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daddyncherry -> RE: Sex? or not? My 2 cents... (3/25/2008 1:53:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: mslecuir
true BDSM does NOT involve sex.
You are new to the forums, so maybe you haven't heard, but there is NO TRUE WAY....only the true way for each, individual realtionship.....The relationship that i live in 24/7 DOES include sex, but that isn't ALL of it by any stretch, but you are not the true Police anc cannot say that the relationship ishare with my Daddy is NOT TRUE cause it involves sex. (Damn, i wonder if my Daddy knows we aren't supposed to be having sex to be a real and true M/s couple that engages in BDSM)
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You should not see any type of sex going on.
Who says?????????????????? You? We don't go to BDSM clubs where we can't partake in sexual activities if he so desires it for us...words like SHOULD are probably not the best choice, unless, you are really, truly, factually the True/Real/Should Police. (are you? If so, forgive me officer)
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that adding BDSM to a relationship is a wonderful way to add some variety to a relationship.
And that is a grrrreat thing for some, but what about those of us who live it as a natural part of our dynamic? The way you said it, it sounds demeaning to those of us who are looking for an actual relationship dynamic and not leaving it at bedroom BDSM.....like "Oh yeah, we were bored and decided to spice things up and try on the hat of BDSM and see how that variety works for us, if it doesn't maybe we can try clown suits or something next time.)
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But it should not be added to a casual relationship for the purpose of initiating sex.
There ya go with SHOULD again....(did you write the BDSM Big Book or something?) Who says it SHOULDN'T be added to a casual relationship? What if my Daddy and i play with other people? That's sure as hell casual....are we wrong? Cause we are doing what YOU say we shouldn't?
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Very hardline with this doctorine when I was Pro.
And that is fine for when you are pro, but to think the rules that you use when you are pro should some how go across the board to people living the lifestyle, isn't fair....You aren't the Domme of everyone.
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'So who is right and who is wrong? You be the judge.
i'd rather not judge anyone else's relationships.....who is right or who is wrong? NO ONE unless they feel they are.....You are JUDGING by the whole first part of your post, you are dictating what is right and what is wrong....Maybe try prefacing all of your broad generalizations and SHOULDS with, "I think, or I believe....
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Hopefully this will generate some meaningfull discussion and not negative banter.
You didn't necessariy start off on the most positive and non-judgemental foot did you?
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Remember to always be respectful enough to listen to others views and to try to walk a mile in their shoes before reacting.
Sure, i can listen to others, i do it ALL the time on these boards, but when the person asking for that didn't do the same, and JUDGED from the moment she posted....well, take a dose of your own medicine.....
i get where the majority of the end of yourpost was coming from, and PRO is such a differnt animal, and i am not talking out my ass here, cause i was a pro Domme for years........i didn't have sex with them for many reasons....but looking at those situations and my current dynamic of almost 3 years, they are like comparing apples and cheese.....they're both food, but not even in the same category.
Edited to add: Ummmmm HELL YES SEX! (what mercnbeth said about the Lair THANK GAWD for the Lair).............i can have most of BDSM without sex.....i can have BDSM with sex........i can have my life with BDSM.....but i can't have sex or life WITHOUT BDSM.
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