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A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 2:52:34 PM   
AAkasha


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I will toss this one out there as a new theory why so many people do not respond to emails. I'll use the male sub/femdom equation but it probably goes all ways.

If you are emailing someone from a profile here on collarme and they do not reply to your email at all, don't immediately assume all femdoms are rude. Despite the fact that many femdoms on threads here explain why we don't respond to every email, there are still some subs that insist the numbers are SO high that the problem is worse than we know.

I would like to suggest that a great many femdom profiles are written in a way to attract sub men because the femdom is not sincere. She is either seeking quick cash or someone she can manipulate and use. There are a ton of women online looking at BDSM as a way she can meet a man to manipulate, use, treat like garbage and not have to be accountable. They think this is what a submissive male "seeks."

They are not going to reply to an email that is well thought out, sincere, intelligent. It's not their "target market." They are going to reply to dopes, uneducated people, those that have their cock in their hand when they write, and those that blatantly offer themselves up for slavery in the first line of an email. That's what they want -- hook, line and sinker. They aren't going to waste their valuable time writing to men who are sincere in looking for a partner.

Here's the rub. The profiles that are *most attractive* are probably the ones that are fake. They have a hot picture (hot, but not TOO hot, just to be sure), seem to list out just what a sub wants to hear, and have listed a host of fetishes and state that they are looking for a partner NOW or need a slave.

The profiles that might not get a second look by subs are more down to earth, almost vanilla, have a normal picture or not picture at all, are perhaps even "boring" to read when compared to the smoking-hot other profiles that make a sub go "WOW!" and his cock spring up.

If you think you met the femdom of your dreams based on her picture and profile, keep in mind two things:

1. She probably receives 100 emails a day because OTHER subs are thinking the same thing.
2. Remember: "If it's too good to be true, it's probably not."

If the profile seems to stack up as everything a sub would die for in a woman, it just might be a scam. And if it is, the "scammer" is going to delete emails from subs that can't be fooled, are sincere, and she knows she can't get money or gifts from them. So consider yourself lucky.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 3:21:54 PM   
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AAKasha

I think you offer some very real advice on this matter. Tons of hoaxes out there. The prey always has their cock in hand. The shoe also falls on the other side with Dom Males seeking sub /slaves females. Cock in hand equals cash or free ride. Its tough having to heads do your thinking for you. ROFL

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 3:34:36 PM   
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I think your theory holds a lot of water. I cannot speak for Femdom but I know that there are a lot of profiles written just to get some attention and titulation and when someone sincere answers they can't deal with it.

My theory (maledom) is more based on an interviewer who has a 1000 resumes for one job. Men on these sites so out number the woman that when the woman sort through their messages it is such a negative event that the first non perfect thing in your message means automatic delete no matter how sincere or real you are.

In my opinion woman on these sites would stand a much better chance if they browsed for profiles and sent initial messages to profiles they like than trying to keep an open mind when reading incoming messages. I am always stunned when I correspond with women and they have barely search the profiles and never sent an intial message.


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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 3:46:27 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: xanderzzz

I think your theory holds a lot of water. I cannot speak for Femdom but I know that there are a lot of profiles written just to get some attention and titulation and when someone sincere answers they can't deal with it.

My theory (maledom) is more based on an interviewer who has a 1000 resumes for one job. Men on these sites so out number the woman that when the woman sort through their messages it is such a negative event that the first non perfect thing in your message means automatic delete no matter how sincere or real you are.

In my opinion woman on these sites would stand a much better chance if they browsed for profiles and sent initial messages to profiles they like than trying to keep an open mind when reading incoming messages. I am always stunned when I correspond with women and they have barely search the profiles and never sent an intial message.




Exactly! Its shocking that most of the females here spend most of their time responding to messages from male trolls and stalkers rather than searching profiles for sincere compatibility. Thats not to say genuine people dont send messages. But it gets lost most of the time in a sea of deception. I dont continually hound someone who doesnt reply to me but I more frequently will message someone with out a pic. The only reason is because those females have less messages in their box and my message might get seen.

