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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 7:18:40 PM

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I would suggest that he take you out in public to a local event with a sign around your neck stating that you disrepected him or something along the lines of what you did.

Mike

But I also suggest that you tell him, you did not come up with all of these on your own. I would not allow my boy to ask others for help in this and if he did I would be pissed.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 8:30:44 PM

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The good news is you're already doing one of the top ones- admitting you're with a dom who has no clue how to effect productive behavior training and forcing you to troll online for his dirty work.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 8:31:49 PM

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I would suggest that he take you out in public to a local event with a sign around your neck stating that you disrepected him or something along the lines of what you did.

Mike

To me that's in really bad taste. Punishment is a personal thing and I don't want to have to deal with your negative punishment vibes when I'm out to enjoy a good fun time.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 8:46:16 PM

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LA,

I understand your reasoning behind that and I have to say that I had not looked at from that point of view. So I will change my mind on this one. I have seen it several times before and to me it's no big deal, but I do not want to push my issues on others in public. There is one exception to that for me and that is if the my boy acts up in public, I will punish him then and there if I can. There are things that can be done without drawing too much attention and are very effective. I will say that over the past 14 years I have only had to do that twice as a strong warning goes a long way. But boy's are boy's and sometimes they just get too rambunkish.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/17/2008 1:54:53 AM

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So many people are ragging on her master about making her come up with the punishment, but, for me, that's one of the worst things to do. I don't ever want to go to far, because I'd still have to do it, however, if I go under my Master's pre-set, but unspoken limit, I get four times worse than what He thought of, and He sees me as trying to weasle out. I believe her having to think of a punishment is part of the punishment. ...by the way, Master constantly threatens me with a litterbox, as well as having (mutual, but close) friends see me naked. Sometimes, because, though they know of the lifestyle, if I've gotten in a lot of trouble, Master will punish me in front of them, because I have a decent amount of pride among them.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/17/2008 3:41:46 AM

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then how is making you fear and distrust him supposed to make you more able to accept his rules and decisions?

It doesn't appear to be you who needs to do some deeper thinking, but him.

Fear activates people - this notion has been understood for centuries; fear doesn't equate to distrust.

Basically, he wants something in his armoury that will act as a deterrent - seems fair enough - perhaps an immediate, sharp, to the point response would have been of more value, but giving her more time to think about it has its advantages.

It's not always a case of cajoling women like fuckin' snake charmers..........he's well within his rights to take some satisfaction when she falls short.....if she doesn't like it, then she knows what to do next time 'round.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/17/2008 8:12:04 AM

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Fear activates people - this notion has been understood for centuries; fear doesn't equate to distrust.

It does equal loss of trust for me. I would have thought it obvious that I was speaking from my pov, because that's all any of us can speak from.

And I didn't address making other people uncomfortable or unhappy as part of his kink. After all, what could be more humiliating or degrading then to go visit grandma in the nursing home in a fetish outfit and on all fours? So why not do that? Think that won't make her distrust him? Or more likely walk first?

This whole bit of him refusing to tell her the parameters but threatening not to accept anything she suggests shows him to be unable to motivate her properly. Being a cynic, what it smells like to me is an attempt by him to break her hard limit because it's for punishment. So what she hard limits being whored out? This won't count, because it's not for fun, it's for punishment.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/17/2008 10:08:43 AM

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Fear activates people - this notion has been understood for centuries; fear doesn't equate to distrust.

It does equal loss of trust for me. I would have thought it obvious that I was speaking from my pov, because that's all any of us can speak from.

Based on that which I've quoted in the previous post, it seems to me you were talking of the OP. In the event you weren't, my mistake.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

And I didn't address making other people uncomfortable or unhappy as part of his kink. After all, what could be more humiliating or degrading then to go visit grandma in the nursing home in a fetish outfit and on all fours? So why not do that?

I would have thought there'd have to be something in it for him, and Grandma's involvement wouldn't satisfy this requirement.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Think that won't make her distrust him? Or more likely walk first?

I suppose it depends on their relationship - perhaps they like guessing games and mind fucks - who knows.

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This whole bit of him refusing to tell her the parameters but threatening not to accept anything she suggests shows him to be unable to motivate her properly. Being a cynic, what it smells like to me is an attempt by him to break her hard limit because it's for punishment. So what she hard limits being whored out? This won't count, because it's not for fun, it's for punishment.

I wouldn't jump to that conclusion, although I would say it seems a long way 'round to make a point.

