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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/27/2008 3:10:29 PM

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I know that a lot of subs / slaves may state that they are willing to relocate......
But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.
And yes I understand about getting to know and learning to trust your Dom / Master before doing anything , it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

i have never said anything i have never meant, and that included relocation. When it came to being asked to move in with Master Andy i had two choices, move closer to my work as it had been decamped elsewhere and travel to be with him at every opportunity, an LDR if you will, not a situation to be relished, or to move to be with him, and travel to my work.

i chose the latter, 5+ hours commuting everyday to do a full time job, and i have never regretted it. That the stress may have contributed to my health deteriorating did not seem a factor at the time, and isn't a great concern now, i am too ill to work.

Do i regret relocating, and possibly damaging my health into the bargain? Not on your life, it has been the best decision i ever made, because now i am whole, i am his, and we will be together for always.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/27/2008 3:30:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: devil1963

I know that a lot of subs / slaves may state that they are willing to relocate......
But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.
And yes I understand about getting to know and learning to trust your Dom / Master before doing anything , it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

I'm trying to deal with this question right now.

Six months ago, I would have refused to relocate anywhere. I had nothing to do with people who were looking for subs half (or more) a world away. I've been in a long distance D/s relationship before, and it failed miserably.

Now, over the last six months, I've gotten attached to my current Dom and his wife who live an hour or so away. That hasn't been too terrible. But we're living in Maine; she's from Austin, Texas, and there are good job/housing opportunities for them there. It would really be best for them.

I couldn't deal with another long distance relationship if I stayed. But if I had the option of moving with them, would it be the best opportunity for me? I know it's a question only I can answer... but I just wanted to share.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/27/2008 8:42:41 PM

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I'm not only willing to relocate, but am prepared to. I have condensed all of my belongings to be able to fit in my vehicle. I live in Huntsville, Alabama, which is where my family and I are from. I have moved out of here several times only to be forced to return due to circumstances beyond my control. The first time was a job layoff, the second time was a bad relationship that I needed family support to end and this last time was because of hurricane Katrina. Since hurricane Katrina happened and I was forced to return here, I vowed to myself that I would not add to my posessions anything that I couldn't load up and leave with. Also, since a lot of my friends have been fortunate enough to leave this place in the past few months, I only have one close friend and my family as personal ties. My close friend wants to move with me and I can easily live away from my family.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/27/2008 9:40:25 PM

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But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.

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You can't move further than half-way across the world. That puts you on the further point - going further actually brings you closer to your starting point ;)

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/28/2008 10:18:53 AM

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I moved from England to Australia ... that's about half way ... when I was 11. After that, everything else seems doable!

In D/s, i met Master online ... then on phone ... then in the flesh. In all, W/we had 3 "flesh" meetings of 5 days, 11 days, and 23 days (anyone else spot the nice arithmetic progression there?) ... spread over 9 months before making the decision that W/we wanted to be together 24/7. W/we'd each visited the other's home and He made the choice to be the One to move, as He liked where i was better. That actually went against His preconceived notions of who should do the moving ... i like a Man who can be adaptable. So He moved 5000 miles diagonally across Australia in June 2004. June 2006 He collared me. Circumstances in my home changed, and my city became ridiculously unaffordable in terms of housing. So in Feb 2007 i left the city where i had lived for 40 years and W/we did the 5000 miles back across country to settle some 200 miles from His home town (close enough to the parents but not too close!). So yes, both of U/us really were relocatable!

That said, now My Domme side is looking for a sub to be 24/7 live-in, it would be considerably more difficult for both Master and I to relocate again. So I am looking for someone who is relocatable to Me. Given that it's not so easy to enter Australia from other countries these days, I am restricting My search to those who are already in Australia ... that's a big enough sea to cast My net into.

As others have said, it depends on your personal situation, the presence of UMs (furkids are much easier to move), finances, health etc etc. But He doesn't regret moving to me and i don't regret moving here with Him. It's all a wonderful adventure and expanding horizons!

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/28/2008 10:56:18 AM

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I was one of those girls who said that she'd never move. Well, of course after meeting him.... it wasn't a difficult decision at all. I moved 3005 miles and left my house, my friends, my family, my job, etc. I left everything I knew life to be in order to be with him. It was the smartest decision I've ever made. Ever.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/28/2008 11:08:13 AM

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Please tell me I'm wrong...

devil,

short and to the point, you are wrong.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/28/2008 1:00:49 PM

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I did pack up and move from atlanta georgia to northern california for my first Master and when the relationship ended i moved back and i have zero regrets. When i made the move it was after visiting a lot and lots of talking on the phone and building trust, and getting to know each other.
For my current Master i packed up and moved again this time to arizona. I came out here to visit and meet him for the first time and when the time came for me to leave i asked to be allowed to stay. Master let me stay and i had my stuff shipped to me. My friends said i was nuts but i sit here 2 1/2 years later and i am happier than i have ever been and have the best relationship ever.
Yes it was hard to leave everything behind but in the end it was the best thing i could of done for myself and my Master. And even though my friends said i was nuts in the end they came around and now they visit every oppertunity they get.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/30/2008 5:59:23 PM

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I, like CalifChick, do not put that I'm willing to relocate on my profile because it's not something I would do for just any dom. If I did come across a gentleman whom I connected with that well and who, after many visits to both of our respective countries, I was sure I could not live without, I would gladly pack my bags and move across the world to be with him. Maybe it's because I'm young, romantic or naive but I would move mountains for the right master.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/31/2008 4:34:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: devil1963

I know that a lot of subs / slaves may state that they are willing to relocate......
But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.
And yes I understand about getting to know and learning to trust your Dom / Master before doing anything , it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

You betcha i'd move. For the right One. However, not half-way across the world. Just here in the good ole' US of A. i have nothing to lose by moving, i'm in the process of moving anyway, so detouring to a good Dom isn't out of the realm of what i'm planning to do already. Long distance relationships ARE difficult, but if good communication is worked at, and every once in a while a r/t meeting can be planned, it's no different than when the good military wife or husband has to wait until her partner, or husband, or wife comes home from an overseas duty. You simply do as best you can to keep up the contact and talk, talk, talk.....and with Skype, and the Internet it's not all that difficult or expensive.

