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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 4:09:52 PM

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Thanks for your reply ,,, but surely if you can not touch , feel or hear how each other are ......... how can you bond other than by words.

This was a response to my post?

I do not live 1000mi away as I once did ~~
As a matter of fact, I walked farther in the
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As for trust and bonding? Trust comes first.
We have been bonding and learning for over a year now...
I KNOW where my home is.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 4:27:51 PM

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hear? thats what phones are for LOL

before I would move I'd have to spend time visiting on either (or both) ends. and yes, I'd move (planning to, actually..)

*dances around in excitement that we are gaining a Greedy :D

I live five hours away from Ceno and nik and yeah plan is i move up there eventually, but its not halfway accross the world so I dunno if that counts.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 4:44:56 PM

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I know that a lot of subs / slaves may state that they are willing to relocate......
But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.
And yes I understand about getting to know and learning to trust your Dom / Master before doing anything , it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

When Master and i first started chatting and when it became clear that we were very compatible we agreed that one of us would relocate if it became unbearable to be apart. It did and i moved 800 miles to be with Him. (And yes, we had quite a few visits in between to see that i could trust Him

).

So yes, there are some who follow through with what they say on their profile

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:00:41 PM

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I have done twice, once to move to Germany with my now belated Master who was killed, and have moved across country now to live with Master of the past 3 years.
both times i gave up everything.
I'm a slave it's my duty to relocate for the right Master, especially if he is settled and holds down a job he enjoys.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:04:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

hear? thats what phones are for LOL

before I would move I'd have to spend time visiting on either (or both) ends. and yes, I'd move (planning to, actually..)

*dances around in excitement that we are gaining a Greedy :D

I live five hours away from Ceno and nik and yeah plan is i move up there eventually, but its not halfway accross the world so I dunno if that counts.

*SMOOCH*

(i'm NOT looking forward to having to sort out what to take and what to store..LOL)

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:06:58 PM

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I moved from one country to another. It took a couple years to get the immigration approval, but once I did he had me move within a couple of weeks.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:11:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

hear? thats what phones are for LOL

before I would move I'd have to spend time visiting on either (or both) ends. and yes, I'd move (planning to, actually..)

*dances around in excitement that we are gaining a Greedy :D

I live five hours away from Ceno and nik and yeah plan is i move up there eventually, but its not halfway accross the world so I dunno if that counts.

*SMOOCH*

(i'm NOT looking forward to having to sort out what to take and what to store..LOL)

ummm...sort out a spare cot...have passport will travel. Could You move to Scotland instead though? i know from experience that a man with a good brogue is a force to be reckoned with at certain things...all those damned rolled r's or something.... note to self: have to get to Chambers before GT realizes how horrid Florida is in the Summer....

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:19:09 PM

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surely if you can not touch , feel or hear how each other are ......... how can you bond other than by words.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:19:41 PM

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i would be willing to relocate however i have others to think about - two of them. that would mean new schools to doctors/neurologists etc for both. however for now, i'm staying put and enjoy my wild rock-n-roll adventures.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:19:48 PM

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I'm not a sub, but I'd move to be with the right one. In fact, I'd love to move back to Europe, so if all went well AND he lived in a country I too wanted to live in, I'd go and not look back. A successful long-distance relationship will depend largely on the people involved. If someone says they won't relocate in their profile and you have no interest in moving to where they are, that rather settles that.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:30:57 PM

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and not to forget it says in the profile "willing" to relocate, meaning more or less willing to do it for the right person, which does not mean "they have to do it". I am happy to relocate if it works out with one of the Doms I am currently in touch with...but if not, then I am still happy just to move abroad on my own. So even when it might not be true for some people, when they state in their profiles "willing to relocate" it does still mean it can be true for some (like myself

) but at the end of the day, it's still their choice for whom they relocate and for whom not.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:31:54 PM

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For the right Lady and the right situation ,course i would not allow myself to get to that point frivolously....p.s. Lady Hathor i will ,could be and would too

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:40:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

mmm...sort out a spare cot...have passport will travel. Could You move to Scotland instead though? i know from experience that a man with a good brogue is a force to be reckoned with at certain things...all those damned rolled r's or something.... note to self: have to get to Chambers before GT realizes how horrid Florida is in the Summer....

