In a dungeon" or whatnot?


Since I met both my former submissive and the submissive I'm currently courting on CM, I'd just tell people "online, and then we progressed to phone, e-mails and finally met in person." Not terribly creative, just the facts.
 
Maybe I should make up something like, "There we were at 35,000 feet. She huddled in the seat next to me. As she glanced first at me and then at the blue Pacific waters rushing past below, I knew just what she was thinking: 'This is a hell of a way to get from Cleveland to Indianapolis...."
 
Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 5:22:31 PM   
MissAidan


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Status: offline 		I've come up with all kinds of interesting stories, sometimes tailored to the person/people asking just for shits and giggles.  My previous Dom I met in a vanilla chatroom on yahoo, and a lot of my lifestyle friends got a kick out of that.  My current, lennoxx, and I met at an event at a club I used to bartend at that was hosting a local group I knew to be bad knews...I had promised my toy at the time that I would take him, even though I didn't want to go and despised the group "performing" that night.  He was there (as he said) giving a friend some help with vending.  I am unexplainably attracted to shiny objects, and his friend had plenty of those to sell.  We hit it off.  Luckily, that makes for an easy story...we met at the club and hit it off.  Not terribly exciting, but what can ya do.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 7:20:52 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass
Anyway, people love to ask a happy couple how they met which I am also curious about in this thread. How did you meet? But there's a twist. If you met like we did, it doesn't work to tell vanilla people the truth (usually!) so where do you actually tell people you met if you can't say "In a dungeon" or whatnot?

We met here on CM.  Our friends and family know we met online but they do not know what site.  We've been rather vague.  Many of His co-workers also know we met online and believe it was on a site to do with book discussions.  That's really not so untrue since the first day we talked, much of it was about exactly that - our respective, favorite books.

I have told my own co-workers that we met "through friends."  People are always curious how I wound up meeting Him when He lived in AR and I was in WV.  So that explanation soothes their curiosity and I always say it kind of fast-like and dismissive-like and just flow right into talking about how great He is and how glad I am we met, etc. and their mind is off the question in a heartbeat.

It's really none of their business but we just don't wanna tell 'em that.  So, we fudge a bit because we know their little closed minds probably couldn't handle the truth.  Plus, for some reason, meeting online to some people doesn't seem like the beginning of a "real" or "solid" relationship.  Pffffttt.....whadda they know?.................luci





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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 8:13:07 PM   
whiteslavebitch


Posts: 479
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Status: offline 		I tell people that I met him when I was in NYC for concerts, which is half of the truth.

We had started communicating online at Paddle's old yahoo group initially, and moved to IM and email.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 8:17:39 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		At church, the grocery store , the zoo, a bar, Aunt Jennies' funeral, methadone clinic, serial killers anonymous, Anywhere but here. Methadone clinic seems kind of cool compared to CM.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/23/2008 1:52:05 PM   
AtlantisKing111


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Status: offline 		*shrug*  I just say we met on the internet.  So many people are doing that these days that no one questions it or asks which specific website.

Hmmmm.  Actually, one did ask which site we met on now that I think of it.  I told him yahoo.com's personals pages.

AK

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/26/2008 9:07:57 PM   
DominaSmartass


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AtlantisKing111

Hmmmm.  Actually, one did ask which site we met on now that I think of it.  I told him yahoo.com's personals pages.

AK


How sad! Now you've caused one more poor soul to have false hope for finding someone on the yahoo personal's.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/26/2008 10:12:19 PM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass


quote:

ORIGINAL: AtlantisKing111

Hmmmm.  Actually, one did ask which site we met on now that I think of it.  I told him yahoo.com's personals pages.

AK


How sad! Now you've caused one more poor soul to have false hope for finding someone on the yahoo personal's.


i did.  *smiles*  then again, i can excuse it by saying it was about 8 years ago...

kitten

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/27/2008 6:14:25 AM   
ThunderRoad


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Status: offline 		We met on collarme, actually.

I had emailed her six-months previously and she ignored my message (what a bitch!).  Later, she emailed me saying basically "I'd like to know more about you - you have an interesting profile" completely forgetting that I had approached her earlier that year (a ditzy bitch at that!!).

Well, we exchanged some emails, then chatted a couple nights on the phone, and then basiclly decided to get together for a weekend-long D/s booty call within about three days of her first email.  We had no expectations of anything beyond just having fun.  To keep the suspense (and as part of her rape fantasy) she didn't see my picture.  I sent her a long list of things to do to prep before my arrival and she had her door unlocked and was sitting in the living room facing away from me.  She wasn't allowed to turn around and the first thing I did when I got there was to blindfold her and then spend about 2 hours ignoring her while I rifled through her cupboards and drawers, used the bathroom, watched some TV, and just sat and looked at her etc.  Finally we got it on and had a grand old time all without her seeing me for about three hours after my arrival.

(yes yes, we made so many stupid mistakes there about not meeting in private the first time and all that ... we use it as an educational tool for people as to what NOT to do)

Two weeks later we were talking engagement.  Less than two months later the ring was on her finger.  Big cathedral church wedding this summer :)

Now, what do we tell friends and family?

For family we tell them we met on match.com.

For close friends that we don't mind know we are a little out there (but not that we are M/s lifestyle) we'll tell them "We met on NOT-match.com" and let their imaginations run wild.

Lifestyle friends of course know we met here an generally our first-meeting story as well.

[edited for a nasty typo]


< Message edited by ThunderRoad -- 2/27/2008 6:18:13 AM >

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/27/2008 6:33:45 AM   
DerangedUnit


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Joined: 2/23/2007
Status: offline 		i met Master through another of His slave here on cm about 2 years ago and i tell people that most figure it out first anyways though ALL of my family knew within a month and since but they knew i was lifestyle before that since my whole family is (they are all Doms though...a little pissed i took the other route)  my boss and all my coworkers knew and didnt care (my second job wasnt as lenient though) and every friend i have is into bdsm to (or is after meeting me  ) Masters family and all His girlfriends still think we're friends that live together though everyone else He knows He acts normal around though and treats me like a His pet (so all His friends know me as Robert's pet)

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