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ORIGINAL: devil1963

Thanks for your reply ,,, but surely if you can not touch , feel or hear how each other are ......... how can you bond other than by words.

Hear? The phones, Skype, and whatever the phonecall thingee is on Yahoo IM (maybe it's Skype, i don't know). There's also, what it's called?....those walkie-talkie things where you can call anywhere to another receiver.

Having said this, there must be some real time meetings, imho, along the line somewhere. And for more than 1 or 2 days. And on a fairly regular basis. And if meeting this Dom in person works, it's a good thing.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/12/2008 8:35:14 AM

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Sometimes relocation occurs without it being planned or discussed. A lady I had last chatted with 5 years beforehand came for a coffee two years ago [we were safe because nothing was going to happen like THAT :) ] and she is still here.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/12/2008 8:44:09 AM

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There are alot of steps in between online and moving there. Many hours of discussion need to hve taken place. Converstions on the phone, web cam.. Nothing takes th place of long term communication to know a person well. You have a guy instinct that should not be ignored either. Having said that.. visit .. several times. Then.. see how compatible you are.. and if "offline" gels as well as online did. Once those things have all ben addressed.. then yes, your place would be where he wants you.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/12/2008 9:40:31 AM

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Hi,

It depens on the kind of relationship you seek. My honest believe is that a 24/7 relationship is only feasible when you are together. I left my continent and came here, unfortenutely it did not work out but that does not mean that I made a mistake. If I ever felt the same for another person I would do it again.

Good luck,
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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/12/2008 12:56:24 PM

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Yes, in fact I plan to move. I'm only 50 and when things improve, I plan to look around for a more hospitable part of the country to live in...I do not plan to spend my life in Cleveland. However, many, mnay things would need to be in place for me to move alone...for me to move to 'be with him' would be even tougher. I want to see if he can make a long distance relationship work before I'd consider 'going to him'.

In all events, I am responsible for my own welfare and don't plan to trade in any of it for a fleeting relationship.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/12/2008 4:58:14 PM

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I moved away from my hometown at a very young age to be with my future husband. He joined the navy and we moved every year.

I moved again to be with my former Dom and I'll move again in a couple years.

Relocation for me is not that big a deal when you both want to be together but then again I'm not the type of person who ever felt tied to one place.

I would say if you have strong family ties and you can't ever see yourself relocating then don't. Is your partner able to relocate? If not then I'd say you both need to reconsider your relationship and maybe only stick to dating men who are local to you.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/13/2008 1:40:31 AM

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A lot just depends on each individual circumstances. I am willing to relocate even to canada if it is for the right person. but I have few ties holding me where i am at. My sons are grown and on their own, my parents are no longer with me -sniff-. The rest of my family; siblings, nieces are all over the country CO., AL., GA., MI, so i am free to move as i want. I am on retirement disability so my income goes with me. My house can be put up for sale, and i can return to sign papers when needed. Nothing holding me here, i would actually like to relocate. To many memories that hurt here. My mom and dad, my marriage that was a joke, i may even be willing to move to a city -- cringes--

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/13/2008 2:59:40 AM

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I'm relocating in 12 days. I have finally reached the point where excitement outweighs the fear of going to a place where I know nothing. I'm not good with strange places and strange people but I'm going to do it.

Luckily I've a friend willing to drive across the country with me, then poof...I will be living in Texas!

So anyone living in the Austin area who is willing to share a bit of information with me, is more than welcome to do so. Please. Please!
I fly out 9-17 to try and find an apartment (clueless, totally clueless on that too).

This is actually scarier and more stressful than when I got divorced, but with this move there is the fact that RR will be waiting (okay, waiting a couple of hours away still but much much closer than now).

Yikes. I'm movingggggggggggggggg!!

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/13/2008 3:08:09 AM

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I know what you mean, patina. I'm in pretty much the same spot...or will be in a couple of years. My job is portable and I don't have any particular ties...just the house.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/13/2008 3:15:18 AM

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OP: Not only did one of my slaves relocate away from home... (two actually but only one worked out).... but I relocated away from home to be with the first slave I collared.

So yes it can happen, yes it can be worth it. BUT there are dozens of flakes out there for each genuine person it seems.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 9/13/2008 3:19:53 AM

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I don't believe in a "one" or any of that "true love" nonsense. Why move for a nice guy a million miles away if I can find a nice guy closer and save myself the trouble?

Would I move? Perhaps. I'm young and only my family ties me here at the moment. No offspring, no long term job, not much of anything. But I wouldn't move for just anyone and I really don't want to be that far from my family either.

Anything is possible but if you're deeply rooted somewhere (job, family, friends, offspring, etc) I find it foolish to be willing to move for some romantic affair. At least have more than just that as a reason to make a life altering choice.

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