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submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 12:09:19 AM

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I've heard people toss around the term a couple of times before, I just don't get it. Can someone please explain it to me?

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 12:23:32 AM

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I've heard people toss around the term a couple of times before, I just don't get it. Can someone please explain it to me?

She's royal.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 12:26:13 AM

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I've heard people toss around the term a couple of times before, I just don't get it. Can someone please explain it to me?

She's royal.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 12:34:14 AM

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Being submissive and yet wanting to be treated like a pretty, pretty princess...?

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 12:48:40 AM

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"Princess" = Paris Hilton = not very submissive, IMO.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 3:35:28 AM

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I've heard people toss around the term a couple of times before, I just don't get it. Can someone please explain it to me?

She's royal.

You rang?

LMAO!!!

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 4:09:17 AM

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I've heard people toss around the term a couple of times before, I just don't get it. Can someone please explain it to me?

She's royal.

You rang?

LMAO!!!

I decree:
You are allowed to laugh. Now run along and go get Daddy and tell him I need my feet rubbed.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 4:11:49 AM

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as a more serious post to your thread:

what's wrong with being a princess/slut/submissive? he can treat me like a princess, a whore or an equal and it doesn't change the fact that i defer to him out of choice and desire.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 5:03:59 AM

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i'm submissive but i'm treated like royalty with the gifts he bestows upon me

...and i don't have to beg for anything either

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 5:09:33 AM

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It means he cares about her, takes care of her, and treats her well, indulging her occasionally. Think D/lg with a king and a princess. Means service is not a priority in that relationship.

I'm not supposed to carry an overflowing laundry basket up and down stairs. I'm supposed to ask him to help get all the heavy groceries up the steps. He'll make me tea if he gets up before me, he doesn't wake me up an hour earlier than the alarm simply because he couldn't sleep and wanted a cup of tea.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 5:24:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: switch240

I've heard people toss around the term a couple of times before, I just don't get it. Can someone please explain it to me?

She's royal.

You rang?

LMAO!!!

I decree:
You are allowed to laugh. Now run along and go get Daddy and tell him I need my feet rubbed.

*snort*

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 6:31:42 AM

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I think most relationships would be better off if we made commitments to treat eachother like respected royalty. Although just basic respect and consideration would be a great step forward also.

Don't martyr yourself into thinking submission must always be sacrificial, or painful, or pushing limits, or repressing your desires. Many doms find a large amount of pleasure in spoiling their property and treating them like sweet fairy princesses.

It also helps to remember that the concept of spoiling can vary greatly depending on the person and relationship.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 6:39:24 AM

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While I don't think there is a thing wrong with a dominant treating his submissive like a princess, I think the term "submissive princess" is usually used derogatorily to indicate a submissive who EXPECTS to be treated as though it's all about her and having all her wants and desires catered to by a dominant.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 7:21:26 AM

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It also helps to remember that the concept of spoiling can vary greatly depending on the person and relationship.

A point very well made. To a slave who expects objectification, no emotional ties, and no consideration beyond basic needs, a Master who shows a minimal amount of affection and consideration could be seen as spoiling.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 7:37:58 AM

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Speaking as a Dominant Princess, life is good. The whole having to be gracious and all gets wearing, but that's the price you pay!

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 7:45:44 AM

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As is the case with most terms that are used, there's more than one way to interpret it. And, i think it's usually a good policy to ask the person who used it what they mean by it.

It seems to me that Princess Diana was submissive, at least from a distance it seemed so.

It also seems to me that there are probably quite a lot of men who would love nothing better than to have a princess submit to them.

There are many men who want someone who presents herself in a 'proper, ladylike manner' in public (such as a princess would) and are a willing submissive to him in private.

Then again, there are some submissives who expect to be treated like a princess and who feel that their submission is a reward that they give only when they feel they are being treated 'properly'.

There are probably as many different 'types' of submissiveness as there are different 'types' of personalities.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 8:02:14 AM

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For me, it's more about how He makes me feel like a princess. I am so used to taking care of others and their needs that sometimes I overlook my own. He makes sure I take care of myself better and will often make me go and rest while He takes care of things for a bit, even though I would rather do it myself. If I have worked long hours and come home hungry and exhausted, He will insist that I eat and rest, even if that means He prepares the meal. There have been times where I have been planning to something lovely for Him, but in the condition I was in, He told me I could not and that He was going to something lovely for me instead. I feel bad sometimes, because it seems like my workaholic nature puts undue stress on Him, but I think He likes to care for me in this way since He has told me things to that effect.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 8:05:27 AM

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When used in a derogatory sense-it's usually about a woman who wants to call every shot and control everything,and then call some poor guy "master"-because a fantasy makes her wet. But he's more of a slave than anything else.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 8:20:45 AM

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Most that I actually end up in a full relationship with tend to be treated as both a princess and a submissive. Not true with those where only "play" is involved. For me, when I take someone that is submissive by nature as mine, fully, I do everything I can to take care of them. I even have lots or rewards, fun, gifts, kindness and attention to give. They are still submissive to me at the emotional level and that stays fairly constant throughout the relationship. At the same time, I think that the most rewarding relationships are also a partnership, where both parties bring all that they can to support and help each other, the family (if there is one) and the relationship.

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RE: submissive princess? - 5/15/2008 10:18:42 AM

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dressing up like a princess to have Master cut the pretty gown from her body??

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