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Advice - 5/15/2008 2:46:08 PM   
newgsusub


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Status: offline 		I am new to the lifestlye, but i have been searching for a Misstres for about 1 and a half now and im still at the starting position. any advice?
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RE: Advice - 5/15/2008 3:10:01 PM   
YOURSUBFL


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Joined: 9/22/2007
Status: offline 		Don't just look here get out to some clubs in  your area . find some munchs .  get out meet people . good luck too you

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RE: Advice - 5/15/2008 4:01:13 PM   
Madame4a


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From: Washington, DC area
Status: offline 		I think you're female and seeking a Mistress?

If so you might try some all women venues and events.. there are a few a year.. and certainly there are some groups in your area.. your age might be a hindrance...

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RE: Advice - 5/15/2008 4:45:23 PM   
mhawk


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From: Washington
Status: offline 		as Madame4a suggeted check out some women's events that you can get to,within a reasonable distance, especially with summer coming there are lots of events like that, that you can find and if you are close to one see about getting involved in any local groups,if you are up to that. and most importantly i wish you the best in your search.

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RE: Advice - 5/15/2008 4:48:48 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Yep, the age thing is going to hold you back a bit.  The club I attend in Atlanta is generally 21 and up, but that age requirement might be lower for Whipper Snappers.  You might want to check that out.

I've been to it, since the cut off age is 40.  (I'm just under the wire.)    It was more social, than play oriented.  Still, it might be a place for you to start.




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RE: Advice - 5/15/2008 5:24:15 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		I've dated two Dommes in the last twelve months.  I met them both through Alt, but one had a profile on Match.com, and the other had a profile on AmericanSingles.com.  They are both active in their local scene -- one attends events and classes a couple times a month, and the other is on the Board of Directors of a femdom organization.

I mention this because a lot of people are primarily looking for a life partner, with the understanding that BDSM can be negotiated and dealt with, as long as there is general compatibility -- and love -- in the picture.  This doesn't make someone "in the bedroom only" or "fake."

So, fact #1: a "Mistress" is not some came-from-on-high mystical being.  She's a human, with wants and needs -- and she's probably sick of men (and women) bowing down before her long enough for them to get their rocks off and split.  Approach a woman you are attracted to, get across who you are and why you think she is attractive, and see what happens.  Think "how would I talk to her if we were both vanilla?" and, in general, do that.


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RE: Advice - 5/15/2008 10:14:52 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		We're human first and women second. Being Dominant women doesn't make us suddenly unattainable or whatever. Approach us as if we're human...be friendly, strike up a conversation, etc. Even on here...read a profile and find an ice breaker. Something more than, "You're hot!" usually works to get at least one response from me. I'm sure it does for others as well.

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RE: Advice - 5/15/2008 10:18:45 PM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

We're human first and women second. Being Dominant women doesn't make us suddenly unattainable or whatever. Approach us as if we're human...be friendly, strike up a conversation, etc. Even on here...read a profile and find an ice breaker. Something more than, "You're hot!" usually works to get at least one response from me. I'm sure it does for others as well.

Master Fire



This is so true! before collar me all I talked to was Dominant men because that is who I submit to. But being on the forums I have made such great female friends. Many being female Dominants. Guess what they are wonderful women just like the all the other friends in my life. They cry, they laugh, they bleed. they just happen to whip, CBT,cane etc

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RE: Advice - 5/16/2008 5:55:40 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		lucious let me save you from the degrading women on here. Stick to men . We are kinder and gentler. We know how to beat I mean treat our women and anyone elses woman we can steal.

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RE: Advice - 5/16/2008 9:02:23 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

lucious let me save you from the degrading women on here. Stick to men . We are kinder and gentler. We know how to beat I mean treat our women and anyone elses woman we can steal.


Hey!  I saw her first!

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RE: Advice - 5/16/2008 11:46:09 AM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

lucious let me save you from the degrading women on here. Stick to men . We are kinder and gentler. We know how to beat I mean treat our women and anyone elses woman we can steal.


Hey!  I saw her first!



ROFLMAO!


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