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BIllCT -> Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:18:56 PM)
Is Love needed between a Dom and a submissive in order for a submissive to serve the dom? And do all submissives, expect the dom, they are serving, to love Them? Or is caring and respect enough for the submissive to be happy with the relationship and to serve?

OmegaG -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:35:43 PM)
http://www.collarchat.com/searchpro.asp?phrase=love&author=&forumid=ALL&topicreply=both&message=body&timeframe=%3E&timefilter=0&language=single&top=300&criteria=AND&minRank=0&sortMethod=r&submitbutton=+OK+ and people think I'm an attention whore.

toservez -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:35:44 PM)
Love is required for me to be able to serve him and I would only serve someone in a long term relationship if I felt loved back. It is how I am personally wired. But these are relationships just like all other types and they include a lot of couples in loveless relationships that range from miserable to very happy in them. Everyone’s needs, desires and drives are different. The key is finding someone compatible and this includes love.

BitaTruble -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:39:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT Is Love needed between a Dom and a submissive in order for a submissive to serve the dom? And do all submissives, expect the dom, they are serving, to love Them? Or is caring and respect enough for the submissive to be happy with the relationship and to serve? Some need love, some don't. No, not 'all' submissives expect the dom they are serving to love them. Caring and respect are enough for some submissives to be happy with the relationship and to serve. Love vs D/s What's love got to do with it? Male Dominants: Love & Romance Am I allowed to love my Master? Falling in love with your Master Not allowed to love Master Love the Master Relationships, BDSM, Love & Boundaries Serve & love Love within authority dynamics Why Masters do not fall in love When love gets in the way More what's love got to do with it Why do submissives fall in love with their doms And yet more what's love got to do with it

SteelofUtah -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:42:07 PM)
Bill. I think at this point someone should point out the Search Function just click here and before you ask another question see if it has been asked before. This one has been asked at least 6 times since Last Thursday. It is always better to Expand on an existing Thread than start a new one. Many people get tired of typing out the same responce over and over and over and over and over and over again. Steel

LadyPaige -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:47:59 PM)
Some submissives are just happy to find a compatiple Dom to serve. That's not a put down, it's just recognition that it can be a lonely frustrating world out there when you have been fruitlessly looking for that special someone. At some point, respect and compatibility are enough... at least for now. Others can't settle for anything less than love because being in a loveless relationship feels emptier than being alone. Everyone is different and it goes for Dom, sub, or vanilla.

MontrealPhoenix -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:52:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah Bill. I think at this point someone should point out the Search Function just click here and before you ask another question see if it has been asked before. This one has been asked at least 6 times since Last Thursday. It is always better to Expand on an existing Thread than start a new one. Many people get tired of typing out the same responce over and over and over and over and over and over again. Steel God Steel, i could just kiss you for this! OP i think it's time to think before posting something. I realise that it's easier to just post a question but as Steel has pointed out, there IS a search button which is great to find what you're looking for... Phoenix

KatyLied -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 12:55:06 PM)
quote: Is Love needed between a Dom and a submissive in order for a submissive to serve the dom? Of course it's not needed. Many people serve before they are in love. Some serve long after love has faded. Some fall in love immediately and serve. Some aren't in it for love. It's as individual as people are. But common sense should tell you that.

verysweet -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 1:02:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT Is Love needed between a Dom and a submissive in order for a submissive to serve the dom? And do all submissives, expect the dom, they are serving, to love Them? Or is caring and respect enough for the submissive to be happy with the relationship and to serve? I would venture a guess and say there are even some who don't need any of these things.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 1:18:05 PM)
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verysweet -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 1:21:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx [sm=horse.gif] C: What is that emoticon? I've misplaced my glasses!!! Looks like a tag team.

kittinSol -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 1:22:14 PM)
It's a bunch of freaks wanking over a donkey.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 1:43:21 PM)
It's beating a dead horse. lol

kittinSol -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 1:47:35 PM)
Dangit, you ruined it [:D] .

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 1:53:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OmegaG and people think I'm an attention whore. yer no attention whore, Omega ...not today hugs

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 2:29:52 PM)
Bill, heres MY personal take on it. It would be GREAT to find a Dom to love, and be loved in return. Should that not happen, I would hope that he would have no issues with me finding the emotional fulfillment that I crave in other venues. IMO

verysweet -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 2:31:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kittinSol Dangit, you ruined it [:D] . Perish the thought. [:)]

metalmiss -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 2:56:47 PM)
Being as i am allergic to the "L" word anyway, i have to say i define it differently. i have been lucky (and occasionally unlucky) enough to serve several Dom's during my few years experience. All that was between us for that to happen was mutual respect, understanding & desire. However, it is different with my Master.. We have these things in abundance, but i also care for Him very deeply, which to me is an important distinction. But i do not consider myself to "love" Him due to my personal beliefs with the word itself. So i would say.. No, i don't need to love to serve. No, i don't hold love as a condition of my serving a Dom. And finally.. Within a relationship, caring, respect & trust is all i require.

DesFIP -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 4:13:25 PM)
Depends on the people involved. He needs me to love him and I need him to love me. Lots of other people are fine if one person is in love and not the other, or neither.

dawntreader -> RE: Question 3 (4/3/2008 7:16:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah Bill. I think at this point someone should point out the Search Function just click here and before you ask another question see if it has been asked before. This one has been asked at least 6 times since Last Thursday. Steel Thankyou Steel[:)] If it is advice Bill is looking for, i hope he will take your suggestion. However, i feel it is attention he is looking for because he has asked basically the same questions 6 months ago and did not seem to take the advice then. Bill...really! while you certainly have the right to ask any of these questions, i would encourage you to take a moment to consider the type impression they are giving of you. They exude lack of experience and desperateness along with a whiney repetiveness. If i was seeking, i would not feel any confidence in your abilities as a dominant based on these questions...

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