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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/15/2008 1:07:58 PM

sirguym

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I feel that my primary responsibility is to help direct their efforts to fulfil their potential even better than they are already.

And to refrain from anything that cramps, limits or stunts their potential.

Sometime achieving that potential means they grow beyond the role of submissive or slave; but I do it anyway.

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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/15/2008 1:17:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: Glenin

Greetings,
I am new to this forum and read through alot of the posts and found alot of very useful information from some very insightful members. I thought this forum would be a great place to get some much needed answers. Here goes...

My question to you is, what are the responsibilities of a Master? I have searched the net for these last few months and I seem to only find examples, both general and very detailed, of the role and responsibilites of a slave, but there doesn't seem to be any clear descriptions of what is expected of a Master. In my opinion, a Master should take care of His slave just as well as a slave does her Master. (Obviously, in different ways.) Am I wrong? The role of a slave can be difficult, both emotionally and physically. Isn't it the responsibility of a Master to care for his slave as he would any other prized possession? You can love your car and ride it fast and hard but you have to take the time to repair any damage you may cause to it, and also make sure you keep up on regular maintenance that it will need to run properly, correct?

Being humiliated, punished ( or corrected, however you might like to see it ), emotionally cut down at the knees, etc, comes with the responsibility of being a slave, and long treatment in such a way could cause emotional or physical scarring if a slave is not properly cared for. Let's face it, we are human, not robots. We have feelings and physical limits, and while a good slave strives to exceed her physical limits to please her Master, and swallows her humiliation and takes it as a lesson learned to better please Him in the future, do we not deserve to be appreciated or treated with kindness when deserved? Or are slaves only possessions, inanimate, like a car? Something to be used and expected to function properly when needed?

So, my question to you all, is how does a Master best care for his slave and her needs? If this question has already been addressed in a post I may have missed, I would appreciate someone taking the time to give me a link so I may go there and learn what I can, and my apologies for the repeat in topic.

I hope this post was worth reading for you all, and any help/advice in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.

My responsibility's as a master is to place her on the straight and narrow path of her journey and to see that she exceeds my expectations for her..To educate if she needs educated,to provide for her needs, not only her physical needs but her emotional needs as well..

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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/15/2008 7:52:09 PM

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I wrote this a while ago for another non lifestyle/BDSM (Pagan) forum in reply to a question. This reply has been upsetting to some very good folk so pulled the post and sent a copy of this to the one who had asked the original question of me. Although I write about a Master/slave relationship, all that I have said equally applies to a Mistress/slave relationship to. Should some feel that this may apply to a Dominant/submissive dynamic, then it is simply I do not have any experience in relationships with submissives, only slaves.

In my world there are an over abundance who believe a woman collared is then a toy to be used and not thought about as all she wants to do is serve him as his slave.. She does want that with a fire burning in her belly that is
unquenchable unless she is owned by a man who doesn’t care for her..

It takes a Man, a real man to understand that his slave is something more
precious than all the wealth in the world. She has given him her submission for she believes he is trustworthy, honest, truthful, honourable and possesses both integrity and kindness. In his hands she gives her being. He holds her health, her wellbeing, her happiness, her life itself. With a single glance he can reduce her to tears and her world roiling with misery as she wonders what she did wrong. With the touch if a hand on her hair he can lift her to a state is bliss and ecstasy. Kneeling at his feet naked she is in heaven, It takes a real Man to accept this responsibility and hold it truly without guile and misuse.

It takes great courage and a huge heart to give yourself completely to such a man. Both must be worthy of the other. Such a master will want to and indeed work hard on knowing his slave, her needs, her wants, her secret desires. At this stage they work as one, complementing one another and yet two individual people. She knows she can speak to him of her problems and gently put things right when he makes mistakes for she too knows he is a man and thus not perfect. When he is at work, she misses his masculine presence. He too misses her being near him so that their time together is complete.. Are such men really walking this earth? I have been blessed by knowing a number of them and their girls. Mayhap one day I may aspire to walk with then as an equal..

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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/15/2008 9:50:07 PM

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I am a dominant of some 23 years. I am of the belief that I was born a dominant alpha male not realizing that I had to cultivate my dominant traits till I was mentored by a wonderful couple while in college in the midwest. I think every slave, every submissive has needs. I am not using slave and submissive synonymously, its just for the benefit of both readers that I include both in this post. Each unto their own, very specific and very individualized needs and desires that are exclusive of lust, wanton behaviour or addiction. Mastery is not a job or a duty, with no disrespect to others that have posted here, it is simply a responsibility.

Let's break down, "RESPONSE - ABILITY" Knowing that every sub or slave has individualized needs and SEEK to have them fulfilled, the "RESPONSE" portion of responsibility is the Master's uniquely appropriate response to that individualized need of that specific slave.

The "ABILITY" to fulfill or compliment that slave's need varies from dominant to dominant based on life experiences and the ability to know him/or/herself. To be able to do this effectively can at times be trying or even difficult, when my slave calls her needs to my attention, no matter how trying my day has been at work, I never let on that it is difficult, as I am always available to her. I almost always mask my internal or personal challenges as my self-control and power do not come from the end of my hand, my paddle or my flogger, I am simply empowered by my slave by her need to submit, not because I have labled myself a Dominant or Master.

Because I maintain this position, my girl, my beloved slave will always feel trust in submitting her needs to me, she always looks at me eith those big beautiful green eyes and tells me she "would do anything for me," therein lies my response-ability or responsibility It's never a job, its an adventure, high maintainence at times but all delicious for me.

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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/17/2008 9:58:29 AM

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This is Darcy

When she needs guidance, I am there with words of wisdom.
When she needs reassurance, I am there with open arms to hold her close.
When she needs to be creative, I am there to support her, and to encourage her.
When she needs material things, I am there to provide that which she really needs.
When she needs to serve me, I am there to let her take care of me and bring me that which I desire.
When she needs to be sexually submissive, I am there to do all those deliciously terrible things that we both love.

In return I feel happy, loved, content, satisfied and like a King.

This may not work for everybody, but it works for the.dark and I.

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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/17/2008 4:21:48 PM

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I shouldn't oversimplify this, but I will.

She offered me her hand. I asked her to walk with me. She tried to follow behind me. I carried her, instead. Together, we follow the road, enjoy the scenery. Neither of us know the destination - we just want to journey together, regardless of the weather.

The rest - the specific terms, the vows, the roles and the rules - will come and pass.

I only have one hard rule regarding my duties, really: be worthy of her.

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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/18/2008 9:55:31 AM

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Thats so lovely Lumus, goosebump's and all that :D

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RE: A Question for the Masters - 3/18/2008 5:00:01 PM

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This is quite a broad question. I would have to say that My first responsibility to My slave is to her health and well-being. There, an equally broad answer to the question. A slave's well being is much more that seeing to the necessities of the slave's life. It is also taking the worry out of being. Thanks to the Master, all the slave has to worry about is obeying and enduring. Master, on the other hand, must make the decisions for two lives, instead of just one. Most all of Master's life worries are multiplied by two, the slave's worry being reduced to making sure Master is happy. Again, this is an overly simple, overly broad answer, but so is the question.

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