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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 9:01:10 AM

Sirsinini

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Why would a dominant "loan out" a submissive?
What is the motivation?
What is the intended destination of such an act?

It's all about CONTROL. Psychological, emotional, sexual control.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 9:10:31 AM

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It matters very little to me one way or another. My owner already loans me out for non-sexual use; he has made mention that one day, it may change. It is not my decision to make though. If he decides that he would like for others to use me sexually, then that is what will happen.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 9:30:22 AM

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To me, atleast in my mind, there is a difference bewtween sharing and loaning out.......Sharing to me is for sexual stuff/play and is something my Daddy has done on a small level thus far....There have been 3 Masters who he has allowed to play with me in an Sm sense and one of those in a semi sexual sense (but g-spot stimulation is one of those tools, with me anyway, that is very much about control soooo )
He has also allowed a couple of girls and one guy to use me orally and i reciprocated on 2 girls and the guy (this is also very much a control thing cause i abhor anyone going down on me) ....Sharing for actual sex is much more appealing to me than the whole part where i have to be "done"orally (just yuck)...So far THAT hasn't happened.

Loaning to me, in my head, speaks of other possibilities, housework, cooking etc. as well as play and sexual things.....It also seems more like something where he may or may not be present at the time, i would be on "loan" and do as they wished at the pleasure of my Daddy.

All that being said...the whole thing, both ways, is incredibly hot to me and something i look forward to..........To me, the mere fact that he CAN exercise the right to share or loan me out to someone(s) speaks volumes of his ownership of me, which just makes me feel all warm and squishy inside........Knowing that i am valuable enough a possession that he would want to loan me/share me, knowing that he is secure enough in his ownership of me, knowing that he just CAN cause he chooses and that anyone he would grant my services/body to would just be an extension of his will.....All of that makes it such a powerful thing.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 9:38:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirsinini
Why would a dominant "loan out" a submissive?
What is the motivation?
What is the intended destination of such an act?

It's all about CONTROL. Psychological, emotional, sexual control.

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Not necessarily. Sometimes it's just for fun and pleasure. Sometimes it's payback of a favor. Sometimes it's to gain a favor. Sometimes it's in exchange for payment.

Control is a given, not necessarily the motivation behind everything else.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 9:40:13 AM

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IF you are a sub..you can refuse of course....as a slave..you have not a choice.

Just a PSA that this is not at all universal dogma or truth. Plenty of slaves are allowed the choice to choose how they are shared, and plenty of subs are in relationships where they are not allowed that choice.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 9:50:38 AM

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well the slave still does have the choice to walk out the door.

I don't know if I would loan my boy/girl out for sex, but for service,or non sexual playtime, to a close friend? Sure! If there was someone new, heh, I would have to get to know that person pretty well before hand.

As for being loaned out myself: Well I am not remotely a slave. and I prefer having the option to say, "oh hell no!" lol. If my Dom tries something like that, without looking at the precautions, (std testing, follows ssc concept,etc.) and having known the person for a long time or gets to know that person in depth before hand, I would hand back my collar and walk out the door.

cherry, I'm not crazy about having oral done to me ethier, I wish I did love it. **makes sad face**

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 10:04:11 AM

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Just look within and be true to yourself. If you want to experience this, if you are a consenting adult, if the act is perfectly legal, go enjoy yourself...just be careful and smart. Also remember, once you have been "loaned out" you can never take that back. You will carry the knowledge that you allowed yourself to be "enjoyed" in this manner. Much like a tattoo...think about the long-term knowledge and just make certain you are not swapping short-term pleasure and curiousity for long-term negative feelings.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 11:18:34 AM

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My girlfriend and I have a sub swapping agreement- and we have a small group of close friends with whom we have casual sex with whenever the mood strikes up. If I have a wet dream and wake up with that need... I call up a good preformer and demand satisfaction... we do have keys to each others houses and sometimes I wake up with someone snuggling next to me I didn't remember having over the night before.... Loaning out our men in this situation works for us...

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 11:47:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

as LA said..you can be loaned out for many reasons. IF you are a sub..you can refuse of course....as a slave..you have not a choice.
Loaning out can be much..the person can fuck you...give you to the dogs :P , whip you, make you clean, electro shock you. He is not your Master....and doesn't need to give you anything besides respect to your Master.

I have to disagree with this statement, there are no absolute truths dividing slaves and submissives.

Being shared is a hard limit of mine, in fact it is one of the reasons i felt comfortable becoming MasterK's slave. He told me early on that he would never share me. Other dominant's I played with always seemed to want to share me with others eventually.

While it is a hot fantasy of mine, it is not something i truly am interested in doing.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 4:12:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

So,

I get the impression that getting loaned out is like next to scat on the list of extreme. At least that's what I am told lately.

Anyways, my whole life I was against this. Never really thought about it- just figured that a guy doesn't really care about me if he wants to loan me out.

Anyways, Master said it would amuse him. I mean, I don't think he's going to loan me out next week or something but its one of those things that at some point in the future could happen.

And it got me thinking and I realize OMG, it sounds so fucking hot. I love getting boned. Why not double or triple? I love porn and all that stuff.

Is this actually extreme-ish? It just sounds so appealing that I am surprised so many people would be so against it.

There can be many aspects to loaning one's slave out. she could be lent out for house work, chores, as a maid or cook, as a whipping post, etc. I would loan my slave out for such things but I highly doubt that I would loan her out so she could be fucked by someone else. That just is not me, for others yes.

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RE: Loaned out? - 3/23/2008 5:27:10 PM

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My Sir lent me to a domme for a welcome home scene for her boy. The idea was almost unbearabley erotic, the reality was uncomfortable, awkward and not so hot. Oh well, it was fun but now its over, and I don't really want to try that again.

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