HarryVanWinkle
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ORIGINAL: Skully7000 I'm sure this has been asked many many times but I couldn't figure out what terms to search nor could i find it by skimming the questions. and I guess its a 2 parter, 1) do you find yourself switching with one partner, or do you find that once you get to know someone and figure out who is the dom and who is the sub,the relationship dynamic is pretty set, some relationships you are the dom some you are the sub. 2) If you switch with one person, do you find it is a real D/s dynamic or does it fall more into the topping/bottoming category? Or Other? Cheers Skully I've tried switching with my submissive a few times, but it really hasn't worked for me. I think it's a matter of motivation. When she's tried topping me, she's done it as a way of serving me. But, I don't want to be served by a top, I want her to do it for fun. For HER fun. If she has a lot of fun, I will too, even if she's doing things I don't like, such as nipple torture. With a good sadistic top, I feed off of her energy, then feed her back with mine. The scene becomes sort of a feedback loop and it sends me to the moon. But, if the one topping is doing it for my pleasure more than for hers, it just doesn't work. I think I could switch with another switch, if she had a wide sadistic streak to go with her inner masochist. But, I don't know that for sure, as I've never had the opportunity.
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