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"time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 4:23:16 AM

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have any Masters had need to take a time out...from either a scene or just in general as an owner of a slave? Masters are human like everyone else, but it seems they put great pressure on themselves to perform to a certain standard. if you miss the goal, do you beat yourself up over it? think it over and move on? take a time out and start all over? i'd like any input please. thank you
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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 5:09:28 AM

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I dont own a slave but I do take time outs. Sometimes you need to catch up with life. Your owner might be mentaly stressed and need the time to recharge.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 5:45:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: mmsprecious

have any Masters had need to take a time out...from either a scene or just in general as an owner of a slave? Masters are human like everyone else, but it seems they put great pressure on themselves to perform to a certain standard. if you miss the goal, do you beat yourself up over it? think it over and move on? take a time out and start all over? i'd like any input please. thank you
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Sure I go sit in my time out chair and spank my monkey. Doesn't everyone???

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 6:30:19 AM

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He's doing taxes. Trust me he is not thinking about anything fun. And when he finishes, he's going to take two Tylenol PM and sleep for 10plus hours.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 6:38:32 AM

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I have friends who have said they are taking a hiatus from the scene. They’re not going to clubs, etc; are spending time at home and enjoying other outside activities.

Still, they are a D/s couple. In the same way one cannot take ‘time out’ from being a spouse or parent…exactly how does one take time out from being an owner or a submissive?

In my life, this is just part of my personality; how I AM. Perhaps I might find taking a restful weekend at home a good thing, had I been attending a bunch of activities; classes, parties, demos, vacations…whatever. Still…I would hardly consider this respite taking time out from being whom or what I am. Perhaps a rest is just a rest…and nothing more.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 7:12:07 AM

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Still, they are a D/s couple. In the same way one cannot take ‘time out’ from being a spouse or parent…exactly how does one take time out from being an owner or a submissive?

In my life, this is just part of my personality; how I AM. Perhaps I might find taking a restful weekend at home a good thing, had I been attending a bunch of activities; classes, parties, demos, vacations…whatever. Still…I would hardly consider this respite taking time out from being whom or what I am. Perhaps a rest is just a rest…and nothing more.

sweetie, I could not have put it better. If it is just something you do, then you can take a break You can't take a break from what you simply are!

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 7:16:11 AM

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I could no more take a time out then I could stop breathing. Yes there are times when something else has the focus, but outside of that no. I am trying to take the D/s a little slow with my new boy while he is learning, he not to the point that bryan is after 14 years and that is one of the hardest things for me to do.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 7:16:17 AM

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Not a "time out", but an ebb an flow of intensity is not uncommon.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 7:37:28 AM

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There is no need to rest if you are laid back. Only drama freaks with ego complexes need to live with the pedal to the metal 24 7.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 8:16:23 AM

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I strive for balance in all parts of my life... with any luck, that alleviates the need for 'timeout' ...

as others have said though, I'm not sure I could shut down a large part of my life...

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 10:20:07 AM

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Nah... it s my life, not my job. You don't take a timeout from life.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 11:13:01 AM

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Taking a break from active scening might happen eventualy. We had to take a break from a lot of our physical play for a few weeks becaue of a health issue. It happens. I could not take abreak form being an Owner, though. It is who I am and what I am. I would have to give up Fox and Angel to take a break from that, and I see no need for it. I miss goals, yeah, its human. But retreating from life to fix that isnt rational. I just rethink and redo.
I may eventually need a break from contact, that happens, but I travel to see family and friends when it does, so that isnt a major issue.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 11:24:23 AM

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There is no need to rest if you are laid back. Only drama freaks with ego complexes need to live with the pedal to the metal 24 7.

Exactly

. To the op My Daddy is my Master no matter what, he owns me no matter what. I do as he asks and things get done. We don't play ALL the time only when we can, for we have other obligations and responsibilities. So I guess you can say we get a timeout from playtime but D/s dynamic remains and we wouldn't have it any other way.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 11:55:03 AM

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How he takes a break isn't by suddenly announcing the rules aren't there any more. He takes a break from making decisions that he normally does make. He allows me to decide what's for dinner and to ask him to grill, instead of his usual announcing that he feels like grilling so go get some burgers. He lets me pick the restaurant and doesn't even specify if it's one that serves alcohol or not. If he really needs a break, he has me drive.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 1:08:21 PM

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"time out" for Daddy and me means getting back to real life. He has a life beyond our Daddy-daughter relationship in which He plays tennis to running errands to filling out paperwork for the office or working His financial stuff (you don't want to bother Him while He's mulling over His stock calculations). this also gives me a break too - back to handling sibling disputes between the girls to working on reviews/photos or preparing band interviews if i'm working that night. we would love to stay within our cozy D/s dynamic all of the time but sometimes you need a break from it too.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/15/2008 4:05:47 PM

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Many people take a break from the scene and kink- usually when they get burned out or really disillusioned.

I do not take a time out from my relationships, though I may take a time out from communicating for awhile to collect my thoughts and get stable.

I have taken time out from getting into certain relationships.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/16/2008 4:09:01 AM

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How he takes a break isn't by suddenly announcing the rules aren't there any more. He takes a break from making decisions that he normally does make. He allows me to decide what's for dinner and to ask him to grill, instead of his usual announcing that he feels like grilling so go get some burgers. He lets me pick the restaurant and doesn't even specify if it's one that serves alcohol or not. If he really needs a break, he has me drive.

Now see that doesn't even register as 'taking a break' to Me... and maybe therein lays one reason why I don't see 'breaks' as needed... My Dynamic is a lifestyle, that can only work if it is sustainable, 24/7/365. Every decision is accountable to Me.... that means whilst I CAN micromanage as and when I want or feel the need to, it isn't something I do day in, day out. I directly take up any decision where I have a specific perpouse or desire, I don't sweat the small stuff. If My girl is having difficulty making a choise beyond that, then I am likely to make the decision for her, if not, then so long as I agree with the choise then thats fine.

There is ample scope for her input into everything, if I don't have a particular thing in mind then her suggestion is likely to be taken onboard. There is more than just Me in the relationship, ideas can come for her as well as from Me.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/16/2008 6:20:05 AM

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It really depends on whetg level you mean time out to be taken. Time out as Master of bruin Cottage? Never! It is just not in my nature to take time out from responsibilities or duties. Were there to be a girl or boy in a collar, I would not take a full time out but i would if necessary, require my wife who is the Mistress of bruin Cottage to handle most matters for a short time. Such time outs would only occure if my health dictated my stay in hostpital and even thren I would require regular updates. There are times when I prefer not to handle the phone but if the matter requires my attention and no one else will do, then I am on deck to deal with the matter.

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/16/2008 3:10:16 PM

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I wont call it a time out...but at times as in everyones life.. other things take away some focus.....kids.... family... and when work is like a zoo .. my focus does tend to drift off to the things I need to do or take care of.. maybe the way of saying it is.. less focused.. not a time out .

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RE: "time out" for a dom or Master - 4/16/2008 5:20:56 PM

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thank you all for your answers. they have helped a lot

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