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Bound2One -> RE: Men I want to hear... (3/7/2008 10:43:22 PM)
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The point being is the reason I feel nothing toward these woman but lingering bitterness and no more then that is that I feel I am better then they are. I will never become what they where to me to others. I actually don't seek to tear down woman but rather I feel there has to be another way, great woman have lived and died with atributes I aspire to, honor, bravery, ability to adapt, strength, to need only myself.
Thank you for explaining yourself a bit more.
I actually understand where you're coming from; however I had abuse from my father, not my mother. Not sexual, not physical, but mental, and more of it was directed to and affected my sister and her life. I'm stronger than she is, and had more support from friends, so was able to heal and more on. But yeah, the way he played us sticks with me and the effects pop up from time to time for me.
Sooooo.... I'm sharing to let you know that I could have let the way my father treated us color my entire vision of the male sex. I could look around and find some really fucked-up men and let that be my guide to men. I've been able to have great relationships with men, and in doing so, saw that he was not an example of how it had to be.
I completely get that your mother and stepmother abused you. I wish that you had some better female role models outside of them to give you a more balanced view of what women are like. Well, actually perhaps you have because you mention some traits you've admired in women and that you aspire to them. You can't judge an entire gender because of what was done to you. It takes those characteristics you mentioned admiring - bravery, honesty and strength, to be able to acknowledge the good in others.
I actually liked the way you posted your original question .. until I read your diatribe on how much you despise women, how weak they are, etc. I don't like generalizations and, that post was a doozy of a generalization.
To answer your question as to how I feel about women ... I can only speak of those that I know. The women in my family are strong, funny, supportive and smart. I admire them greatly even when they're driving me batty because they're family and we all have our issues. :-) They've made some choices I question and wouldn't have chosen myself, but most of those choices are personal and I haven't discussed this with them.
The women who are my friends - their personalities vary greatly, from conservative, almost uptight, to very accepting. They are loyal to our friendships, always there when needed in a crisis (cancer, sick kid, carpool, etc.). They are people I can call at 3am and say "I need help" and they'd be there. They are smart, opinionated, colored by many different backgrounds and experiences, which often explain to me the differences between us. They share the good as well as the bad, will give an honest opinion and will call me out when it's needed.
The women who are on the outside peripherals of my life - I just don't know enough about to pass judgment. They can be funny, annoying, seemingly incredibly stupid, giving, not-accepting ... all sorts of things both good and bad.
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