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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 6:37:59 PM

MistressOfGa

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Opps, sorry Ma`am i wasnt clear. I meant explain it to the other students, before you visit the hospital.

Politesub,
I do tell those who I eat lunch with or sit with daily about how easily I am bruised, problem is, most don't see my bruises, it is those who can SEE that I have the problem with and those are teachers and volunteers. I don't normally associate with the ones who are not legally blind (Teachers, ect..). They are in an authorities position..and at times it bothers me that they feel that I am being abused at home and am protecting my abuser. So the more I say it happened at the hospital, the more I feel them reaching for the red phone lol

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 6:40:18 PM

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I can help!You will need 2 make up brushes, 1 big fluffy brush, red lip pigment(between a gloss and a stick)cool concealer, warm concealer, transluscent powder.Apply 3 coats of pigment, letting each dry in between applications. Apply cool concealer with brush. Apply warm concealer with another brush. Apply transluscent powder to bruise and surrounding skin and you're set.

And you won't have time to even leave the house in the 15 minutes left over in the day.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 6:41:46 PM

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I feel for you - and not sure about the port - but did take care of a child that was medically fragile and severly handicapped, and she had a tube that we could give her medicine through, so maybe it is something like that. Also, there are some pretty heavy duty make ups out there - using something yellow first will cover the bruising ( I think green covers red/yellow covers blue/purple). Theatrical make up, or one of the ones used for people that have birth marks or skin diseases like Michael Jackson I know exist. I had a friend that WAS in an abusive relationship, and also an actress, and she covered her black eyes for years, even I didn't know for a long time.

Regardless, I do think honesty is always the best way to handle something - ESPECIALLY in this case, you really have nothing to be ashamed of.

I wish you much luck, and you are in my prayers.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 6:43:57 PM

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There is no easy answer. People see such marks and bruising and will jump to the conclusion that you've been abused.
And by denying it you just make them that much more sure of it since those abused tend to try to convince others that they are not being abused.

Your best bet, find information about your condition, it's out there. Find it's medical term and such and discuss it with your fellow teachers, and students. That's about the best you can do.

Thank you Gemini :)
I think next time I will just take my flogger to school..and have a show and tell <s>

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You're welcome MoGa.
I like humor and I'm in that section of the boards most. But when I see a post, such as yours come across the "recently posted" window, I like to read it and see if I have anything worth adding. I felt I did.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 6:48:19 PM

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Firstly welcome home.

Second anyone who has been in a hospital enviroment knows how ham fisted they can be durring proceedures.. and if the poor person has delicate skin.. well... there is bound to be *lots* of bruising esp. if it was an emerg. proceedure where time was a factor.

If any one looks at you worried... I would simply say I have been in the hospital being treated ( or having a proceedure) and they bruised my delicate skin. If they look as if they do not believe it. Explain how if someone other then a medical professional gave you the marks unwillingly.. they would have been in the hospital bed next to you... Smile real big like Garfield and they will get the idea.

When I came back from some medical ickies I looked like someone took a brick bat to me. So I know how you feel dealing with folks out in public. Thank goodness people worry and wish to help others now adays.. however it is a pain when you have to explain it over and over.

Welcome back home!

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 7:27:36 PM

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Hi, welcome back, and i hope that You are feeling better, Ma'am. a port/PIC line will give more regular access to Your veins if You are a frequent flier, it is not a terrible choice. it will minimize bruising, but the ready access needs to be protected well.

it had been suggested for a young lady i took care of, but does leave a bit of vulnerability, and tends to admit that You will need that access regularly. You might wish to discuss this with Your care provider.

Don't feel uneducated, be happy that no one has considered this would be the best solution for You, Ma'am. i hope that all goes well with You.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 7:36:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

I am sorry to hear about your distress.

If someone asks or you see someone looking at the bruises, you could make light of it (you should've seen the other guy!) and then explain what has caused the bruises.

Would it help to make the hospital staff know what challenge you face and see what they have to say? I am not sure what are suitable places to administer an IV and if there are any that are usually covered by clothing. Would a circular band-aid large enough to cover the bruise help?

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 7:47:11 PM

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Be honest about what's happening. You can't stop them from think what they think or even calling the cops. However, with the cops, you'll at least have hospital papers you can show and Drs they can contact.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 7:53:54 PM

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I just wonder how many subs/slaves/painsluts ect..actually try to hide the marks? I am getting a taste of the "other" side and it is not as much fun <s>

MoGa

*comfort* i never bother trying to hide cuts and bruises, but of course the situation is always different for women. i'm constantly damaging myself by combining DIY projects with poor motor control, and my co-workers don't even bother asking anymore, i just get an occasional wince.

i know that my wife has tricky veins, so they usually use the back of her hand for blood tests, etc... is that an option? Usually just leaves a small bruise that can be covered with a band-aid

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 8:02:06 PM

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I bruise easily and have small veins, too.
Have them put warm compresses on wherever they're going to put the needle for a couple of minutes. If I don't have to be fasting, I drink a lot of water.
Do you use an anaesthetic patch [in Canada, over-the-counter] to apply ~ 1/2 an hour before your IV? Helps stop the pain which can cause the blood vessels to roll and contract, or you to [in]voluntarily flinch.
Make sure you press down on the spot for 20 minutes, not 5, after the needle is removed with enough pressure to make your thumb cramp. I also freeze a small juicebox [two, actually; one to sip and one to press on the spot].
If I can, I try to avoid aspirin/advils for a whole week before needles.
Good luck.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 8:06:58 PM

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I'm sorry to hear that you have had such a tough time with this....both being in the hospital and dealing with all the questions. I work as a medical assistant in a surgical practice and we do suggest to people that bruise easily trying the Arnica gel or cream. It really does work and it does not take long to notice a difference.

