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PsyVamp -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (5/31/2008 5:58:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: everhope no one mentioned HPV.there are more than 100 types of HPV. most strains are harmless to a healthy immune system.certain strains can cause abnormal cells in the lining of the cervix that may turn into cancer. . there is no blood test to find out if you have been infected...some cause genital warts. most strains have no symptoms. men can carry HPV also without symptoms. the only way to find out is with an irregular pap smear. common treatment of an abnormal papsmear is the freezing of the cervix to stop any further abnormal cell growth. estimates by CDC are 50% of sexually active people will catch HPV during their lifetime. smart sex is good....there are risks in everything we do....i don't want to stop enjoying my life because of fear i may contract something....i'll just stay smart about it. personally, i test every year, but then i am also in profession where i am exposed constantly to blood, urine and feces. i have been vaccinated against HepB and i include HepC in my yearly blood tests. educate yourself that is your best defense. Glad you said this. Women can get tested for HPV because they can scrape for cells. As of now, there is no accurate test for men so any strain of HPV that is symptomless can go unnoticed in the male. Not every STD will show up in a test (see above) I do require a clean medical history before being fluid bonded (and I am poly even though I only have one partner at the time). I also get tested twice a year because like some others already stated, I can only fully guaranty that I know who I am "sleeping with". Play safe, Lady Jag

Ozzfan1317 -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (5/31/2008 2:31:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MladyHathor *IMHO Yes its reasonable and NO I would not enter into a relationship where someone refused.* I agree 100 % although I havent had many partners. That doesnt guarantee there isnt something I might not know about and I would happily get tested.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (5/31/2008 3:05:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tormentedtears Okay... call me ignorant... but what of all the online Doms with gang bang fantasies? What of their subs/slaves? I've thought recently about that... although i'd enjoy the fantasy, what happens in reality? TT in my reality everyone is tested...typically the easiest way, is to find a local secular poly group that is willing. many highly organised poly groups do frequent testing and keep very good records. the other thing that works for gang bangs is the obvious ....condoms. and one person is usually appointed to to be watch guard, and his or her job is to make sure everyones raincoats are on... the other group that gets tested frequently are porn actors...i would think this would be a good option if you had friends in the indusrty or had a lot of cash

crouchingtigress -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (5/31/2008 3:08:35 PM)
ooops i forgot to give my answer....yes test results are required for full fluid bonding....i put kissing in my personal acceptable risk catagory...but beyond that yep testing.

born2ride -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (6/2/2008 6:46:36 PM)
As I had mentioned in another posting I am under consideration by a wonderful man, and we do not live in the same cities. I have His permission to have vanilla sex, always using protection of course...which I provide, so there is no excuse...We have discused this issue, it flowed naturally from His enquiry about if I practiced safe sex...I told Master that when my new medical coverage starts, about the begining of Aug I think, I was going in to be tested for everything, so I could send Him the results...He was most pleased by this statement on my part, and said He would do the same thing. I also informed Master of my plan for monthly testing until such time as we are able to live together. I feel that it is the only intelligent way to behave, as even the standard barrier methods are not 100% certain, look how many babies came along even though condoms were used, lol...I also had a terrible scare, when data was published that HIV could have a 12 YEAR incubation, as I had blood transfusions in 1983, 2 years before they started HIV testing on blood donors...so I was at threat of having the disease. I was lucky enough to not get it, but I still have never become complacent about it, and as I was a Navy wife for many years, it is entirely possible that my then husband brought me home other presents from overseas besides the ones he handed me...Master is very wise, and we do desire to fluid bond, once we are able to live together, which should be in about a year or so...

