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CreativeDominant -> RE: Official Training Standards (4/17/2008 1:11:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MastrVran
I will be different just because I can be.
Training is almost never designed as some poeple seem to think for the slave to learn how to please any Master in the future. I for one, could not care less who the slave may end up with 5 minutes, 5 days, weeks, months, years or decades down the road. training has nothing whatsoever to do with the slaves potential owner. It has to do with unleashing the feelings within. Allowing them a range of expression in a safe, controlled enviroment where she can learn what various things mean, how they effect her, if they effect her and if they are just plain wrong for her. (BTW...a female noun will be used by me most of the time, however, replace it with any you think fits your style better.)
Training can be simply showing someone a technique, demonstrating it on them, allowing them to try it on someone with you there to guide and help. While I agree many people, especially online, use and view training to really mean, come over and I will tie you up and lay you, this will help make you a better slave/sub. And it might at that. But for anyone who thinks of training as I do, its simply teaching others things about themselves.
Now many on here will also say this is wrong because only their future partner should be doing this. Really? Like everyone here was a virgin on your wedding day. And for both of you who may have been, did you marriage last? And if so do you wonder if you made the right choice or simply the first choice?
Anything that increases a persons knowledge of themselves, of their reactions, of their likes or dislikes, of their fears, loves, needs is not a bad thing. Now I will say just saying you are a trainer to get laid is simply a bad thing. And yeah, with online you get hammered with that a lot. But training is not simply about a persons sexual needs and/or nature, though for many it is definately a large part of this. I see training as simply teaching someone things they wish to learn and know. Mostly it will be about them. Not about that future someone who may or may not exist. There was a thread I saw the other day all about, a slave asked if she should try to find someone who does the things she liked or just be a slave and take anything he wanted. The question that came to my mind, was how do you know what you like till you have experienced it? And once you have a clue, I would certainly recommend finding someone who at least mostly fits in with your needs and desires, anything else is a road to ruin someday.
So, obviously some of you have certain beliefs that training is BS. I can live with that. Some of what you say I find amusing. Everyone has different beliefs, some of you want a virgin canvas to work with. Unfortunately in todays society, by the time someone is of legal age to have sex and enter this lifestyle, the odds are they already have. If by coming to see a trainer a slave gains some knowledge, once they are old enough, even if its just a small amount, she is better off than she was. Same of course goes for Doms, any knowledge gained has uses.
Just realize that no where in this have I recommended someone go to a trainer who appears to be an HNG. Nor would I ever recommend going to anyone, without a lot of background on them, references, and other checks.
But training, while laughed at by some, has a real use when applied correctly and with certain things in mind. It is not an end in itself. It is simply a chance for someone to explore some sides of themselves hopefully with someone qualified in the area they want to explore. Like going to a club and having an expert flogger, do a flogging on you. To me...thats a form of training. You have gained knowledge from it. Why is going to a trainer any different and horrible, if he does the same thing that you would have gotten at a club?
Just my way of looking at things, as always.
MV
And my question to you...asked in all seriousness...is this: what separates you, given the fact that you admit that sexual exploration most likely will be involved, from the HNGs who come on as trainers? Because you state that you look at it differently? Because you state that you are showing them their fears in a safe environment and what brings them pleasure in a safe environment? Or is it because you are able to state in your own mind that you know that you are not their dominant and you disclaim that to them before every time you take them to a point where they want to give themselves to you? I am quite sure that most other trainers/mentors state the same thing...what makes you different?
Forgive me if this seems a bit snide but it sounds a bit to me like those in my own profession and in the medical profession who state that they see 50 patients a day because they have a "calling to serve as much of humanity as possible". Perhaps I am a bit cynical.
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