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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 3:12:09 PM

Kasia

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

The fact that Akasha is an incredibly attractive dominant doesn't put any obligation on her to be available to anyone.

John, it is not about Aakasha but about me having no link to my profile in usual place but in my sig line.
I dont mind explaining that to Aakasha or you, or KCMO or caitlyn (the fact that people like you all never ask about it says pretty much).
But I do mind telling every superficial newbie where is my profile. If that one is not capable of reading my signature (after I told him to do so) than he will probably not read my profile but only look to the little pics. I dont need that kind.
Somehow I am happy my profile doesnt show to every clicking-all-around persona here.

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d) I'm just generally a fuck-up.

Caitlyn, you are the most sweet and humorous girl I had a chance to see on this site. I find your posts amusing, touching and sharp to the point. You are no way a fuck-up.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 3:15:07 PM

Kasia

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Apology to Aakasha for hijacking the thread.

< Message edited by Kasia -- 10/14/2005 3:17:39 PM >

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/14/2005 3:32:25 PM

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Kassia,
I did some thinking during dinner, and had I paid attention to your tag line, I should have come to the conclusion that there was a problem with your profile. Please accept my deepest appologies for my words earlier, and I will honestly try to be more attentive to things on here in the future. I truly hope you can find it in you to forgive me.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 3:45:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: KittenWithaTwist

Just to give you a tiny clue, frenchpet: financial domination is *hardly* a career choice. However, sometimes, it is a good way to make a little extra cash. Pro dommes offer services like beatings and humiliation. Some online dommes offer chatting and webcam services. You pay a phone sex operator to entice you.

Do phone sex operators, strippers, and pro dommes make you angry? Why should they? If someone wants to give up their money, so be it. Everyone is entitled to do so. I don't see why that should make anyone angry at all.

My capitalized "really angry" was just a silly ironical reference ;). I was just wondering why people would give away their money with nothing in exchange (after all those who decide to pay the lottery tax at least have a tiny chance to win a lot of money).

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 7:44:30 AM

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Ridiculous -- but possible -- because anything is!

I've had inlegible responses from submissives (yes even in this day of typing), too many times to count. I don't solicit, so I hope that a submissive who is responding to My profile will at least provide enough information to gauge something about him the person, as well as him the submissive. Yes, I look for intelligence and humor, because that's what I'm attracted to. The D/s relationship cannot exist in a vacuum!

Being as I'm not attached at the hip to the computer, I don't want to relate in cyber, but prefer to speak with over the phone in a more realistic and conversive environment.

When a submissive contacts Me from a distance outside of My area, what can possibly result: long-distance service?! Really, I find so many submissives, who are sitting with their cock in their hands offer to serve, now! My answer (or non-answer): next! While I do try to reply to each email I receive, I will not apply to those where the writer is simply lacking in respect! So that often weeds out at least 25%.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 1:41:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: Wolfie648
I received exactly zero replies.

I received a few, but mostly from people who were NOT what they seemed to be. I have encountered everything from incomplete information to outright lies. Seems like a lot of nutjobs reply. However, I have had some really cool girls reply.

What I don't get is when they reply once or twice and then drop off the face of the earth when things seems to be going well. There's no way to explain it but outright rudeness.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 1:58:44 PM

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Kassia,
I did some thinking during dinner, and had I paid attention to your tag line, I should have come to the conclusion that there was a problem with your profile. Please accept my deepest appologies for my words earlier, and I will honestly try to be more attentive to things on here in the future. I truly hope you can find it in you to forgive me.

Tell me something, would you?

Did you keep reading her tag line, over and over, without realizing the tag line itself was a link to her profile?

Did you not hover your cursor over the tag line and realize it does indeed link to the profile you were wishing to see?

Or did you realize her tag line was a link but felt it was deceptive because where you normally click for a profile didn't work for you?

Just curious.

My initial thought when reading this thread was that to someone fairly new to online that they might not realize the tag lone not only explains why there is a deleted profile but was also a link to the real profile, and unless someone clearly pointed out that they needed to CLICK that, they might read it over and over without putting their mouse near it and never realize there was something more there than initially meets the eye.

Boy, that's a run on sentence! LOL!

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 3:24:47 PM

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Your theory offers very good insight into the email return problem. I'm convinced that this answers part of the question. I also think it highlights the growing problem with scam profiles being set up here and on other sites. When you really look at the number of real, sincere Dommes looking for sub males, the numbers are very low. And those profiles must be deluged with emails as well.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 4:45:35 PM

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Diva,
I didn't realize that the tag line was a link, but my behavior was still wrong. I did what many complain about on here and made an unfair assumption. But I do thank you for understanding.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 5:44:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: realsumissive

When I click on your name attached to your messages, I get, "Profile Not Found". I'm assuming nothing. If you have an active profile on here, why not use it to post? Excuse me for having an opinion, but I think you are hiding something, or are being deceptive, and with all the threads going on about deceipt, I believe there are many that would agree.

I don't see how that can be considered deceptive. Is it deceptive when a poster on collarme is unhappy with the reception he got so he creates and brand new profile and starts posting again?

Akasha

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 6:51:04 PM

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Akasha, they got it all straight... it's all good in the neighborhood.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/15/2005 6:58:51 PM

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Hi,
Read my post on Ask a Mistress under Fun Ideas for Humiliation. I think you can put one and one together, and come to a conclusion.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/17/2005 7:40:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

If you think you met the femdom of your dreams based on her picture and profile, keep in mind two things:

1. She probably receives 100 emails a day because OTHER subs are thinking the same thing.
2. Remember: "If it's too good to be true, it's probably not."

Akasha

Um, not to be picky, but isn't it, "If it's too good to be true, it probably IS"?

