BlueDevil
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Joined: 10/6/2005 Status: offline
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I think the 'The your not my Dom syndrome' is as prevalent as the 'rude assshole syndrome'. Some of us were raised to call everyone 'Sir' or 'Ma'am'. Some of us weren't. Some of us are polite to everyone. Some are only polite to people that they know. Some people show respect to everyone, some only show respect to people that they know and feel respect for. I think you can show someone respect without respecting them for who they are. I have customers, so, I know that to be true, for me. But, I don't expect everyone to see things as I do, or behave the way that I do. 'Sir' is used in play and to show submission by some and for that reason we may see less of it in polite conversation than some of us might like. I like to be called 'Sir' when I'm dominating a girl, I will not allow anyone to address me as 'Master' unless they are my collared slave, and I call people 'Sir' or 'Ma'am' without assigning them dominance. But, I can understand why some submissives may have learned that calling people 'Sir' or 'Ma'am' has caused those people to assume dominance when submission wasn't offered, and, for that reason, have stopped doing it. Some girls have called a dominant 'Sir' to be polite and have been told to 'get on your knees bitch' (albeit probably in a chatroom). I can understand it if they're a little gun shy. Then we have to consider how a submissive or slave has been trained, or intructed to behave. There are posts that mention 'poaching'. Some dominants may tell their submissives to refrain from using any honorifics online in order to discourage misunderstandings. And reduce the number of uninvited solicitations. I don't assume authority, or make demands of people that aren't subordinate to me. I agree with Desert Rat. If I don't like someone's manner, I just don't bother with them. But, even then, I try not to judge them. There is no telling what asshole they spoke to last.
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