I dont envy the female problem of tons of messages. Its almost like spam or junk male for th emost part. Id rather get nothing. Which is most often teh case. LOL.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 3:51:12 PM   
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I'm new here, so I don't want to get on anyone's bad side, but when I read this post I had two thoughts. First I think it is well written and sound in theory. Second, I ask myself why it wasn't posted as a response to the first thread. You did come down on him rather harshly. I am not saying whether it was with or without just cause. That isn't my place.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 3:53:51 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: realsumissive

I'm new here, so I don't want to get on anyone bad side, but when I read this poat I had two thoughts. First I think it is well written and sound theory. Second, I ask myself why it wasn't posted as a response to the first thread. You did come down on him rather harshly. I am not saying whether it was with or without just cause. That isn't my place.


What thread are you talking about?

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 3:58:20 PM   
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The thread by marx. I believe that you wrote this as an addendum to the replies he has been recieving.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 4:02:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: realsumissive

The thread by marx. I believe that you wrote this as an addendum to the replies he has been recieving.


No, it was coincidental in timing. There are threads created almost weekly with rants about femdoms not responding to emails. The idea for this topic actually came from a discussion on another board.

If it were related to that marx thread, I wouldn't post it there anyway. A lot of people wouldn't read that thread based on the title alone.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 4:33:50 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha
They are going to reply to dopes, uneducated people, those that have their cock in their hand when they write, and those that blatantly offer themselves up for slavery in the first line of an email.

How do you know someone has his cock in his hand when he writes ? Bad spelling ?

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I would like to suggest that a great many femdom profiles are written in a way to attract sub men because the femdom is not sincere. She is either seeking quick cash or someone she can manipulate and use.

Your theory does make sense. And sometimes the greed is such that some profiles clearly say that the "dominant" is into "online" and "financial domination". Which, as I understand, means that she wants guys to send her money so she doesn't have to earn her living. In exchange of which, what ? The guy can masturbate ? OK, this is something I really don't understand. It almost makes me REALLY ANGRY. Who wants to give away his money to a girl who will just laugh at him and give him nothing ?

edit : Dammit... The reason why I wanted to answer is that I was wondering if there was a way to scam the "domme" scammers, as some do with african scammers. Pretending to a domme who seeks "piggies to use and humiliate" that you're (generic "you", male subs) filthy rich, and willing to give the domme big girl's best friends in exchange of some minor help. Has anyone ever tried this ? Any result ? I guess one should study scamology on scamorama before doing that...

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 6:31:07 PM   
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awww frenchpet, tsk tsk! <loans you my book on scamalamadingdong for your reading pleasure>

When, as a society, will we learn to stop sending money to strangers in hopes of winning a fortune, lover, bottle of Zantrax or ipod? Is it just survival of the fittest that these guys are spending their breeding money on what will someday equate to carpal tunnel syndrome?

Or is it a legitimate kink? (ie 'i sent that big strong woman my last nickel- damn that was hot!')

Should asking for money in profiles be policed?

And finally, if the "uber Dommes" you mention who are fake get more replies than the real ones, even the ones who say it in plain English to send moola, aren't they thinning the herd for you? ;)

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 7:01:33 PM   
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My experience as a male dom has been this.

When sending e-mails to prospective subs/slaves I used to spend an enormous amount of time responding to every detail in their profile - you know so they know I read it.

I sent out over 100 e-mails like this over a period of a year (way back when I knew far less about what I was looking for so I had a wider net).

I received exactly zero replies.

The only relationships that have gone anywhere have been on the rare occaision when a sub/slave contacted me.

So now, I write 2-4 lines saying I read their profile, have a look at mine if you are interested let me know (My profile is a few paragraphs long).

Response rate?

Still zero! Lol.