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/18/2005 5:23:40 PM

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I have noticed that more and more "money dommes" and pro's are flocking to this site. And that's fine; they serve a purpose within our community.

However - I wish there was a search mechanism to avoid them for people like me, who seek non-pro, non-financial dommes.

Collarme recently added a great question (seeking sub male, sub female, etc.) that has made everyone's searches easier, and probably lessened the unwanted mail.

But I'd love another search question -- i.e., what are you: a) money domme, b) pro domme, c) lifestyle domme.

Also, you are seeking: a) serious, monogamous relationship, b) serious, poly relationship, c) pro sessions, d) money slavery

This would help so much! :)

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/19/2005 5:45:16 PM

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This is an example of what happened to me.

I sent a few messages after sifting profile after profile reading anyone I could to try and get a picture of who they were and I responded to those who seemed to be compatible. I got a few thanks and little interest, but then I am patient and in no hurry. I stumbled on a profile that was almost exactly the opposite of what I was looking for and passed over it a number of times. It just seemed to pop up again and again and it had no picture so it wasn't eye candy. I noticed she had a comment about her patience running thin and I sent a simple "Hang in there patience is a virtue and all good things come to those who wait." Now I didn’t think much of it a one line note to someone who we would have nothing in common looking for almost the opposite thing. A month later I might know more about her than some women I have ever encountered and I am in no hurry as we just honestly explore who we are together.

Who knows who the right one is or how you will connect. It could be that stupid person who bumps you and spills your coffee in the elevator.

Just a thought.

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Re: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/24/2005 9:54:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

If you are emailing someone from a profile here on collarme and they do not reply to your email at all, don't immediately assume all femdoms are rude. Despite the fact that many femdoms on threads here explain why we don't respond to every email, there are still some subs that insist the numbers are SO high that the problem is worse than we know.

Akasha, I personally believe that femdoms receive so much mail that they cannot possibly keep up with it. With this in mind, it would be interesting to hear from other femdoms with regard to how much mail that they do receive, and how many of those that they actually respond to.

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I would like to suggest that a great many femdom profiles are written in a way to attract sub men because the femdom is not sincere.

You make a valid point here. One cannot assume that all femdoms (or male doms, for that matter) are sincere. But if what you say is true, they why would anyone want to engage in a relationship with someone who is not sincere? One explanation may be that they (the submissives) are so caught up in the fantasy that they cannot separate it (fantasy) from the reality.

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They are not going to reply to an email that is well thought out, sincere, intelligent. It's not their "target market." They are going to reply to dopes, uneducated people, those that have their cock in their hand when they write, and those that blatantly offer themselves up for slavery in the first line of an email. That's what they want -- hook, line and sinker. They aren't going to waste their valuable time writing to men who are sincere in looking for a partner.

The profiles that might not get a second look by subs are more down to earth, almost vanilla, have a normal picture or not picture at all, are perhaps even "boring" to read when compared to the smoking-hot other profiles that make a sub go "WOW!" and his cock spring up.

Well said....*lol*...but then many subs may not be aware of those kinds of dynamics, simply due to the fact that they inexperienced and do not know when someone is yanking their chain...or not.

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If you think you met the femdom of your dreams based on her picture and profile, keep in mind two things:

1. She probably receives 100 emails a day because OTHER subs are thinking the same thing.
2. Remember: "If it's too good to be true, it's probably not."

Exactly! Again, with so many E-mails arriving daily, who has the time to read them all in detail and respond? And, with perception not always being reality, many subs fall victim to the "advertised personna" because that is what their own particular fantasy leads them to believe. However, there are many femdoms who are exactly what their profile represents, in which case, weeding them out from the rest does require experience, skill, effort...and especially time.

Thanks for the very interesting and enlightening post.

-Phil

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/24/2005 10:04:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: realsumissive

When I click on your name attached to your messages, I get, "Profile Not Found". I'm assuming nothing. If you have an active profile on here, why not use it to post? Excuse me for having an opinion, but I think you are hiding something, or are being deceptive, and with all the threads going on about deceipt, I believe there are many that would agree.

I'm here to read the forums. I'm not interested in a relationship-and I really don't want to get involved with answering private emails. Just because a person is not interested in being "available" to just anyone who happens by,does not neccesarily make them "deceptive."

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Re: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/24/2005 10:16:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: ShadeDiva

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Kassia,

Tell me something, would you?

Did you keep reading her tag line, over and over, without realizing the tag line itself was a link to her profile?

Did you not hover your cursor over the tag line and realize it does indeed link to the profile you were wishing to see?

Or did you realize her tag line was a link but felt it was deceptive because where you normally click for a profile didn't work for you?

Yes, burying a link in a tag line or in any part of one's text is a clever way of defeating software designed to limit the responder from going to another link.

(Note: Web hosts often do not allow people to "advertise" themselves and redirect readers to another Website or E-mail address. However, some Webhosts will actually read submitted profiles, so it really depends upon how sharp they are in finding these hidden messages.)

There are may be criptic messages hidden deep within a profile if one simply stops long-enough to analyze it's content.

-Phil

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/24/2005 6:19:56 PM

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There may also be a problem with the board istelf.
I can post to the board with no trouble but , when I try to send a provate e mail I cna raise teh correct window but I can't actually type a messageinto it. Some sortof problem with the window.
It may be my compute but it also may well be the site itself.

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RE: A new theory on people not responding to emails - 10/25/2005 10:59:42 PM

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I think the problem you may be having is stuck key syndrome ... not at all unusual for sites of this kind. you know the kind, where eyes, hands and the aforementioned WOW! factor combine to make the keys shift position or otherwise encounter a tacky substance.

But I digress ... the reason I am not responding to the wonderful mail I have gotten is that I am here reading one of VERY few well thought out topics and some really clever and honest responses ...
Thanx all.
Lady KT

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