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how do you react? - 4/26/2008 3:36:40 PM

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When you're in bondage and something painful is happening and you're trying not to make noise, how else do other subs out there express their moans and screams?

Today I noticed during some playtime (wax, mmm) with Alpha that when I can't move anything else, twisting my toes is how I express pain, and nervousness. if it's only my fingers, I wiggle them with all my might, tense them, it probably looks like I'm throwing some jazz hands or something. In videos I've seen, I usually see the subs tensing their hands, is this just for the camera? What do you do with the bits you can move when you're being flogged, having wax poured on you, etc.?

Make any funny faces? I know I do.

RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 3:38:23 PM

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I tend to squeeze things, blankets, what have you and if I cant I just pretend I can. lol.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 4:00:56 PM

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I let any new Dom (top, what have you) know that I am vocal. I do have a gag, but that's just so we don't alarm the neighbors. The quality of my noises changes if something is more than I am able to handle, and the Dom is alert to the changes. He removes the gag, and we discuss, because there are things that we must be alert to for medical reasons.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 4:09:03 PM

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Until i get past the fighting the pain stage, i scream my lungs out. Don't know what the neighbours say, but the police have never been called. After that i am usually quiet. My Sir knows how i am doing by what my body is doing. for example when he is really hurting me, i start sweating. Other than than i wiggle my toes like crazy. Helps distract me. lol. I tense my whole body . I have noticed that in bdsm movies most of those girls seem to handle pain better than i do. Infact i have seen one that looked positively euphoric! I don't get there , but i do love the aftermathe.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 4:13:51 PM

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I let any new Dom (top, what have you) know that I am vocal. I do have a gag, but that's just so we don't alarm the neighbors. The quality of my noises changes if something is more than I am able to handle, and the Dom is alert to the changes. He removes the gag, and we discuss, because there are things that we must be alert to for medical reasons.

pip, loud and lively

yes, when I'm being vocal, Alpha can tell by the changes in my voice when something is too much. He says that when my noises make him feel bad it's a sign he's hurting me badly, and I don't know exactly what those sound like but it's been working so far. Same with movements, it's when I stop moving and squirming that he starts to worry.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 4:14:57 PM

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Until i get past the fighting the pain stage, i scream my lungs out. Don't know what the neighbours say, but the police have never been called. After that i am usually quiet. My Sir knows how i am doing by what my body is doing. for example when he is really hurting me, i start sweating. Other than than i wiggle my toes like crazy. Helps distract me. lol. I tense my whole body . I have noticed that in bdsm movies most of those girls seem to handle pain better than i do. Infact i have seen one that looked positively euphoric! I don't get there , but i do love the aftermathe.

I'd like to see one of those movies completely uncut to see just how much they had to go through before getting to the euphoria... feels like false advertising! lo

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 4:54:02 PM

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Why do you try not to make noise, not give him necessary feedback?

Seems as though he would need it to know the difference between what you can handle and what you can't.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 5:32:30 PM

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i'm vocal myself, but when trying to keep the nosie level down i tend to dig my nails into anything... Once at His office we were playing and while bent over a table my nails were dragging along the wall, table, anything they got near. lol Then again Sir likes my wimpers, moans, and sighs....so, i get to be pretty vocal.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 6:00:18 PM

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I am very vocal even if all there is is moans those that I have been involved with have known me well enough to know the differernce between a moan of pleasure and a moan of pain. I also tend to bite my lower lip when I am in pain and trying to work through it, plus I have been told that my body gives it away when I am truly not enjoying something.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 6:02:31 PM

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lol Sir has told me that theres my moan of pleasure, my moan of pain, and the moan of holy crap not sure, but i think i like it. rofl i bite my lip also trying to keep the nosie down when it hurts, but feels soo good. Ahhh bitter sweet pain. *sigh*

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 8:53:58 PM

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i am vocal, very vocal. i haven't let out any blood curddling screams, YET, lol. But i do whimper when it hurts a little beyond my comfort level. LOL, i did once yell out "FUCKER" when He whacked me good with the cane, ouch that stung like a mother, but He just laughed at me and said He would deal with that later. He likes me being vocal, He hasn't even gagged me.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 9:34:31 PM

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i moan, whmper, purr, squeak, have called him a goddamned evil bastard....wriggle, arch up, move so he can reach me easier, dig my hands into the bedclothes...

and he loves it all.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/26/2008 10:24:57 PM

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Why do you try not to make noise, not give him necessary feedback?

Seems as though he would need it to know the difference between what you can handle and what you can't.

I think you misunderstood me, or I didn't explain. the only time he has me be quiet is when we'e already established that i can handle something and it's another form of restraint for me. I was just curious about other's behavior while enduring pain.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/27/2008 3:09:19 AM

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Apart from all the squawking i do i tend to laugh a lot too even if it's not funny! For me a little clamp we have for my tongue seems to quieten me more than a gag and yes the clenching and tightening up of everything seems to be a natural reaction to taking pain. As for those films i'm never convinced they really feel that pain i think it has to be clever camera stuff. Nobodys that tough are they?

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RE: how do you react? - 4/27/2008 4:53:39 AM

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My Sir often says that watching my feet is the best indicator on how I'm doing. They wiggle a lot! I don't like to make a bunch of noise because it messes with my concentration on accepting what he is doing to me. I will usually bury my face in a pillow and hum. Sometimes I will whisper my mantra or I cuss him out.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/27/2008 9:38:08 AM

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I think you misunderstood me, or I didn't explain. the only time he has me be quiet is when we'e already established that i can handle something and it's another form of restraint for me. I was just curious about other's behavior while enduring pain.

Ah, got it. What I've found is that I can't focus on more than one thing. So if I'm focusing on being quiet then I'm not focusing on the sensations. As a result I can't handle much. I honestly prefer a ball gag as it gives me something to bite down on.

What can I say, multitasking is for cooking, not for times like this.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/27/2008 9:40:06 AM

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tongue clamp... that seems like it would do the trick! hopefully Alpha doesn't read this thread, lol.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/27/2008 1:21:03 PM

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I'm not a screamer, I don't really make noises. I just tend to tense up and hold my breath without realizing it. It's almost like a meditative state for me, something I learned a long time ago to do when in painful situations that now it's just a natural reaction for me.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/27/2008 1:24:48 PM

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What can I say, multitasking is for cooking, not for times like this.

I can't even cook very well! lol. I like bit gags myself, small mouth.

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RE: how do you react? - 4/27/2008 1:38:04 PM

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Those I haven't tried. But I don't think I'd go for a tongue clamp because I'd be afraid I would bite my tongue.

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