FTopinMichigan
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ORIGINAL: ed408 So, after a lot of thought, and realising i'm putting myself "out there" Ed, I really appreciate you taking the time to post your point of view. While I don't enjoy the "worm" like man, I do find it enlightening to have a hint into why it's an attractive manner for him. quote:
ORIGINAL: ed408 I think that the people who are like this may well have some form of background issues <snip> Does the latter make them less of a person? I don't think so and they shouldn't be condemned for it <snip> Just because their kinks may not be what you are looking for doesn't mean they should be disparaged or looked upon with disdain or contempt. (unless that was part of the scene ;) Anyone with issues from the past can be a sticky situation. The "issues" you mentioned are not attractive draws for most people. "Dammit Jim, I'm Top, not a Doctor!" I think those issues are better served when dealing with a therapist, not a Domme. If their interest is for fun and pleasure, and not to be 'truly' degraded, then it's a different view, as I see it. quote:
ORIGINAL: ed408 It takes all kinds to make a world and there are quite a few people who have issues that are challenging them or have challenged them in the past etc. Sometimes the strength of a dominant can actually help that person to grow - in many ways - for they compliment each other through mental (and even spiritual) joining of their interactions. I think when a profile is quite clear about one is looking for, and a person (or worm) responds to something they really shouldn't, based on the clear words expressed, they are wasting their time, and the other person's. Yes, it takes all types to make the world, but when a person has preferences and desires that are clearly stated, the worm should really try to respond to worm hunters...not to the Domme that is clearly seeking the total opposite type. Each person "will" hopefully enhance each other, but I would never "begin" a relationship "knowing" that I had tons of work to do, on a man, to make him become a "man." A man that truly "feels" he is a worm will take "work"...and he'll be unable to enhance a lady, or even the relationship, as his entire time will have to be spent on him maintaining, or improving himself. I'm a caring person, but not a 100% caregiver, looking to mold, and build a man from scratch. I like him to be a "man" to start. quote:
ORIGINAL: ed408 This also leads to that person being able to understand themselves better/more, learn about their sexuality, know what it means to serve someone in that way, and may make them see/realise that reality is not the same as fantasy. It could even make them not want x/y/z to be done to them. I'm not speaking for other women here, but I know that I don't want to have to teach someone about life, and the real world. If they are unclear on the differences between "fantasy" and "reality"...from the get go, I'm thinking that I'd be shying away from them. A clear sense of reality, and of themselves, is a requirement for me, and I'm guessing for most women that seek a "man." quote:
ORIGINAL: ed408 To finish, yes, there are times i want to be a proverbial 'meat-hole' or lower-than-sht or ridiculed/humiliated etc etc - but there are limits to it, as there are with many of these other 'worms'.... quite often the desires are very specific. Ed, I would say, based on your posted response, and your style of writing, that you probably would not "present" yourself as a "worm" in first contact, and that you would probably describe your "interests" in a manner that also projected your own confidence in your desires (as well as in yourself). That makes quite a bit of difference too. quote:
ORIGINAL: ed408 Lastly, mind-games can be fun - all it can take is a word and you can make someones' toes curl, and it isn't about blackmail or financial slavery etc, just a word that pushes a button and you have that person cowering, whimpering, begging, devoted - or one of many other possibilities - at your feet, be they real time or onlne. Don't judge so harshly. Some of us with those desires have more potential and are a lot less shallow than you realise. "Mind games" are fine for those that enjoy them, but would you want to start "playing" them right away, or would you want to find out if the person you're talking to would enjoy them too? Ed, I don't think the person is being judged as much as the manner of contact. If you read the profile, of the OP, you'd find that it has a pretty clear indication that a "worm" need not apply. It is the worm applying that creates an issue here...not that the worm exists. The judgement is not toward the "wormly" man, but rather to his pushing himself into where he doesn't belong, but then I guess that's what worms do. Thanks again for posting your thoughts here, Ed. K
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