MzMia -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (6/2/2008 6:55:05 PM)
I am so glad to see so many in this lifestyle share and give examples of how they live responsibly. In this day and age, I am surprised at how rarely I see this topic addressed. I have noticed it seems easier for many to talk about kinky BDSM and so much harder to talk about taking measures to protect themselves and others. What's up with that?[;)]

aleshaDreams -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (6/2/2008 8:42:05 PM)
sublibrarian just to let you know that hepatitis is not only transfered through semen, it can also be contacted orally aka kissing. Hep C could and has the ability to kill and can be transfered orally, so condoms do not protect against Hep or HIV, they are exclusively not genital transfers. Just fyi , not meant to offend.

pinksugarsub -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (6/2/2008 9:14:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia After reading the thread about "How do you find out?", I decided to start a similar one. I have not been in a serious or sexual relationship for a LONG time. That said {or admitted}[;)], I have decided that prior to entering a serious relationship, AND before any bodily fluids or sexual activities take place, I want BOTH of us to be tested for any sexually transmitted diseases. We can then share and exchange the results with each other. Of course I realize that certain diseases have a latency period, but recent and current testing is about the best that anyone can do. I would hope that my partner would be honest and forthright about his medical condition, but I think it is only fair for both of us to have recent testing and share the results. Does anyone else operate this way? I think it is also prudent and wise for a submissive to request this of a Dominant. Requesting current testing should be fair to request on both sides of the kneel. Would you still enter into a serious/sexual relationship with someone that REFUSED to obtain current up to date test results? { I don't want to see results from last year or 4 years ago} Idea's and comments welcome. MzMia, i know Yr right about this...but i cannot see myself asking for this protocol before exchanging bodily fluids with Someone i cared about. i'm older, and i think it affects my thinking; logically i know my age group is amoung the fastest growing group of newly-diagnosised HIV positive people, but emotionally i grew up in a time when all we really worried about was pregnancy...and we had the pill. i struggle with the use of condomns, particularly since i've had lovers with ED....asking Them to use a condomn would probably end any chance at all for physical intimacy. i think this is a question or set of issues that i should ponder more...meantime i'm celibate with no plans to change that any time soon, so i guess i've allowed it to be ignored. Thanks for a great Op. pinksugarsub

leakylee -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (6/2/2008 10:00:25 PM)
Mz Mia, what a wonderful topic!! i know that i get tested yearly. i also insist on safe sex. i have eversince i was about 17. i also ask about testing, the odd thing is down here, FL, if you get tested at your docs you dont get any paper stating you are clean. of course i havent asked for it either. i know for myself that before i ever dreamed of skin on skin i would request a minimum of 6 months and fresh testing. even then i dont know if i would get that brave. dont forget that it is possible to get vaccinated for Hep A and B. a recent false positive screw up at the lab is prompting me to seriously consider it. that was 3 weeks of very interesting stress..hehe.. smooches lee

persephonee -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (6/3/2008 6:16:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia After reading the thread about "How do you find out?", I decided to start a similar one. I have not been in a serious or sexual relationship for a LONG time. That said {or admitted}[;)], I have decided that prior to entering a serious relationship, AND before any bodily fluids or sexual activities take place, I want BOTH of us to be tested for any sexually transmitted diseases. We can then share and exchange the results with each other. Of course I realize that certain diseases have a latency period, but recent and current testing is about the best that anyone can do. I would hope that my partner would be honest and forthright about his medical condition, but I think it is only fair for both of us to have recent testing and share the results. Does anyone else operate this way? I think it is also prudent and wise for a submissive to request this of a Dominant. Requesting current testing should be fair to request on both sides of the kneel. Would you still enter into a serious/sexual relationship with someone that REFUSED to obtain current up to date test results? { I don't want to see results from last year or 4 years ago} Idea's and comments welcome. MzMia, i know Yr right about this...but i cannot see myself asking for this protocol before exchanging bodily fluids with Someone i cared about. i'm older, and i think it affects my thinking; logically i know my age group is amoung the fastest growing group of newly-diagnosised HIV positive people, but emotionally i grew up in a time when all we really worried about was pregnancy...and we had the pill. i struggle with the use of condomns, particularly since i've had lovers with ED....asking Them to use a condomn would probably end any chance at all for physical intimacy. i think this is a question or set of issues that i should ponder more...meantime i'm celibate with no plans to change that any time soon, so i guess i've allowed it to be ignored. Thanks for a great Op. pinksugarsub female condoms may be of value in this case...annoying little suckers but it may help.

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