'Hard limit is encroached? - she can walk away, as she could before - there's no change in that regard.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/17/2008 2:07:55 PM

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Three things for you to do..
1. Walk around the block naked except for a collar and cuffs.
2. Be a naked coffee table for the next party he throws for friends.
3. Make a sign and wear it around your neck for 1 week stating your original offense.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/17/2008 2:34:27 PM

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I wonder if any of you Dom's or anyone really out there could help a submissive out. I got into some trouble with my Dom last week which is totally my fault. Anyway I got the beating today. Let me please tell you that I hate wooden paddles. Anyway, now for the second part of the punishment. I have to come up with 3 really humiliating things that I have to do. If he thinks any of them aren't good enough I have to do one thing he comes up with then come up with three new himiliating things I have to do, etc, etc. I'd like to just knock it out and come up with 3 really good humiliating things do them and then move on. Any suggestions?

The punishment would have to fit the "mis-deed" What was the mis-deed?

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/17/2008 7:33:39 PM

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what is humiliating to me, might not be humiliating for you but, i think i asked very similar questions when i first started out in the lifestyle because, i was so unsure of everything............

my humiliation comes from physical things,

not being able to use my hands and only my mouth to eat, drink, and pick things up
not being aloud privacy to use the bathroom
being given an enema or anything involving ass play
being pissed or cum on and made to wear it until told otherwise....

there's more but, that's all i'm giving you....for your own good and mine

~meticulous~

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 5:09:26 AM

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Thanks for all of your replies. We've already done so many humiliating things in private that it's hard to come up with things we haven't done that wouldn't force our lifestyle on other innocent people. But all of these differentthoughts have been a great help.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 5:16:56 AM

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Alrighty now! I have zero idea about what would truely humilate you or not.

Your Dom's way about handling this, is not the way I would deal with things, so am having a difficult relating.

In all honestly, I am confused about why you are the one left to come up with ideas as to how to punish you. My mind feels like the computer from one of the very old Star Trek Episodes. "Does not compute, Does not Compute".

Personally, if you did something and needed to be punished and humilated for it. My focus would be upon humilating for the Specific Offense. This way it would make the ordeal extremely memorable in your mind.

Perhaps, if you focused upon the nature of your offense, in coming up with ideas that might help. What would you do to yourself to make you remember to not screw up again doing it? Make the punishment connect to the offense.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 5:22:45 AM

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I agree with Lady Pact and others on this one... makes no sense to me why something as personal as humiliation coming from someone else would be worthwhile...

I'd also have a big problem with mine coming to a place like this to get the job done.. my point would be for them to think.. but actually...

I wouldn't do that either.. I'd do it myself.. I would not handle this the same way... seems like shirking (how do you spell that) certain responsibilities.. but that's me...

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 8:47:33 AM

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one thing I forced My slaves to do long ago was to make a 10/10 list, ten things they would want for a present for being a good girl or doing something that deserve a reward then ten things that would hate to be givin for bad behavior which was a guide to what I could come up with as a punishment, as we Master have to first know our property and what is bad for one is great for another so the same punishment is not always just for another slave, but this is just to get u thinking as you Master is trying to make u do, and all this replies you have recieve bad, stupid and good, but use them all to assist in ur training and learning of this Lifestyle which will tell u how to do thing, what not to do, and also points out what other that call their selves slave really know about being one or serving as one good luck.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 9:08:39 AM

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one thing I forced My slaves to do long ago was to make a 10/10 list, ten things they would want for a present for being a good girl or doing something that deserve a reward then ten things that would hate to be givin for bad behavior which was a guide to what I could come up with as a punishment, as we Master have to first know our property

Master Greg
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Assuming she knows herself inside out, you're onto something........assuming she doesn't, the list is of limited value....

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 9:21:17 AM

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I think you have a good point but I don't think it would matter to my Dom or I wouldn't have done it. Eveyone's different.

What is his e-mail? We can all ask him if it matters to him.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 9:56:58 AM

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NOT defending or siding with anyone, just my two cents.. Maybe asking in public/forums here is part of her punishment.

Like to know what it was so I don't do it. Heck, I may have already done it..

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 10:20:32 AM

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NOT defending or siding with anyone, just my two cents.. Maybe asking in public/forums here is part of her punishment.

Good point, I never thought of that.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/18/2008 12:53:17 PM

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I enjoy light humiliation but not when it gets embarrassing in public. Thanks for your thoughts.

If you enjoy it, will it not defeat the point of punishment, or is this whole thread some kind of game?

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