So everytime I read those: "One line response will not be answered". I think well who cares, I could spend hours composing a response and still get no response back.

I always have a good laugh when someone has posted as their entire profile: "If you send me a one line response don't expect to hear back from me."

I'm not terribly worried, when the right one comes along all the needed actions will happen.

Something I do for those that send me something on their own and I am not interested, is to try to say something positive and no thanks and good luck in your search.

I always found it discouraging to send e-mails into a black hole; you don't even know if they received it. Even on another web site where you can auto-reply that the message was received thanks, if i'm interested I'll get back to you as soon as I can - close to nada for auto replies.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/13/2005 7:43:34 PM   
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I hadn't thought of it exactly that way but I believe you have a valid point. Good write!

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 1:49:56 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: subversiveone

Should asking for money in profiles be policed?

And finally, if the "uber Dommes" you mention who are fake get more replies than the real ones, even the ones who say it in plain English to send moola, aren't they thinning the herd for you? ;)

thinning, or skinning ?

I don't think it should be policed, but it would be only fair if CM.com got a percentage. Just a suggestion.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 4:22:28 AM   
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Life is a learning process, is it not? In all situations where people desire,seek,require something from another, the scam potential exists. Its to a large extent, self policing. How many of us have, at some point throughout life, discovered ourselves holding the sh*tty end of the stick? Only to vow,never again, not me , no way!! Most people of average intelligence or above are quite capable of tuning their BS detector high enough to minimise the chances of being caught out too often.... On a lighter note. CM.com should get half of all scammed funds gained through the site. If its as prevalent as some seem to think, CM could organise ,and fund, an annual all members invited, weekend get-together with the proceeds!

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 4:30:38 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wolfie648
I'm not terribly worried, when the right one comes along all the needed actions will happen.

D (owner of j)



I could not agree more.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 5:27:35 AM   
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i wasn't going to reply to this, but there are a lot of good points and there's another type of non-respondant out there...those who post that they are looking to meet new people and make friends (Dominant and sub/slave alike) that either do not respond to polite, introductory emails, respond in a rude manner or simply use the "universal" reply button (BLOCK USER) to say "no, thank you".

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 8:07:31 AM   
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as a sincere male dom i alway read complete profile before i write sometimes it just a line or two ,others get several ...stiill reply rate very low and most that do reply are not seeming what they said in their profile or just wanbt to play awhile on-line then just disapear when it comes time for a RT meeting

happy hunting all

i know my sub is out there somewhere when time is right she will show up

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 9:21:54 AM   
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I don't have much to add the the responses already posted. So why am I adding at all. This is a well written post and the responses so far have been positive and mature. How refreshing. Sort of restores my faith in humanity.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 11:02:06 AM   
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You made a great point here Aakasha and your writing should be quite comforting for all those *why-isnt-she-answering-my-mails whine whine* threads starters.

But since I just deleted one more message written by someone insisting to come over by plane - and I specifically took trouble to write in my journal I am going to delete any messages with such offers and why......... I am not happy those people are getting any comfort from anyone.

My opinion is that most of those who start *why-my-emails-get-deleted whine whine* threads are egocentrics who never read a word in profiles. And those threads are just a way of seeking attention and getting noticed.
From now on I am going to deal with that kind with block button.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 11:17:28 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kasia

You made a great point here Aakasha and your writing should be quite comforting for all those *why-isnt-she-answering-my-mails whine whine* threads starters.

But since I just deleted one more message written by someone insisting to come over by plane - and I specifically took trouble to write in my journal I am going to delete any messages with such offers and why......... I am not happy those people are getting any comfort from anyone.

My opinion is that most of those who start *why-my-emails-get-deleted whine whine* threads are egocentrics who never read a word in profiles. And those threads are just a way of seeking attention and getting noticed.
From now on I am going to deal with that kind with block button.


I would like to ask a question. How can you be deleting emails from subs asking to visit you when you don't have a profile?

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