Gwynvyd
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ORIGINAL: tammystarm true but coming back home (to Tn) from St Louis where they all had best behaviors and kuddos from teachers to this, its never ending!! My son is in the principals office nearly everyday. i keep saying that same thing, spirited lil bugger isnt he. BUT there comes a time when it has to stop. i cant change the fact that he is getting a bad name (getting=has), but He can change the attitude. He's falling for the trap, they are setting for Him. Around here get into trouble once=always the bad guy. im at a loss cause im a totaly wuss when it comes to my kids. Dear Abby, (Holly) help! Tammy hun.. with all of the changes.. his Dad now not being there.. the house burning, the moving away from friends, your health, and moods with the firbo and all the changes you went through too... the poor kid is prob. a bundle of emotions he has no idea what to do with. He prob has so many conflicting emotions and ideas of what he could have done, what he should be doing.. ect.. esp if he is now the "Man of the house" . My Um had/has "Man of the house" syndrome. He would not sleep in his room for 2 months here. He slept on the living room floor or the couch durring that time. I finaly got it out of him. He was protecting me and the baby incase a burglar would break in... he would be there first. Mind you he is 11. He also started combing the newspapers for jobs... ( for him) so he could help out. *just smiles* ( He is now back to sleeping in his bedroom.. and no longer reading the paper) I am sure your um is feeling the presure too... and has cracked under a bit of it. When my ex girl and I separated it was so hard on the um. He acted like the biggest jerk to me ever. ~ And his teachers too. We talked.. got a good deal of it out... and now he is doing good in school again. Just try and sit him down.. the 2 of you alone... and talk.. really talk. Dont interupt.. dont take it personaly.. they are intitled to thier emotions.. even if they are based on total non reality. Just let him talk.. and help him through it.. you might find some healing in it too with someone who has gone through it with you. *hugs* Gwyn
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