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Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 8:37:43 AM

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A question for the switch, as I feel only a switch may know the answer to this question ;

Which for you in your switch is the easiest role to take on , submissive ? dominant ?

And why ?

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 8:46:21 AM

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it depends on the person i'm interacting with.

dominant gives me a such a head rush and i love the feeling of having someone both vulnerable to me as well as wanting to be vulnerable to me.

there is also something very comforting to being dominanted.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 9:03:51 AM

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I agree with fluffyswitch, for me it really depends on who, when and where. There is no easy recipe in my book,different people bring out different parts of me; very special people bring out more than one part!!! And if the rubgy/football is on then they'd better be special if they think I am going to shift my backside on their command!!

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 10:27:10 AM

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If I had my choice I would be a full time slave. I am very happy with my Master and our relationship has given me fulfillment like I've never known before.

However, He has asked me to continue to be an online only Domme. I do enjoy being able to give advice and to help people. (I have always been more of a Teacher or Mommy Domme as opposed to a sadist - don't flame me - I know you can be both!) Someone today wrote to me to thank my Master for having me continue in this capacity because they felt like I helped them. That made me feel great.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 11:49:59 AM

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What's easiest for me? Being me.

I'm apparently one of those rare forms of switch that can switch easily and often within one relationship, and easily at any given time. To be perfectly honest, I'm both at all times. It's a constant double presence in my head and something I've learned over time to deal with rather well, and handle without confusing myself too much.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 12:16:54 PM

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quote:

I'm apparently one of those rare forms of switch that can switch easily and often within one relationship, and easily at any given time.

I also always switch within the same relationship. My partners have always had more trouble switching. My current partner is a terrible sub, but a pretty good top, so that is easier. I hope to teach her to be a better sub sooner or later.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 12:35:38 PM

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Could turn out that she's not a switch...

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/17/2008 3:10:55 PM

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For me I do not describe it as a role- it is like being a bisexual, or being a slave. It is who I am, I just happen to be oriented in BOTH authority dynamics.

So one is not easier than the other any more than it's easier to be turned on by a woman than it is a man. LIke most people I have plus and minus areas towards one and not the other but overall, it's just who I am.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/18/2008 6:07:51 PM

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I also agree that it depends who I am interacting with. I never switch with Daddy, that is and always will be Master/slave. I love sinking into the fluffy cloud of submission with Him. It feels so natural. However, I top our female playmates though and that dynamic is hot. It gives me a charge and makes Him proud at what He has taught me.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/18/2008 6:26:28 PM

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i second third and 4th etc etc all the above it is all about who your doing the exchange with and the energy not the role . I shall say this for me it is very tough when i have been Topped or me as a bottom submisive role to just pop out and Top another on a dime.Or even in the same night , though the reverse is not true i can Top first and bottom sub after . Perhaps i just slam too hard .

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/18/2008 10:37:14 PM

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I get a deeper and longer lasting satisfaction from being dominant. However, when I am dominant it takes so much more effort and concentration that being submissive is easier.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/19/2008 5:01:18 AM

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yehp like everyone else was saying- Its all about who, what, when, and where. I find myself easier to fall into a submissive role, but at times I have Dominant impulses. My Dominant never switches so I am 95 percent submissive lately I suppose.. The other 5 percent is in hiding with a whip waiting for permission to come out and use it lol.. I enjoy both roles equally but I can give up my Dominance for someone I love. Not a big deal- of course I think for me with my dominant tendancies I do find myself being a brattier submissive then most others. I need to be put into my submissive place more often.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/19/2008 2:05:36 PM

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i think it also depends on the energy that i'm getting from my partner whatever role that they take. i've had dominants who have brought out my dominant aspects faster than any submissive i've been around. i'm not sure if i'm picking up on their energy (though generally just their carelessness) or if there's something in me that wants to one up them. i dislike being ignored for example. it almost always makes me want to play the dominant, regardless of who is doing the ignoring. it's a good thing that Sir communicates mostly online with me when we can't be together or there would be issues lol.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 5/19/2008 2:16:40 PM

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For me it also depends who i'm with. It's easier and a little more comfortable for me to be submissive but i can top in a heartbeat with the right person.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/5/2008 3:31:46 AM

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Like most people have mentioned, it really depends whom it is with. It's all about attitude and how one presents themselves. I had a conversation with a friend about how much I enjoy Topping someone. I relish in the control that is offered to me, and the trust that they give me in knowing that I will care for them. However, when watching the 2nd Matrix (in theaters), I would've gotten on my knees right there in the theater had Monica Bellucci asked. That dress, those heels, that attitude certainly trumps any mental/emotional predisposition that I have. Same thing happens to people I meet on an every day basis. Even though it's vanilla, and I can interact with them without mentioning my S&M side, I can almost always imagine looking down at them while they are on their hands and knees for me, or myself, quietly kneeling at their feet. It all depends on attitude, in my opinion anyway.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/5/2008 2:47:09 PM

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Well, the OP falls into the all too common misconception that it has to be one or the other. I am dominant. I am submissive. I can be strong, aggressive, and commanding while still keeping in my place as a submissive. I can be tender, nurturing, and attentive to the needs of my partner while still being the one in charge. (Obviously, these are only my concepts of what it is to be submissive and dominant, not anybody else's). I suppose for the way my life is going right now, it is more difficult for me to let someone else take the reigns. The work I do with IHSS uses up most of my capacity for submission, and when I'm on my own time I have no real desire to remain subservient. Thankfully, my wife tends to deal with stress by going into a more submissive/passive role, so there's no real conflict between us. Then again, if she did turn to dominance for release, I might very well be habitually taking up the submissive role. Over the last dozen or so years, we have become very accustomed to each other. Still, to me, its all just roleplaying. Give me five minutes to get into character, and I can be just about anything my partner wants. How it becomes a way of life is what I take with me once the scene is done.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/5/2008 8:07:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin

A question for the switch, as I feel only a switch may know the answer to this question ;

Which for you in your switch is the easiest role to take on , submissive ? dominant ?

And why ?

Yes. To both.

Because I'm wired that way.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/6/2008 5:55:01 AM

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I have just created this new profile as my previous one was as a submissive. A few years ago I was submissive, but now I do not feel an ounce of submissiveness. I am not sure what would happen if a dominant came into my life, if it will return and the submissiveness has just become doormant due to lack of interaction. I am not a dominant, and the listing is limited, ie. if you are not a submissive, slave or dominant then switch is what is left. Whether or not I am a switch is something I am also unsure of, I occasionally have desires to dominate someone,( but I am not sure if I would be any good at it) and I remember with much pleasure the experience of submitting and the extreme pleasure I derived from it.

I am not sure what I am trying to say as I have confused myself now....

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/6/2008 3:39:59 PM

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I fall more comfortably into a submissive role, but I've still got the sadistic streak. I played with a dominant who had a masochist side, and that was bliss, I got to hurt him, and he got to tell me to do it.

That's not to say I don't enjoy being purely the dominant one, just that it's a different sensation and a "harder" (read more unfamiliar) role to me.

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RE: Which is easiest ? - 6/6/2008 10:51:41 PM

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As this is my first time here and being new to the world of BDSM how can i tell if i am a switch or a dom or sub? I would like to hear from every one if you would be so kind. Thank You.

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