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Hiswifeon7707 -> Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:34:27 PM)

i wonder what the divorce rate is for the bdsm community? guess they dont keep those stats.
being married does cloak me with a deep sense of security and the belief we will work through all problems.



KatyLied -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:35:31 PM)

You are aware of the statistics regarding divorce?



mistoferin -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:36:07 PM)

Are married couples more committed? NO



OmegaG -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:38:21 PM)

that all divorces begin with marriage?

I tend to have the exact oppisite view of marriage as the OP, I think people become complacent in their relationship once they sign the marriage certificate.  But then each relationship is different and a peice of paper isn't going to magically change it unless the people involved give that paper power.



mbes -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:38:44 PM)

Heh Is there a place to register, that keeps those numbers? That would be an interesting site!
I would imagine the numbers are similar for the rest of the world, though--- some are committed, some are not, and all are human.



Kalista07 -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:38:54 PM)

this is just my personal opinion, which i'm aware no one actually asked for but hell..... try and stop me...mwaaa haaa haaa haaaa....

i think committment is something that people don't put as much stock or effort into anymore. i have to wonder if that isn't why we've kind of turned into a bail and run society...

just my thoughts,
Kali



SailingBum -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:40:04 PM)

sometimes I think ppl post a thread to hear themselves talk.

BadOne



kittinSol -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:41:27 PM)

I doubt married couples are more committed than non-married couples. Similarly, I doubt BDSM couples are more committed than those that get their jollies off scrapbooking. Has anyone seen weal, twue statistics?



SteelofUtah -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:42:02 PM)

See I am married and I see this question differently.

Being married TO MY SLAVE makes the marriage a little different for one our communication levels are WAY HIGHER then I have ever had with someone before.

I find that we are MORE comfortable with the little idisyncratic bull shit that usually screws up a relationship but then again I find that those in the BDSM world who are Married to thier submissive tend to have a quality about them that is more patient when things go poorly. I know that the whole Idea of if andi does something I don't like that my ability to be done with her is severely crippled now that we are married but on the same note there are a lot less things I require of her to prove her desire to be with me because I am far less concerned with her devotion as I am with the time we have together. I could waste more time testing her and having her prove her love to me .... or I could just be happy with her and enjoy the years together.

I see what the Op is saying and I agree TO AN EXTENT. Because there are Miserable Bastards EVERYWHERE. To be honest I don't know Many Master/slave couples that got married AFTER they got together in a D/s Fashion that have gotten divorced however I know MANY who got into D/s after they got married and it distroyed the marriage so I guess 6 of 1 Half Dozen of the other applies.

Steel



KatyLied -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:43:47 PM)

The census should have that information, I think it's by age and I'm not sure if they have the rates for subsequent marriage(s) after divorce.  People often quote 50% divorce rate, but it's actually lower, around 40%, but again, depends on age.



mistoferin -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:43:59 PM)

Marriage is a great institution if you are ready to be institutionalized.



kittinSol -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:44:11 PM)

Marriage did enhance mutual communication for us, no doubt about it. Furthermore, I'd say it's the sexiest thing in the world. But that's just me.



Mercnbeth -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:45:44 PM)

Nah - strictly financial for us.

I married to beth in order to avoid the $25 surcharge to put her, as an unmarried partner, on the car rental agreement while traveling to Washington State. I remember being pissed off about that and determined to avoid that expense in the future.

Don't know if we'll ever travel back up there - but in these times you have to plan ahead.



KatyLied -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:45:54 PM)

quote:

Marriage is a great institution if you are ready to be institutionalized.


Are you saying that married people are not more committed, but should be committed?   [;)]



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:49:46 PM)

all divorces begin with.... hey honey...im pregnant....

or....wife walks in on him with another girl in bed.

okay..im being silly...

but there is no difference between bdsm couple and vanilla couples...relationships last as long as they want it to last.



kittinSol -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:50:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Are you saying that married people are not more committed, but should be committed?   [;)]



Hey, if it means they get to wear one of those it's cool by me [&:] .



KatyLied -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:52:07 PM)

kooky girl!



windchymes -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:56:09 PM)

Judging by the number of profiles I read that say something along the lines of "I'm married but my spouse is vanilla and wants no part of bdsm, but I realized sometime after taking my marriage vows that I have these overpowering tendencies and desires that I can no longer deny and I must satisfy them at whatever the cost......"   I'd say the number of PEOPLE not so committed to their marriages is growing.

But I don't think it's a "bdsm" thing, I think there are many reasons a marriage can either succeed or fold. And they may even be bdsm-related or non-bdsm-related issues.  I personally don't believe that there's generally a direct correlation between being more committed to marriage if a couple is part of the bdsm community.  For some, it might strengthen it, for others, not.




kittinSol -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:56:41 PM)

Hey, don't diss it 'till you've tried it.

"Full gusset flap keeps hair from getting caught
Adds padding to the back of the head for more comfort.
Really nice to have a hood that is a full head enclosure,
Biothane collar can be padlocked
No way to open the hood or pull it off without  removing the lock"

Pure poetry, just like wedlock :-D .

PS: wtf is a 'biothane collar'?



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Are married couples more committed? (4/15/2008 1:57:26 PM)

quote:

Hey, don't diss it 'till you've tried it.


marry me...but you have to come to canada...hey..free health care!



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