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RE: Fighting/Restisting - 5/13/2004 12:04:39 AM

MistressSteele

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I was wondering if anyone else fights or restists submitting. I do not do it on porpurse but i do it. I on a norm do not even relise i am doing it till it is brought to my attetion. Even then i try not too and i am still doing it. Does anyone else have this problem?

I did take a leave of absence from the sceen for personal reasons. But is there a solution to me not fighting?

About six years ago I met a very Experienced Dom with an slave. Before I had mainly been Dominant but his "Presence" drew me in. Even though I had never submitted to anyone really before, I wanted him badly. Also I had deep need to understand the other side of the whip. I literally endured scenes to please him. I never seemed to know when to be quiet and when to speak. The whole time my body would be tensed and my mind constantly being my worst enemy. My mind would be constantly asking why on Earth am I doing this. Then a year into seeing him, we were at a play party. A fire was burning in the fireplace and made me lean against the mantle and began a intense flogging scene. I can literally say he broke me Because the harder he hit me, the more my mind chattered until the pain was stronger than my thoughts. I could feel myself literally giving in. My mind had become quiet and he could have whipped me all night after that. I think he sensed what had happened because for the first time me made me kneel and kiss his boots at the end of the scene. I only had a deep desire to lay at his feet all night.<BR>

Having pride makes it hard to surrender to anyone if you have lived a very independant life. You feel like you must sacrifice it to be your Master's sub. Yes, you will make sacrifices and your life will change but you will feel a new freedom when you surrender. Letting go can be a scary thing.

Just make sure the Dom you choose earns your submission. Be open and honest in your communication with him. Let him guide the way.

Just my .02
Morgan

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RE: Fighting/Restisting - 5/13/2004 12:34:16 PM

Voltare

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Some great ideas here... I'll add that its normal to feel turbulance, frustration, and to end up feeling the need to fight, but by the same token, there should be enough communication involved to determine if the fighting is just natural reactions to trying to change your way of living, or thinking, or if the fighting is the result of some deeper issues or fears. Your Dom or Master is your partner as well, and if you are consistantly struggling with your partner, it only ends up hurting things in the end for both of you. I would recommend that if you focus on growing together as people, rather then training to be a slave, you might fight less and enjoy more.

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