Scotland.... land of my ancestors :) I'll always have space for ya, doll :) And I've been in FL for almost 5 yrs.. I know the summers...LOL

See, one of the things I haven't (to this point) seen discussed about the moving distances is the logistical aspect....

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:40:50 PM

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A Dom and sub should get to know each other under real circumstances before relocating one or the other. You will find a few who did the instant connection thing, moved together, and everything is wonderful. I doubt that this is a very successful scenario for most who try it.

I did relocate to my Dom after a relatively short time. We met at a kinky event and spent the next few months getting to know each other better via phone. He then came to spend a few weeks with me. I met his adult UMs and his grand UMs...and he met mine. A few months later i took a leave of absence from my job and went to be with him. I never went back to my job. We'd actually only been together face to face for less than 4 weeks before we made this decision. That was 2 1/2 years ago and we're very happy together.

Everyone needs to do what they feel is the right way. Do what feels most comfortable for you and don't worry about what others might do.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 5:45:56 PM

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Quick reply:

I moved from New England to CA to be with R. It took about a year to get it done but I never looked back.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 6:01:36 PM

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I state that I will not relocate and am realistic in my reasons at least in my opinion, I have a job here that is non transferable, I have put in nearly 18 out of 30 toward my full pension and benefits and will not risk throwing away in the event a relationship does not last.. the government pension alone is not enough to keep a roof my head and food on the table, have my own house and though my son does not live with me I would like to be around to see and spend time with my grandchildren. so for me ... I view relocation any distance that does not allow me to still easily drive to and from work as foolish at my age since I have no other income to sustain me.
I have had doms tell me they would provide for me .... but my question to them still boils down to ..what if things do not work out or you decide to tire of me, reality is that very few relationships are lasting ones and I am no spring chicken do be starting life over. So if they live a long distance from me and want to entertain a possible live in relationship than it would require them moving to me. But like some subs ...some Doms also make claims they are willing to relocate, as happened to one from NC that flew here back in February what he did not expect was that he would end up falling so hard for me after just one meet, and is still struggling with his feelings and how to make things work and now wants me to fly down to visit him all expenses paid to visit for a couple of weeks so we can talk ... not sure if that will happen though since i still have no intentions of relocating, we got along well but for me this one visit did not put me so head over heels as to depart with my common sense and the fact he mislead me does not help matters any.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 6:03:14 PM

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If my parents were no longer alive, I'd go anywhere I so desired, across the continant or two states away. I wouldn't really want to have to learn a foreign launguage, but if they were worth it, learning to speak the launguage would be too. The only reason I am stuck so solidly on staying in Sacramento is I love myp arents dearly and I know, you could go an visit regularly should you move away, I just prefere to stay close.

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ORIGINAL: devil1963

I know that a lot of subs / slaves may state that they are willing to relocate......
But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.
And yes I understand about getting to know and learning to trust your Dom / Master before doing anything , it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 6:13:10 PM

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Me too. I am in Elverta right now, which is technically 12 miles north of Sacramento, and I'd be willing to move clear out to loomis or rocklin, which is a good 30 mins away from here. Course I already have a dom, relocation would be to find a home of our own, and possibly be closer to his work.

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I'd be willing to move from the exact spot where I live, within a reasonable distance.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 6:51:01 PM

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Yes,but only to an area with netter business and standard of life conditions. And not just because someone else refused to leave thiers.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 6:52:35 PM

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I think ones stage in life, and by extension, age, play huge factors on this issue, not to mention ones socioeconomic status. Personally, I'm a student (returning to school) scheduled to graduate next spring, and I plan on going to grad school, which will necessitate relocation. After grad school, however, I'll be extremely mobile and more than willing to relocate for the right person. I'm also open to the idea of having my choice in grad school influenced.

I'm not actually certain if I have the 'willing to relocate' flag set or not. I've wavered on it a few times because I'm certainly willing and able to relocate, just not immediately, and not to just anywhere.

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