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GregorianChant -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/7/2008 7:56:31 AM)
Alright. As someone who has had considerable success in meeting submissives online, I'm going to explain how to give good message. Firstly, my dear sub gets about 10 messages a day- many of which are simply retarded... She's well on her way to being collared by the way- and her profile states this. Read the girls profile! Secondly, I've found that very little can be accomplished via messages back and forth on CM. I personally prefer to send a message that goes something like this: "Hi, my name is Matt- I read your profile and I found _____ interesting. Would you be interested in chatting on yahoo or aim to see if we are at all compatible?" While this message isn't long winded (If she's curious about what you're into/about she should be able to read your profile) it does get the point across.. And you want to get away from this site as fast as you can. In other words- don't come across as a complete dumbass (and if you are a complete dumbass please go shoot yourself) and include the following elements in your message. 1. Polite introduction (no cock pics you moron) 2. Something about her profile you genuinely like- not something she's into.. something she wrote that you like. 3. Invite her to chat so that you can determine your compatibility. That's it. Nothing overly complicated. Put at least some mild time and effort into your personal profile, punctuate properly and spellcheck it. I reccomend you actually open MS Word for this. Follow these steps and you might just get responses.

Dnomyar -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/7/2008 9:49:08 AM)
Mmmm another everyone is rejecting me whine. Man when did I start getting so cynical on here. Will one of you subs please write me and comfort me.

Trashbagboy74 -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/7/2008 10:08:42 AM)
I know it is easy to be rejected here on CM. Some Dommes look at who you are talking to like on your Friends list and if you are for Real. I been with 4 Dommes here on CM and the last one i was with her for 6 years. There are alot of Player on CM here and if a Domme here on CM is in need of a Slave/Sub they are not here to entertain you. You are for her & Services. you need to know what the Lifestyle is all about. If these Players on CM would stop their Bull and be Honey with the Dommes/Mistress then They would Trust the Slaves/Subs and there would be no problem with Dommes/Mistress seeking anyone.

Dnomyar -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/7/2008 11:14:17 AM)
Im honey with the Dommes. Thats why there are so few of them for the others.

GregorianChant -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/7/2008 12:00:39 PM)
If I'm misreading you Dnomyar I apologize. I'm hardly whining about being rejected- I actually haven't failed to get a response in quite some time. In fact I've met a lovely submissive who I like quite alot on CM and things are proceeding wonderfully. I was trying to educate the community so that the morons trying to seduce my woman away would at least be more polite about it.

littlewolfe -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/8/2008 2:01:13 PM)
this one is very shy so she does not email Doms first she knows that she is missing out on someone really great but intill she gets some guts she just answers those who write to her repectfully littlewolfe

shatteredskye -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/8/2008 2:07:09 PM)
I'm pretty much the same way, I tend to let the Doms contact me, because I don't have the backbone to email them myself.

AMaster -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/8/2008 2:10:20 PM)
Too few do.

iwillobeysir -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/8/2008 8:33:26 PM)
For me, it's not a matter of gender (i.e., I'm the guy, so I should write first); then again, it's a moot point, since I identify as gay on this site. BUT, as a sub, I think it is my role to write to the Dominant first. On my profile, I invite Dominants who I haven't written to, to write me first, but I don't count on it. Also, every Dominant that looks at my full profile gets at least a quick thank you note from me.

snugglepet -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/8/2008 11:44:31 PM)
i can't speak for others, but i try to take the time (little that i may have) and answer emails and so on, but i find that often the Dom is unresponsive, and that could be for a number of reasons, but i choose to not speculate as to their reasons, whatever they may be. i do not feel that Doms do all the chasing, and i feel that subs do their fair share of chasing, so the "playing" field is pretty well even i think.

eyesopened -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/9/2008 2:13:09 AM)
When i was seeking i read the profiles of the Dominants in my area. 95% of the profiles were nearly identical 'firm but fair' or 'seeking friends but could be LTR with the right sub' or 'looking to start a poly family' or the ever-present 'married but wife doesn't participate'. So i started widening my geography and did approach a few who responded with things like 'too far' 'too old' or most who did not reply at all. Since i know that i'm at best kinda goofy-looking and not the stereotypical 20-something, lithe, bi-sexual, pain-slut who dreams of being locked in a box and kept under the bed, or just dying to be the house-mother to a harem of sister-slaves. i decided it would be better to just be myself and be patient and if by chance there were someone attracted to me who knew up front how far away i live, how old i am, what i look like, and all the other bumps and warts....that would be best. As it turns out, my patience was rewarded.

SephandElena -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/10/2008 7:50:14 AM)
Thank you!!! This is Exactly what me and mine are looking for as well. People who know how to read profiles and respond to said profiles accordingly. People, people, it can not be stressed enough. When you write, it doesn't need to be a 50 page essay, but something with proof of reading works wonders. Something that ties you into that profile that says you accept it as it stands works even better! I'd also like to second the no cocks pictures. Personally, I don't understand why guys think that a picture of a cock and nothing attached is going to make me want to message them or respond to them. If anything, it's going to make me laugh and delete because, truth be told, as fascinating as I find them when attached to people in real life, the pictures of them just make me laugh or worse imagine those "realistic" looking dildos. Dnomyar I can arrange for my girl to write and comfort you if you want? Although she Can be a little outspoke on occasion. Seph aka Reb.

complaisant2u -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/10/2008 12:40:36 PM)
I contact Doms... oh wait you mean dominant men. No I don't contact Doms.

KaineD -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/10/2008 12:54:03 PM)
I seriously think I should probably immigrate.

steffany -> RE: Do many subs contact Doms? (4/10/2008 9:05:00 PM)
i must say yes i do get a lot of messages and do my best to answer them all but i also go after what i want...if i like what i see i drop a line or so...no one is a mind reader

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