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LadyJeelys -> RE: I am NOT YOUR MISTRESS!! (4/7/2008 4:39:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
No, you won't find much of these things in online chat. It's been My personal observation that those who are online only know little about protocols, and most folks you'll meet in real time do. It's actually a hint at which category a person falls into. As I said earlier, this can be a good way for someone who has protocol high up on their list of requirements, to filter out those who won't match with them because they aren't big on it. Maybe you might look at it in reference to your analogy of speaking Italian. If you were to plan a trip to Italy, even if you didn't speak the language, wouldn't you want to know a few key phrases?
Oddly enough, I had a similar conversation this weekend....and I still disagree with the view point. This assumes that those who go to want to go into the "community" are the folks who are "real". I just find that to be, well, hooey. The people I know who've been Femdom the longest are people who've NEVER gone to an "event". I know one couple who were married 60+ years (give you an idea how old they were went the married!) and another that has been married for 57 years....and the wives were the ones with the paddles.
This viewpoint does not even consider that someone doesn't want to learn the "protocols" as created by someone else. I mean, wow, it just seems to me the whole point of self expression and discovering one's own path and seeking to fulfill one's own desires is individualized. Plus, since every region "community" is regionalized, they "protocols" for one element of the "community" do not carry over to another.
So, to alter your example (because Italian isn't my thing) its kind of like learning the French of Ici and going to Paris....of the Spanish of Uruguay and going to Puero Rico or the Gaelic of Lewish and going to North Uist. No matter how well you learned, you language is going to sound off and your word usage is not goig to meet local "protocols".
So anyway, it just seems to me the whole protocol thing is just a way for one group to look down on another group.
And we don't know that the folks who approach us using the "wrong" term are dome kind of verbal frontulists. We just assume that....and even so, exactly what does it cost us? I own secondary...it tkaes absolutely nothing away from me or from him if some other guy sayings, "Hello Mistress".
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