I hope this finds you well and in better spirits.....

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 8:14:32 PM

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Yes... never, ever say that you fell into a door or down the steps; even if it's true.

lol that is so funny! Not because it could be true and not to make light of those who are being abused, but because my pup used running into a door as an excuse, and it was true! lol Of course, he didn't add that I was chasing him at the time <g> Such a sissy girl :)

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The only thing i could think of Mistress, would be some of that insta bronze sunless tanning creme to cover the lighter bruises. Other than that, maybe some polyester shirts to cover up the larger bruises while staying cool. Or getting one of those cooling wraps for Your neck so You can stay cool and cover the bruises, they are so nice.

I am so happy that You are back home and feeling well Mistress, welcome back!

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 8:42:12 PM

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Tell them the doctors and nurses beat the crap out of you.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 8:51:42 PM

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This is going to to sound odd, but if you don't want to spend hours and hours doing layer after layer of make-up, clinique foundation has some of the best cover up ever made. It looks the most natural and they can match your skin tone right there in the store! I'm sure they'd have no problem matching parts of your body that aren't your face. It's about $20 for a tube of it.
MAC Makeup is pretty good too, with a powder/cream type compact that covers up fairly well, and you can take it with you and dab it on when you notice it's wiping off.

I have rosacea so i look everywhere for good cover ups.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 10:19:52 PM

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~fr~ I am so glad to hear you are home and also back in school! I have tried to keep in touch with pup, but was not too successful.
As to your newest problem, it is distressing that you get so bruised, but a necessary evil, I suppose. Even though it is tiring to answer the same question over and over, it is also good to know that people are concerned enough to "not mind their own business". Ya know what I mean?
It has been hot here, and I know you are not in a position to do lots of cover up make-up. So just be honest as well as brief. In fact, you could print out a little explanation and just hand it out!

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 10:20:32 PM

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I know someone suggested Arnic gel, which works very well. Yu can also get a homeopathic remedy... the little tiny pellets that dissolve under your tongue. Arnica works very well. Staying very well hydrated can also help the blood to flow better in your little veins, so maybe they won't have to stick you so much, though if the bruising is from them poking too deep and actually going through the vein, that won't help.

I don't have little veins, just ones that roll out of the way when they try to stick me. The bruises from my Master I try to keep as long as I can, but even then, there are occasions when I need them to vanish quickly. Arnica works well for me.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 11:27:39 PM

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Don't let the nurses stick you.. ask for the Phlebotomist. :) These people spend every day doing sticks, and in my experience, they are a lot more skillful at getting a vein on the first try. You might have a little trouble getting them to come stick you, but it's worth it.

Mac has a pretty good powder foundation that goes on amazingly thick, and is really good for coverups. I used it when I got a bad cut to the face. I think it's called "Studio Fix" If it's not enough, ask if they have concealer to go with it.

As far as good places to stick, I've been stuck in the side of my ankle (Hurty!) my neck, my upper arm- which was weird, I didn't know at the time that that was even an option. Hands tend to bruise pretty badly if you mess up, but then again, the vein is right there.. so dunno. You can also get stuck right beside your groin... never done that one before.

I'm not even sure that it's IV's that are causing your bruising .. if I'm way off, feel free to ignore me.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 11:39:11 PM

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Wishing you the best on your health...

I have "roly" veins, too, and I always make some self-depricating humor to nurses about it.

I'd even suggest you joke lightly that you have these "disobedient" roly veins that won't behave.

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RE: This can not continue - 3/28/2008 11:56:32 PM

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<FR>
Greetings Ma'am,
I have heard there is something called Arnica gel that will help to reduce bruising. I have roving veins myself. Fresh out of hospital here as well and looking like an abuse victim too.

ps77

<Gentle hug> I will try that. I've not heard of it. I have felt saddened lately, because I want so much to be the one to cause the bruising <s> <Looks for her pup> Ahh....heaven!

Arnica gel is a wonderful thing for bruises! I do not personally use it, but I know people who have and it cuts the healing time down a tremendous amount. Sometimes the bruises from a heavy scene can be gone in a matter of days. It may be a huge help to you.

Here is a website where you can read about it and order some if you like. I am certain you can get it other places as well, but I thought this one was pretty good with the explanations.

Hope it helps!!

http://www.arnica-gel.com/info/Arnica_Oil.htm

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RE: This can not continue - 3/29/2008 12:11:13 AM

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They sell makeup that's meant to cover up tattoos - even dark black tattoos - you just have to special order it. I've heard DermaBlend is good, but can take a bit of practice to look natural.
Or........you could tattoo your neck, it'd be pretty!

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