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RE: To pay, or not to pay... - 10/10/2005 7:14:31 PM

kc692

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ORIGINAL: LadySonelle

This is why, in fact, I have never *become* a ProDomme. I do not WANT to lose the love and cherishing relationship that exists when the slave is Mine, and I am not his employee by virtue of the exchange of coin.

I have attempted to find financial slaves and there the mix would differ, obviously. But I will love ALL My RL slaves, including the financial ones, for I cannot rule a subject I do not also love.

My two cents.

Lady Sonelle

I understand what you are saying, but, respectfully, IMHO, payment for services no more makes a ProDomme an employee more than any other professional. You pay a Doctor, a tax professional, with the expectations that their knowledge and expertise supercedes anything else. If a ProDomme was handed a script, and expected to follow it to the letter, I would maybe concede. I think however, that although a Pro tailors scening somewhat to the clients' interests, she is still able to push limits, and is totally in command of the situation, deciding what, when, and if certain things occur. It is also my understanding from many that the clients they see regularly, like your phone clients, they have developed some type of relationship, as far as some degree of caring, whether or not there is exchange of coin.

KC

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RE: To pay, or not to pay... - 10/10/2005 9:51:52 PM

michaelMI

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thank You Lady Sonelle for making this clear to me. of all the posts online, Yours provided the best explaination i've seen thus far. there is only one thing i would like to find out though and please don't take this out of context. do You see a paid sub/slave as a form of Topping from the bottom. let me see if i can rephrase that, how does it work once the agreement has been set?

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RE: To pay, or not to pay... - 10/11/2005 11:40:32 AM

LadyHibiscus

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I went to check out the profile, and nothing glam at all! Bummer.

Regarding the comment on scripts----I do not follow scripts. Of course I am in the business of fantasy fulfillment, and before I see a client I thoroughly interview them to find out what they really are looking for. After all, it could be that I can't provide it!

I find out what is *essential* to their experience, and work those elements in. If someone hands me an incredibly detailed, scripted fantasy, I turn them away. There is no domme in the universe who can provide someone with the experience that the replay of imagination can give. Some fantasies are meant to stay that way.

Do I consider pro domming topping from the bottom? Not any more than any scene I do with a bottom who likes certain things. I want my playmates to enjoy their time with me---why would I force something on a person who hated that activity, or say no to something that I enjoy?

Ms Francine, hopefully NOT feeding the troll........

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