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Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 5:39:54 AM   
abandonedpup


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Status: offline 		I'm thinking about getting involved in the community where I live. I may like girls, but I don't see puppy play as anything sexual, more nurturing than anything, so I wouldn't have a problem with having a male owner.

My question is, is it even worth attempting to start that kind of a relationship with a male, or is it all about the sex?

If you are (were) into pup stuff and were approached by someone who wasn't physically attracted to you, would you still be interested? Still be willing to give belly rubs and ear scratches? Or would you rather not deal with it?
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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 7:19:01 AM   
DarkSteven


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You've stated that you'd be happy with a male owner, and that you wouldn't want it to have any sexual component.  If you're open and honest about that with any prospective man, then it's only an issue of trust.

I say go for it.  You may end up with a male owner, or a couple,  You'll be opening up the odds of a good owner and gaining perspective on how the interaction could be different with a man.

And to answer your question, if you approached me, I'd be interested in playing with you and seeing what it's like. I've never done puppy play before.  I suspect there are a lot of men out there who would like to try it, just to see what it's like.


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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 8:48:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: abandonedpup

I'm thinking about getting involved in the community where I live. I may like girls, but I don't see puppy play as anything sexual, more nurturing than anything, so I wouldn't have a problem with having a male owner.

My question is, is it even worth attempting to start that kind of a relationship with a male, or is it all about the sex?

If you are (were) into pup stuff and were approached by someone who wasn't physically attracted to you, would you still be interested? Still be willing to give belly rubs and ear scratches? Or would you rather not deal with it?


I've done pain play with no sexual content so I don't see why there would be a problem finding someone who would be interested in doing puppy play with you without a sexual component.  What you need to do is find someone who wants a puppy.  There is nothing unusual about a kink without sex.

Of course, in my case, Libby might have an interest in what she could do with said puppy.  She can be VERY inventive and demanding.

Life with a poly, bi switch can be very interesting

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 8:50:55 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		I know a few people who would do so happily. For my part, I'm just not interested in animal play in any form with humans, I have two largish dogs who want ears and tummy rubs and cuddles at the drop of a hat and who wake me up at all hours by romping on the bed and giving me whet sloppy kisses (One is a male Malamute and t'other is a female Malamute/Husky cross). Gawd help and malke puppy player who tried that on me  Not sure but I'd at least consider shooting him  

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 9:09:07 AM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		I understand the OP's concern

It seems like when joining a BDSM community and looking for a Puppy Play Non sexual relationship would be like looking for a Neddle in a Hay Stack.

Yes Sexual Connection is a Focus of MANY in the lifestyle and I could see where it would be a dauntint task to go to your local community where NO ONE might even indulge in puppy play and find yourself the Odd Man Out. You might want to check into Furry Communities now you might not have one in your area but you can find a close one. Furry isn't always BDSM so you would again have to be careful who you told your desires to because some would be very accepting of your desire to be a puppy to a Male owner however would not be accepting of your BDSM Interests.

In the end it comes down to this.

What's the WORST that could happen? You meet a whole bunch of new people and make friends with some and still don't have an owner. At least you met new people right?

I saw go for it and enjoy yourself.

Steel

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 9:56:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Don't worry too much about what others maybe into. Work out what you need and search for someone compatable with that.

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 10:20:35 AM   
abandonedpup


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Status: offline 		Thanks everyone. So far the search for munches or community events has turned up nothing so it looks like I'll have a long while to figure everything out. Maybe my Mistress'll come back. One can only hope.

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 10:44:58 AM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Start your own munch or group  start a puppy  group or puppy/pony group .Why do you need  someone else to have already  done the  work ?If it is your passion  go forth and be  that puppy U  others  shall follow and  find you .As far as the whole no sexual  YES it is out there  , just make clear and up front  from the start and do ot mix your signals .

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 12:14:43 PM   
Justme696


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perhaps I am wrong...but are you sure what you look for..and what you like?

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 12:34:40 PM   
abandonedpup


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ORIGINAL: Justme696

At op

perhaps I am wrong...but are you sure what you look for..and what you like?


What do you mean? Yeah, I know what I'm into.

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 12:36:26 PM   
Justme696


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ORIGINAL: abandonedpup


quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

At op

perhaps I am wrong...but are you sure what you look for..and what you like?


What do you mean? Yeah, I know what I'm into.


Because I reread your post a few times..and I had the idea you didn't know. That is why I added "perhaps I am wrong"

because of this part mostly "I may like girls, "

< Message edited by Justme696 -- 5/11/2008 12:37:04 PM >

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 1:18:13 PM   
abandonedpup


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Status: offline 		I meant "I may like girls, but" as in "I'm a lesbian but I as long as it was non sexual I wouldn't have any problem having a male owner"

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RE: Is it even worth trying...? - 5/11/2008 1:23:24 PM   
mstrj69


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Status: offline 		http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/organizations6.html#index  Have you tried this yet?  I believe there are 3 groups in Omaha.

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