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hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 3:31:10 PM

sacredheart

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hi what it is that i have 2 slaves my first slave is ok but he has a ex mistress blackmailing him saying that the pictures and videos that shes got of him and she will send them into work so that he wont change his profile to say hes owned and that she wants him to go to her my other slave doesnt know wether he wants to be with me eithen though he did until the other day im very confused can somebody give me some advice thank u all all my love sacred heart

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 3:39:46 PM

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Online or a real relationship?

If you don't even know for sure if he wants to be with you or not. You have some serious communication issues going on.

Also, what would prevent him from dumping that name...or just letting it lie and making a brand new name?

She want's him to go to her other slave? Don't understand that, can you clarify?

Sonds like the two or three of you may need to sit down for a heart to heart talk....find out what everyone wants out of the relationships. Then go from there.

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 3:50:08 PM

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hi what it is that i have 2 slaves my first slave is ok but he has a ex mistress blackmailing him saying that the pictures and videos that shes got of him and she will send them into work so that he wont change his profile to say hes owned and that she wants him to go to her my other slave doesnt know wether he wants to be with me eithen though he did until the other day im very confused can somebody give me some advice thank u all all my love sacred heart

This "blackmail" is all about what's written on his profile??? Sounds like the former mistress is taking a lot of risk for not much benefit.

Do you have any independent confirmation that the blackmail is really taking place?

My "drama" meter is pegging.

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 3:59:24 PM

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Sounds to me like that maybe someone needs a good dose of reality....why do you continue to drown yourself in drama? John my drama meter has blown off the scale

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 4:10:34 PM

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real life

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 5:42:47 PM

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Sometimes, just sometimes you may need to take several steps back and re-evaluate the whole situation including yourself. If the threats of blackmail is real then you may chose to involve the authorities. However this may just be one case where you release both of your slaves and after a breather start rebuilding your self first then find a slave withiout this baggage. You do sound like you could do with an experienced mentor too.

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 7:16:13 PM

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I think the advice of stepping back and taking stock of things was right on target. You don't say how long you've been involved with either slave, or how much emotional connection you have with either, which might also give you the answer your looking for. At the moment, the situation sounds like not only a lot of drama, but a lot work -- exhaustive work at that.

Only you can decide which way to go...I wish you lots of luck.

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 8:55:38 PM

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The ultimate decision rests in your hands. Do you really want all this going on? Is the communication lacking? Should you re-evaluate your relationships with your slaves? If you let these slaves go, you can start again fresh with a new perspective. You might find better than you have and not all the baggage. I have to agree with John on his comment about finding a mentor. Someone can give you insight on selecting suitable slaves and other helpful information.

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RE: hi i nee some advice can anybody help me - 10/9/2005 9:57:27 PM

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quote:

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hi what it is that i have 2 slaves my first slave is ok but he has a ex mistress blackmailing him saying that the pictures and videos that shes got of him and she will send them into work so that he wont change his profile to say hes owned and that she wants him to go to her my other slave doesnt know wether he wants to be with me eithen though he did until the other day im very confused can somebody give me some advice thank u all all my love sacred heart

First, you need to get a handle on your own situation. If your first slave is having difficulties, you need to focus your energy there, instead of worrying right now about taking on a second responsibility. Second, get evidence of the blackmail. If it is genuinely blackmail, you need to do what you must to protect your slave. This may include involving the authorities, and it may also include things like getting your property -offline-. It may -also- mean things like making plans to deal with what happens if your slave -is- exposed at work. All of this is going to take a great deal of organization and responsibility on -your- part, as well as on the part of your slave, and upheaval of this kind is not the best place/time for bringing new people into the picture.

That brings us to your second slave. Apparently, he is undecided anyway, so this may be a -really- good time to give some space to this, until you've taken care of your first set of responsibilities and he has had some time to decide whether the relationship he is looking at with you is one that he is interested in seriously pursuing.

In the end, you are going to have to pick up and shoulder some heavy-duty responsibility here. It's what comes with taking up control of another person's life, and it can get really messy at times. Verify, validate, assess, plan, then command. Such is the pattern of leadership.

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