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new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 5:22:52 AM   
Xuse


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Status: offline 		im an 18 year old boy thats brand new in the lifestyle im really looking for advice such as other sites books other things as well as anything else you may think i would find helpful im just trying to see what i like what and what i dont like so anything really is helpful
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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 6:44:29 AM   
DarkSteven


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This site is pretty good.  I also like Literotica's BDSM Discussion forum.

As far as books go, I'd suggest Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns and SM 101.


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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 7:07:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		One excellent resource is the Greenery Press series of books. 

www.greenerypress.com

[conflict of interest warning] They do publish all of my books that are in print now.

Another resource is to check out the organizations in your area.  Unfortunately, some are 21+ but others allow 18 year olds.  You can learn techniques and also interact with people who share your interests.  Just try Googling (BDSM and a few descriptions of your area)  ie south florida miami palm beach etc

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 9:06:06 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Check out the books in my signature. Those are a decent place to start. As for the rest, ask questions...it's hard to just give open-ended advice!

You might also google TNG (The Next Generation) and see if there's a chapter in your area. That group is for 18-35 (or 39 depending).

Master Fire

< Message edited by MasterFireMaam -- 6/2/2008 9:07:24 AM >

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 9:44:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think some of the TNG groups are 21 and over. check yahoo groups.

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 2:03:22 PM   
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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 2:44:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		get yourself to some local meetings and munches and follow your natural social instincts ... If you feel drawn to someone and you can turst them .. strike up and conversation and a friendship ... there is no magical mystery to entering into things ... just find people who you think "Yeah, I value what you ahve to say" .. and listen to them until you feel safe and confdent to listen to yourself .. be that 3 weeks or 8 years

and have fun ... remember .. life is .. well .. supposed to be fun

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 4:05:52 PM   
antipode


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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 7:22:45 PM   
caramoanam


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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

My favorite of all time is: http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html


i really think this site is quite nice and informative. Thank you for posting it!

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 7:38:18 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		It's really the best written I have found. TY!!!

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 9:36:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Xuse

im an 18 year old boy thats brand new in the lifestyle im really looking for advice such as other sites books other things as well as anything else you may think i would find helpful im just trying to see what i like what and what i dont like so anything really is helpful


Yr at a great age; on the very threshold of adulthood.  Don't get too caught up in D/s to the point where You forget, it's time to decide whether to go to college or what kind of job You think You might like; where You want to live; what sorts of personalty traits You like/love/hate in a partner; and so forth.  Try to exercise some caution; don't drink until Yr 21; don't get arrested for anything, don't forget to use condomns.  This is a very special time in Yr life and while the future may seem limitless now, in actual fact Yr options and life will soon be shaped by Yr own choices and by forces outside Yr control.
 
Have a blast...You'll never be this beautiful, this eager, this open, this excited ever again.  Each stage of life has it's rewards but, o, i have such lovely memories of being 18.  Best wishes.
 
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RE: new kid on the block - 6/2/2008 11:02:44 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: LadyLynx

I think some of the TNG groups are 21 and over. check yahoo groups.


None of the chapters I know are...in fact, they were created speficically for18+ because other groups didn't want the 18-20 year olds. The age was up to 35 in the beginning (most are now up to 39, I heard) so that experienced people would be available to teach the newcomers.

But, I could totally be wrong!

Master Fire


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RE: new kid on the block - 6/3/2008 4:41:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

One excellent resource is the Greenery Press series of books. 

www.greenerypress.com

[conflict of interest warning] They do publish all of my books that are in print now.



I have NO conflict of interest in advising ANYONE young or old just finding their way in this lifestyle to pick up a copy of John's "Loving Dominant" book.


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RE: new kid on the block - 6/3/2008 7:08:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

My favorite of all time is: http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html


While Steel-door is better than CastleRealm, I dislike the site immensely.  2/3 of the writing is about how fake everyone else is and presents a very "one true way" to do bdsm face. 

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/3/2008 2:13:32 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Of course, there are always differing opinions.

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/3/2008 11:37:56 PM   
Xuse


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Status: offline 		wow i havent look at this since i made it and all i can say is thanks to everyone for the suport iv only been atively looking around in the lifestyle for about a week or to now and well im impressed not just by the people that have posted here but by everyone that i have come in contact with has been super nice but now that a know a little more about what i like the bigest issue im haveing is my porn libary i can find anyfull leanght full sound color vids of any bdsm thats not an dom girl and a sub girl getting wiped any free sites with males with dom AND sub roles would be helpful that and the other thing is i still have gult about the way i feel like theres something wrong with it i keep trying to hide the websites im looking at or the things im typeing i guess thats where time comes in

o and chatrooms can never know to meany of them thanks guys and gals

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RE: new kid on the block - 6/4/2008 12:19:25 PM   
JohnWarren


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

One excellent resource is the Greenery Press series of books. 

www.greenerypress.com

[conflict of interest warning] They do publish all of my books that are in print now.



I have NO conflict of interest in advising ANYONE young or old just finding their way in this lifestyle to pick up a copy of John's "Loving Dominant" book.



Thank you [bow]

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